Sandi,

I'm not sure there's anyone specific answer. I believe I'm a sane rational male, but castration became my obsession. I wasn't satisfied until I was castrated. As a castrated male, I've certainly changed mentally and physically. I do think about having my penis removed, but it's not as compelling as my castration desire. I think we can postulate that:

1 - Some males are confused about their sexual identity and this confusion might lead them to reject their male genitals.

2 - Some males are true transsexuals and they struggle with it for years before finally coming out. This might also cause them to reject their male genitalia to the point that they cut them off.

3 - Some males have a fetish fantasy of having their penises/testicles removed. This might be the result of some childhood trauma or some childhood experience that caused these thoughts to occur. When I was a young boy one of my Aunts told me a story about a boy who lost his penis. I can't remember much more then that, but it scared/scarred me.

4 - Freud states that young boys are often afraid of their fathers and afraid that their fathers would cut off their penises. Maybe this fear caused them to reject their penises.

5 - I personally believe that testosterone itself might push a sexually frustrated male to take action against his genitals. Torturing one's genitals brings on a sadistic sexual satisfaction. Women cannot understand how men are constantly pressured to find sexual satisfaction. Men think about sex every seven minutes.

You husband might have developed his penectomy fantasy as the result of one of these issues.

Hash (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 14, 2011 3:19 am 5 - I personally believe that testosterone itself might push a sexually frustrated male to take action against his genitals. Torturing one's genitals brings on a sadistic sexual satisfaction. Women cannot understand how men are constantly pressured to find sexual satisfaction. Men think about sex every seven minutes.

You husband might have developed his penectomy fantasy as the result of one of these issues.

I think I can safely say that Tim thinks about sex only once a day, for 24 hours.

I don't think he has any hatred toward his genitals, and I don't think he really wants to spend the rest of his life without his penis. In fact, I'm sure he would hate that. We have a very healthy sex life, and the best sex is after we play our games. He would, though, love to experience the excitement of watching me cut it off for my own amusement while he's tied up and struggling, trying to stop me but helpless to do so. He also seems to like it when I tie him up and tease him sexually without giving him relief, and I suppose taking his penis would be the ultimate version of that game. The down side is that it could be done only once.

Sandi

It is just a classic fetish -- obsession with something in a sexual way. Like who can explain why some guys have fetishes for feet, etc.? There was one guy on here for a while who's fetish had to have the woman with rolled up sleeves (this was a key detail for him to have sexual enjoyment).

The problem with fetishes, as you seem to have realized, is that the sexualization masks the reality. Like I was reading recently about a guy who fantasized constantly about licking women's anuses but when he got a chance he couldn't stand the smell. I have the same problem with masochism -- before I do it I think it will be wonderful to have a woman skewer my testicles with needles, I'll obsess about it for days until I actually call up a girl to do it, and then after I get it done, and am bleeding and hurting it seems like it was a really stupid idea. And yet within a few days I get some obsession to do it again.

So in your husband's case I would say it would indeed be a mistake to go through with it.

I think ultimately this is a common problem with humans -- we abstract reality. It's like our political views, etc., they are all about some ideal rather than what's really going on. So we idealize various sex acts, when in reality sex is rather imperfect. We tend to block out the fact that we're sharing bodily fluids, making ourselves vulnerable to emotional turmoil, risking disease and unwanted pregnancies, etc. just to get a quick thrill.

Anyway, my point is that there is no "why" about it. It is simply a fetish, which is as inexplicable as any other reason we want to shoot body fluids on each other.

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SplitDik (imported) wrote: Fri Sep 16, 2011 11:03 am Anyway, my point is that there is no "why" about it. It is simply a fetish, which is as inexplicable as any other reason we want to shoot body fluids on each other.

Thanks. After some long conversations with Tim, I'm more or less coming to the same conclusion. He told me of a lot of things that contributed to his interest, but in the end he said not to try too hard to understand him. He's just glad that I accept him. And I do. Also, regarding our playtime, he made the comment, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." In other words, he's happy with what we've been doing, and he sees no compelling reason to spice things up with new adventures. That actually came a something of a relief to me.

Sandi

moi621 (imported) wrote: Wed Aug 03, 2011 9:23 pm I asked the question before. Isn't it PC for us to be more culturally tolerant of the ways

of Asian ladies?

I suppose you're being sarcastic judging by the smilie at the end of your post but I will answer this seriously.

As IEunuch pointed out, then we would also have to accept “honour killings”. Then of course there’s the practice of female genital mutilation we’d have to bring in too, among other things. It’s bad enough that we still allow, and almost embrace, the circumcision of infant males for religious reasons, and even for the asinine logic of personal hygiene. I suppose that’s because it’s not been conclusively determined that it adversely affects sexual function. But let’s not go any further on that tangent.

Our society does not tolerate vigilantism. Yes, we do celebrate it in our fiction, think superheroes and movies where the victim solves the crime before the police, etc. But when applied to real life, vigilantes are criminals themselves.

No. We do not

moi621 (imported) wrote: Wed Jul 20, 2011 3:06 pm need to be more culturally tolerant.

Those coming her

moi621 (imported) wrote: Wed Jul 20, 2011 3:06 pm e need to be more culturally tolerant

of those in their new chosen home. I have nothing against immigration, in and of itself. After all, Canada and the US are nations founded by immigrants. What I do have a problem with is that after having founded and adopted a concept of inalienable human rights we, as society, are bending our own rules to adapt to those choosing to move to and live here. It is those moving here that should bend and adapt to our rules. It is already established here that people have the right to practice their religion and cultural traditions, but those rights end when and where the infringe on another’s rights and freedoms. They must give up some of what they had if they are to share in what we offer. If that is not acceptable to them, they can stay home or go somewhere else.

