Caith721 (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 13, 2011 10:41 am Great news about being able to ditch the donut, Danya. (Alliteration intended ) It's difficult to believe it requires from nine to twelve months for all of the tissue swelling to recede and for everything to look as normal as it ever will. Just getting rid of the donut is another excellent sign of your continuing recovery.

So, will you be running in the 2012 Chicago marathon?

(Okay, I apologize in advance for giving you screwball ideas.)

Hey Caith...how's it going ? Back home, a few ounces lighter, I assume...and a whole lot lighter emotionally...Gawd I wish it were me...nice and ball-less..

My panties would fit a lot better...I might be able to enter the marathon...in heels...yum smooches all dragonfly

I've been so busy reading other threads, and job hunting, that I ignored my own. I will respond to everyone by later tonight or tomorrow. You have been forewarned.

Right now, I need to get ready to get out of the house to my favorite spot in Chicagoland. I need the exercise to clear my befuddled brain!

I have a phone interview tomorrow morning for a permanent job in the city that is often referred to as the 'left coast of Wisconsin' and '78 square miles surrounded by reality.' I might fit right in! But its metro area is only 1/20th the size of Chicago's. I was in Milwaukee yesterday, which is much larger than this other place, and I thought it was way too small for me. At least this other 'M' city is only 122 miles from downtown Chicago. It is, however, significantly colder in the winter.

I'm already writing more than I intended. So what else is new?

I also have the opportunity to apply for a permanent job in the Philadelphia metro area. In a city known, in a whittled down version, as KofP.

Then there are two contract-to-hire jobs I've been submitted for here in Chicagoland. One is about 5 miles down the road from where I live.

Clearly, I've made the decision to consider moving. I'd prefer Portland, OR, perhaps over all other locations. The market there for what I do is pretty decent right now. I will contact recruiters and seach job boards for Portland.

I will respond to everyone later. That's a promise, or threat , dependng on your point of view.

danya

Con. Grats

I know how good it feels inside when a life long goal is achieved and surpassed. you traveled a long road to get where your are at today

Over coming many obstacles You should feel good knowing it has made you a stronger person I am happy for you

Dear Danya,

You have now accomplished your major life goal. Congratulations! Now you have to get that permanent job. I really thought that the company where you were working temporary would have a job for you following your surgery. I guess they were not such a great place to work.

Caith721 (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 13, 2011 10:41 am Great news about being able to ditch the donut, Danya. (Alliteration intended ) It's difficult to believe it requires from nine to twelve months for all of the tissue swelling to recede and for everything to look as normal as it ever will. Just getting rid of the donut is another excellent sign of your continuing recovery.

I'm still thrilled about ditching the darn donut! It's still uncomfortable sitting, although there is little pain so this is tolerable. My swelling continues to subside. As a result, everything 'down there' now lines up just as one would hope. I have no doubt now that it will take many more months for things to look their best.

Meanwhile, my HRT doctor seems to be promoting the idea of a sexual encounter! He knows I cannot even consider this for another month. I told him that I'd need to wait until my swelling is gone. He said "no, you dont."

While the idea of a sexual experience is enticing, I have no intention of becoming a loose woman.

I have noticed that a certain part of my new anatomy is now quite sensitive, in an amazing way, to manual stimulation.

Caith721 (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 13, 2011 10:41 am So, will you be running in the 2012 Chicago marathon?

(Okay, I apologize in advance for giving you screwball ideas.)

No need to apologize, Caith! Allthough I'm capable of coming up with screwball ideas of my own.

I could, for instance, compete in an inline skatin

kristoff wrote: Mon Jun 13, 2011 10:42 am g marathon. It is even more difficult

to skate in heels than to run in the

graylayer02 (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 13, 2011 1:18 pm m (see Kristoff's comment below.)

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graylayer02 (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 13, 2011 1:19 pm t be difficult in

heels!

I always try to look my best! I have run in heels before,

to catch trains.

You'll have to offer her some nun shoes then. They're very practical.

kennath7 (imported) wrote: Tue Jun 14, 2011 4:25 pm Practical nun shoes. Eek!

