Being able to choose one's family can be an immense blessing. That includes choosing who is not. May you have a peaceful holiday.

Does Corky guard the stove while you're cooking?

Paolo wrote: Mon Dec 26, 2016 8:45 am Does Corky guard the stove while you're cooking?

No he is wise enough to stay in his bedroom while I am cooking. I think he is afraid of potential grease fires. He does come running when the food is plated.

Corky and I had a lovely walk and lovely breakfast. Luckily the phone never rang and we were left in peace. A nice peaceful Christmas morning. Soon to be asleep for work tonight. I am sure I was discussed by the family. Luckily me ears were not burning but it burnt a little bit when I peed.

Yes work has been fun of late. We were needing a houseman to do janitorial tasks and fulfill guest requests. This young man came in and applied and since he presented himself so well I alerted the human resources manager that he might want to meet him. After two people had interviewed him they decided to hire him. Once he was hired the reign of terror began.

Talk about your anger issues and delusions this young man was the poster person for out of control. I would request he do something and he felt I was acting like his supervisor and micro managing his work. He was new but what we had suggested was wrong. He was going to do everything his way and he felt he was better at speaking with the guests. He would say really random things and inappropriate comments for which I would need to apologize.

On his breaks he would walk across the street to the convenience store and complain about me. I was an asshole he wished "I would die". They would fearfully share this with me since he was possibly dangerous to them. They did not want him coming back after them. He was a frightening young man.

Sorry you are having to deal with this! Hope it works out ok!

Been there, done that.

You have my sympathies.

Looks like it's time to set him up and get rid of him.

He was dismissed and of course he did nothing wrong. It was everyone else's fault for the way we talked to him. I had warned my manager of the violent aggression he claimed when he was terminated from other jobs. I also shared the violent behavior that he claimed he committed as a juvenile. Still in his probationary period he felt my direct supervisor and others should be fired and again he did nothing wrong.

When he left the meeting room he looked to have quite a rage building. Luckily upon seeing two police officers he was able to reel it in before he exploded. They escorted him to his locker for his belongings and then walked him outside the building to his car. They reinforced that he was no longer allowed on property. We have been instructed to call our friends at 911 if he does show up.

Having lived with this level of anger, threats and abuse I am taking it in stride but I see how negative it is for others. Many of the good folks have never been threatened or dealt with anger. I was mostly tired of debating everything I asked him to do for a guest or the hotel in general. I will feel more at ease when working night shift and he will no longer be there. Talking and working with him was like walking on eggs, Faberge of course.

Sadly this has been his employment pattern and if he does not receive help he will struggle all his life.

OK, after reading everything I have to ask... He's apparently horrible. That being the case, why did you tell HR they may like to meet him? I get the impression reading your two messages that his reputation preceded him.

Losethem (imported) wrote: Sun Jan 22, 2017 12:44 pm OK, after reading everything I have to ask... He's apparently horrible. That being the case, why did you tell HR they may like to meet him? I get the impression reading your two messages that his reputation preceded him.

He was an unknown when he first came in to apply but presented himself well. After he was hired his behaviors and performance began to decline. As I worked with him he began to disclose his previous actions regarding his behaviors at terminations. Many can act like they have it together for a few weeks but eventually the damaged personality reveals itself.