• Major life changes

Posted: **Fri Mar 25, 2011 12:11 pm**

Dear Stacy,

I am so sorry for not having posted earlier under your thread. Please forgive me as I have not spent a lot of time here on the web site recently.

I just wanted to express my congratulations to you on making this hard and difficult decision in your life. For those that have never experienced the pain and torment that being transgendered can bring, it may seem like a very strange thing to do, but for those of us that have experienced GID, the steps you have taken and are in the process of taking are the only natural outlet and relief that anyone can do. It does take a great amount strength, desire and time to have the conviction to finally admit the truth as to who we really are, that being women, and to take the necessary steps to finally portray our true personalities to the world. One must finally make the choice. Do I lose my present life or do I lose myself for my life? There is only one thing we can truly be in this world and that is ourselves.

I haven't read if you have told your spouse yet. For me, she was the very first person I shared 'my life's little secret" with. I am blessed by the fact that I am married to the most loving and understanding person that anyone could ever ask for and while it was difficult for her at first she realized that she loved the person and not the man she thought I was.

You will find that not everyone is going to accept you for yourself, but don't let that stop you from achieving your dreams or goals. You will find that those people were never your real friends or never really loved "you" in an unconditional way.

I wish you all the best as you head down this long and sometimes difficult path. As one that has already made this journey, take my word that the rewards will be many. There will be sacrifice and the road my get bumpy and treacherous at times, but it will be all worth it in the end.

If I can offer any assistance or advise along the way, please do not hesitate to contact me.

Posted: **Fri Mar 25, 2011 4:54 pm**

EricaAnn (imported) wrote: Fri Mar 25, 2011 12:11 pm Dear Stacy,

I am so sorry for not having posted earlier under your thread. Please forgive me as I have not spent a lot of time here on the web site recently.

I just wanted to express my congratulations to you on making this hard and difficult decision in your life. For those that have never experienced the pain and torment that being transgendered can bring, it may seem like a very strange thing to do, but for those of us that have experienced GID, the steps you have taken and are in the process of taking are the only natural outlet and relief that anyone can do. It does take a great amount strength, desire and time to have the conviction to finally admit the truth as to who we really are, that being women, and to take the necessary steps to finally portray our true personalities to the world. One must finally make the choice. Do I lose my present life or do I lose myself for my life? There is only one thing we can truly be in this world and that is ourselves.

I haven't read if you have told your spouse yet. For me, she was the very first person I shared 'my life's little secret" with. I am blessed by the fact that I am married to the most loving and understanding person that anyone could ever ask for and while it was difficult for her at first she realized that she loved the person and not the man she thought I was.

You will find that not everyone is going to accept you for yourself, but don't let that stop you from achieving your dreams or goals. You will find that those people were never your real friends or never really loved "you" in an unconditional way.

I wish you all the best as you head down this long and sometimes difficult path. As one that has already made this journey, take my word that the rewards will be many. There will be sacrifice and the road my get bumpy and treacherous at times, but it will be all worth it in the end.

If I can offer any assistance or advise along the way, please do not hesitate to contact me.

Thank you for your kind and understanding words and there is certainly no need for any apologies. Your offer of support is welcomed and I may take you up on it sometime but I do have a pretty good support network already.

My wife doesn't know yet and that will be the most painfull part. I'm sure she doesnt suspect anything yet and I don't expect the news to go over very well at all. I think it will really just be the "straw that breaks the camel's back" for us.

Posted: **Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:04 pm**

mrt (imported) wrote: Sun Mar 20, 2011 4:04 pm Humm... Have you asked your therapist about your being puzzled about there not being any attempt to cure GID? If your thinking along those lines maybe that is worth exploring? Asking about it won't hurt anything and at least exploring this may be a good step so you don't have future regrets?

Anyway I'm totally revved up that you found a therapist and that there is a good chemistry. Good luck with the conversation with your wife. I think that will also be a large load off your mind when you do it.

That's a very good question but I think she understood very quickly how knowledgeable I am on the GID issue and that we both knew there isn't a cure for GID. As a therapist, she analyzes the GID self diagnosis for herself then goes from there.

She did tell me that in all her years of practice, she has only run into one person that thought they had GID but found out it was really something else. I think she is pretty convinced that I am authentic and this is a life long issue that would benefit from medical transition.

As always, thanks for the kind words of support and it is always good to hear from you!

Posted: **Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:07 pm**

OneBallBoi (imported) wrote: Sat Mar 19, 2011 10:55 am My heart always goes out to anyone who can live what their heart is saying. It is a big step to suddenly make a change and dress as a female.

Thanks for the support. It IS a big step and scary as hell. I'm not going to rush going full time as I plan to be completely prepared to make the transition. I am letting the HRT do it's work and I will add diet and exercise to that to get where I need to be.

Posted: **Sat Mar 26, 2011 3:49 am**

JessicaH (imported) wrote: Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:07 pm I am letting the HRT do it's work and I will add diet and exercise to that to get where I need to be.

Definitely include diet and exercise. You could tell from meeting me I'm not small or thin by anyone's estimation. But I put on an extra twenty pounds during two years of HRT. I'll only blame half of that on the hormones but the other half was just my dumb, happy self eating too much, too often. I've lost twenty since November of last year, and I'm working on another twenty pounds right now.

Good luck Stacy. You know I wish you all the success and happiness possible.

Posted: **Sun Mar 27, 2011 11:13 pm**

So what do you think of my new avatar? It was taken tonight and it has been about 4 months on HRT.

Posted: **Mon Mar 28, 2011 1:31 am**

Looking good

Posted: **Mon Mar 28, 2011 4:36 am**

In a word (sort of) scrumptialicious...smooches dragonfly

Posted: **Mon Mar 28, 2011 2:02 pm**

Looking good! --FLO--

Posted: **Mon Mar 28, 2011 4:25 pm**

JessicaH (imported) wrote: Sun Mar 27, 2011 11:13 pm So what do you think of my new avatar? It was taken tonight and it has been about 4 months on HRT.

You look great. I am envious.

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