Oh, and congratulations at getting rid of the butt-donut. You'll be riding bikes in no time.

Thanks Graylayer02! I love bike riding, as long as the bicycle doesn't have those funny pedal straps you someone have to get your feet i

nto.

danya

Con. Grats

I know how good it feels inside when a life long goal is achieved and surpassed. you trav

Mac (imported) wrote: Tue Jun 14, 2011 4:34 pm eled a long road to get where your are at today

Over coming many obstacles You should feel good knowing it has made you a stronger person I am happy for you

Thanks, Kennath7. I know you can relate to how I feel and you understand all that's involved in getting this far. It has be

en a long road, but it has all been worth it.

Dear Danya,

You have now accomplished your major life goal. Congratulations! Now you have to get that permanent job. I really thought that the company where you were working temporary would have a job for you following your surgery. I guess they were not such a great place to work.

Thanks, Mac.

It seems there are more contract-to-hire and permanent jobs now than a year ago. I am applying for contract, contract-to-hire, and permanent jobs. I cannot afford to wait for a possible permanent job if I am offered a contract first.

Got to get back to job hunting and get ready for a 3 PM interview.

.................

Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Jun 16, 2011 8:07 am Meanwhile, my HRT doctor seems to be promoting the idea of a sexual encounter! He knows I cannot even consider this for another month. I told him that I'd need to wait until my swelling is gone. He said "no, you dont."

While the idea of a sexual experience is enticing, I have no intention of becoming a loose woman. .............................

Dear Danya,

Your purpose in getting the final surgery was not to f**k every guy you encounter. If you ultimately have a relationship that leads to sex then so be it. If that never happens you have not lost anything. Don't rush into it or seek it out as your primary purpose.

Mac (imported) wrote: Thu Jun 16, 2011 8:33 am Dear Danya,

Your purpose in getting the final surgery was not to f**k every guy you encounter. If you ultimately have a relationship that leads to sex then so be it. If that never happens you have not lost anything. Don't rush into it or seek it out as your primary purpose.

Hi Mac,

I doubt that anyone who knows me well, including my doctor, could ever imagine my seeking out men for the sole purpose of having sex. Besides, that can be very dangerous. Even more so for trans women than natal women. I am in full agreement with you!

Yesterday, I saw my doctor for about the fourth time since my surgery in mid-April. All of these visits have been to treat and follow-up on complications from GRS. At this latest examination, he said "Wow." I asked if that was a good wow or a bad wow. It was a very good one. I no longer need to see him for post-surgery problems; everything is now healing normally.

It will still take months for all of my swelling to disappear. Meanwhile, that adds some discomfort and slight pain to sitting. It's not too bad, though.

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Danya (imported) wrote: Tue Jan 04, 2011 10:14 pm to stay with my current career path, at least for the near term.

The job market for this is good. There is no need, and probably no time, to jump to a different career now.

Then again, I may change my mind tomor

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I also told my doctor that, since surgery, my hairline at the top and sides of my forehead is starting to regrow hair I lost years ago. I would be able to go without a wig even if this were not the case, once it's long enough in about two months.

He looked and confirmed this hair is indeed starting to come back. He wasn't surprised. It's rather fine hair that I hope will become thicker as the months go by.

Very good news....smooches drag n fly

Danya (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 20, 2011 5:25 pm Yesterday, I saw my doctor for about the fourth time since my surgery in mid-April. All of these visits have been to treat and follow-up on complications from GRS. At this latest examination, he said "Wow." I asked if that was a good wow or a bad wow. It was a very good one. I no longer need to see him for post-surgery problems; everything is now healing normally.

It will still take months for all of my swelling to disappear. Meanwhile, that adds some discomfort and slight pain to sitting. It's not too bad, though.

Isn't it a great feeling to hear that "good Wow!" ? Congratulations on healing quickly and well. Remember to keep track of the improvements, either weekly or monthly. They're often very subtle and are definitely worth remembering in the long term after you're completely healed and recovered.