“When in Rome…” I think is the appropriate expression.

http://news.yahoo.com/calif-woman-plead ... 46428.html

"Catherine Kieu entered the plea

SplitDik (imported) wrote: Sun Jul 24, 2011 6:57 am in Orange County Superior Court

Friday to charges of torture and aggravated mayhem with

SplitDik (imported) wrote: Fri Jul 15, 2011 1:42 am sentencing enhancements for great bodily injury and

use of a knife. . . "

Sarcasm? Well in the days of Hispanic, Ms. Bobbit (who did "bob it") there was another case in East LA. Another Hispanic lady. She went for the whole package. Her husband did say, "he deserved it". I do not know how that case panned out. Hispanic co-workers pointed out the cultural similarity of the stories at the time.

Where is that "liberal" attitude of cultural sensitivity?

I mean: It is one thing for some Italian or Jewish type to go all yelling on you and another for some WASP to do likewise.

So if a Thai lady cuts off your dick for being a dick, it just isn't the same as for a Nordic lady to cross that threshold. The latter must be criminal or crazy, y'see. It is all about being a good liberal and culturally sensitive.

Moi

Free Catherine Kieu

moi621 (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 24, 2011 8:00 pm http://news.yahoo.com/calif-woman-plead ... 46428.html

"Catherine Kieu entered the plea

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moi621 (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 24, 2011 8:00 pm me=1311454620]
in Orange County Superior Court

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Friday to charges of torture and aggravated mayhem

moi621 (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 24, 2011 8:00 pm with

SplitDik (imported) wrote: Fri Jul 15, 2011 1:42 am sentencing enhancements for great bodily injury and

use of a knife. . . "

Sarcasm? Well in the days of Hispanic, Ms. Bobbit (who did "bob it") there was another case in East LA. Another Hispanic lady. She went for the whole package. Her husband did say, "he deserved it". I do not know how that case panned out. Hispanic co-workers pointed out the cultural similarity of the stories at the time.

Where is that "liberal" attitude of cultural sensitivity?

I mean: It is one thing for some Italian or Jewish type to go all yelling on you and another for some WASP to do likewise.

So if a Thai lady cuts off your dick for being a dick, it just isn't the same as for a Nordic lady to cross that threshold. The latter must be crimin

al or crazy, y'see. It is all about being a good liberal and culturally sensitive.

Moi

Free Catherine Kieu

It's not that simple. Bobbit was raped or otherwise abused the night she attacked, it wasn't particularly planned, John passed out on his own from drinking, and she obviously freaked driving away and throwing it out the window, and told police right away that she did it due to abuse, and he ultimately got a reasonably functional penis after reattachment.

Kieu instead didn't have any significant incident before except an argument the day before and the previous divorce. She stewed about those and premeditatedly poisoned him, tied him up, waited for him to wake up, actually tortured him, premeditatedly destroyed the penis so he has to live the rest of his life without it, and continued fairly calmly after the incident remaining on the scene and offering no explanation (either reasonable or emotional).

I'd say these are very different cases.

That other hispanic lady got off pretty lightly, like Bobbit. If there was much difference in result (I think she may have gotten a short sentence, not sure that she served any time though) was probably due to lawyers, not racial expectations.

SplitDik (imported) wrote: Mon Oct 03, 2011 8:13 pm It's not that simple. Bobbit was raped or otherwise abused the night she attacked, it wasn't particularly planned, John passed out on his own from drinking, and she obviously freaked driving away and throwing it out the window, and told police right away that she did it due to abuse, and he ultimately got a reasonably functional penis after reattachment.

Kieu instead didn't have any significant incident before except an argument the day before and the previous divorce. She stewed about those and premeditatedly poisoned him, tied him up, waited for him to wake up, actually tortured him, premeditatedly destroyed the penis so he has to live the rest of his life without it, and continued fairly calmly after the incident remaining on the scene and offering no explanation (either reasonable or emotional).

I'd say these are very different cases.

That other hispanic lady got off pretty lightly, like Bobbit. If there was much difference in result (I think she may have gotten a short sentence, not sure that she served any time though) was probably due to lawyers, not racial expectations.

When does a northwest European lady, do it?

Maybe Ms. WASP has other cultural outlets.

And if so, - - if Ms. WASP does it, should it be a greater offense as she is not part of a penectomy culture and the act was more 'unique'.

Where are the Liberals and their cultural sensitivity?

Moi

Not Forgotten

SplitDik (imported) wrote: Sun Jul 24, 2011 8:16 am http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/201

2/01/woman-who-allegedly-cut-off-husbands-penis-faces-life-in-prison.html

Woman who allegedly cut off husband's penis faces life in prison

January 5, 2012 | 4:18 pm

"A woman accused of

SplitDik (imported) wrote: Sun Jul 24, 2011 8:16 am cutting off her husband's penis

PiercedDick (imported) wrote: Fri Jul 15, 2011 3:05 am with a 10-inch kitchen knife w

as ordered held and will face charges in court Monday, Orange County prosecutors announced Thursday.

Catherine Kieu Becker has been indicted on one felony count of torture and one felony count of aggravated mayhem, according to a press release from the Orange County district attorney's office. Becker faces a sentencing enhancement for alleged "personal use of a knife." if convicted of all counts, she faces life in prison, the district attorney's office said. . ."

The link has a good picture of a face I would never want to see pissed off toward me.

Moi

With a picture like that, it's no wonder I like men.