wannabe- (imported) wrote: Sun Oct 06, 2024 5:36 pm Thank you wheelyfixed for your response

I don’t think you understand fully the subject matter , are you qualified in any area of psychology or sexual issues ,

There are men who simply want to be eunuchs , they do not identify with being feminine in any way , I would never see my self as having an gender identity issue .

I see myself as quiet quiet normal , I love my penis but want the calmness of being a eunuch , as an adult with a desire to have the procedure , it’s such a pity that the service is not available to people like me . It’s about having control over our bodies just like some women want control over their bodies in abortion cases .

thank you anyway for your opinion although I found it presumptive and unhelpful

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Fri Oct 04, 2024 5:44 am Justme, it wasn't that there was little sex in my marriage. My wife had sex with me. Frequently. 4-5 times a week. But it wasn't like either of us really enjoyed it either. She was uncomfortable, sometimes I would hit it the wrong way and she would flench. Sometimes she would complain of pain afterward. I Love that woman! I hated myself for doing that to her. After she was diagnosed with a uterine prolapse, and I understood it really was something physical, not just in her mind, I tried to cut back to once a week. Usually I couldn't make it past 4-5 days. She handled that well. Give her some time to recover I guess. I didn't I became really nasty, short, mean.

Now, by this time I had been talking for some time of getting castrated. I reached out to an understanding surgeon a couple years back. All she required was an ok from a mental health professional and a pre-op ok from a Dr. Her office referred me to an understanding mental health Dr. After talking with the surgeon, she didn't think I would have a problem getting a letter, and we set a surgery date in June of 2023.

The psychiatrist was very understanding. Had helped many men in my situation. He was willing to write the letter, but suggested that my wife and I get checked out for physical problems first. I went to the Dr. First. A couple health issues were found that I needed to address before I considered surgery. I canceled the date. It was harder to get my wife to the Dr. But a burst ovarian cyst finally talked her into going in this past spring. And I've told you what she found then.

Now my wife was always hesitant about me getting cut, but when I brought it back up at the end of June, both of us were tired of what the limited sex was doing to me, she said go for it. She didn't see another option. I set the wheels back in motion, and on August 28th I was castrated. She took a week off from work to nurse me through recovery. By the time she went back to work results were already noticeable. She loves on me a lot more now. She says I'm easier to love. I think its because she knows I won't need sex. We've been having sex once a week. I'm not a beast in between. I think as a woman she still likes to know that she's desirable. I don't know how long I can keep that up, but I would be ok now without it. She says she would be too.

Now with us, it was Love at first sight. For the last 26 years we have absolutely adored one another. Without a doubt we are soul mates. Back in June she told me I was making her life hell. That's when we made some decisions and took some steps. Last week she confided in me that she had been considering leaving to try to shock me into change. That would have decimated me. Even if she had come back, and she would have, she loves me, I would have never recovered from that. Now we are so happy. Things are better than they have been for years.

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Sun Oct 06, 2024 5:07 pm Wheely, I've been taking gabapentin for over a year now for neuropothy in my feet. It got terrible after I got my sugar under control. Doc said that improves for most people, but it seems I wasn't one of the lucky ones. The soles of my feet hurt so bad that I truly hated to walk. It would hurt so bad that it would hurt up to my knees. The main side effect I've had is that I can tolerate the pain in my feet. Now, if I have a little brain fog, that doesn't bother me near as bad as my feet did. My cousin told me about the lyrica. I may ask about it. But for right now, well, with gabapentin is better than without.

wannabe- (imported) wrote: Sun Oct 06, 2024 5:36 pm Thank you wheelyfixed for your response

I don’t think you understand fully the subject matter , are you qualified in any area of psychology or sexual issues ,

There are men who simply want to be eunuchs , they do not identify with being feminine in any way , I would never see my self as having an gender identity issue .

I see myself as quiet quiet normal , I love my penis but want the calmness of being a eunuch , as an adult with a desire to have the procedure , it’s such a pity that the service is not available to people like me . It’s about having control over our bodies just like some women want control over their bodies in abortion cases .

thank you anyway for your opinion although I found it presumptive and unhelpful