asexuality and eunuchs

[pinquita (imported)]

You need to have a little FAITH and realize that there is a power higher than you and that that power is benevolent in all ways.

Help yourself. We are doing all that we can do.

A-1

thanks for your words A1....my confusion starts when I think of a higher power. What I went through in this life, was more than humilliating, it is hard to believe that a higher power would do such to anyone. My life, my outlook on life could had been drastically changed, by sexual preference could had been altered. I remained straight in my outlook ( I respect every and all people, I am not anti nothing, do not get me wrong, just describing my case).. but I could had easily gone another direction, I could had been raped, I could had been swayed into anything that I was not, and, you know what??? the enemy was withing me, it was seeded inside me, becasue the insecurity I had , compounded by facts, my ambiguous body, was eating my soul away like cancer.....it would be hard to understand, I guess, unless gone through.

It is hard to believe a higher power would do something this ...disgusting....but....I guess that is my only hope, that there is a higher power that planed this for me.

At the same time, my experience has made me doubt everything, becasue if we are the direct result of our bodies performence, then, is our fate sealed??? and is it is...what is the purpose of going through a life that has a paved road planned???

where is this boat taking me....because I can not steer it.....

[BudleyBare (imported)]

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it is hard to believe that a higher power would do such to anyone....

...the enemy was withing me, it was seeded inside me....

...It is hard to believe a higher power would do something this ...disgusting.....

...then, is our fate sealed???

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and is it is...what is the purpose of going through a life that has a paved road planned???

...where is this boat taking me....because I can not steer it....

Based on my experiences in life, and perhaps my learned-in-mid-life spiritual outlook, I definitely agree with A-1 when he wrote:

Originally Posted by A-1:

You need to have a little FAITH and realize that there is a power higher than you and that that power is benevolent in all ways.

How you look at your lot in life will help establish the principles by which you make decisions. Of all of the creatures on this earth, humans are the ones blessed with "choice". At any given point in time you are likely NOT to know what your role in life is supposed to be; that role will be revealed to you when appropriate. For me, I am still learning, but I have been faced with several really serious decisions, and often wondered why God would "do this" to me, until I realized that I may not yet know what I am supposed to achieve here while in a physical inicarnation. But when I realized that maybe I am not supposed to yet know, I achieve an inner peace that is really hard to describe.

I am not saying that your conditions are trivial. The real issue is how you choose to look at your conditions. I believe that it is God's good grace to give us joy, happiness, and unbounded love (agape type love, not necessarily the same as carnal love).

Nothing says life is supposed to be easy, and each life is unique in its own way. Consider as an example Beethoven who, as you know, was a great classical composer and artist. He was totally deaf when he wrote his 9th Symphony, which is considered to be one of the greatest musical pieces ever written. There are many more examples, but hopefully you get the point. And so you do steer your own ship (even if you think otherwise) because you have choices to make along the way.

I am dangerously close to sounding "preachy", which is not my intention. I just offer a few words that may trigger you into reconsidering how you look at your situation. You can continue to think as you do, or change. You have choices to make along the journey that we call life.

I truly wish you well and hope that you find your inner peace, which is yours for the taking when you are ready to receive it.

[Riverwind (imported)]

I truly do NOT mean this reply to be confrontational, but I simply do not nor cannot agree with this statement.

There are many things in life -- for me -- that are as beautiful, and in many cases even more beautiful. For instance, to see a well honed human body in its natural state is wonderful beyond words. And then there are some scenes, views or vistas of mother nature at work (e.g., some sunsets/sunrises in the area of the Philippine Islands, colorful fall folage in eastern Canada, a vista of the valley/volcano/Pacific ocean from my living room [sala], etc.) that can only convince one that there must be a higher power at work in our universe, or even the smile of an innocent, newborn baby, a genuine hug from a close friend, some selected musical interludes (consider Bach, Beethoven or Tchaikovsky), etc., etc.

I find beauty in a lot of things and places and feelings, not just one. But then, maybe you were just trying to emphasize a point. Again, please do not be offended by my response; you just hit a hot button with me.

Yes there are a lot of beautiful things in life, for me its holding one of my grandkids. I also think a marage with kids family the whole thing can be very beautiful indeed. Each of us will find something different as the most beautiful thing, we are all different. This holds true for our reasons for being castrated or wanting to be. Its not what we find beautiful its that we do.

River

[bagman (imported)]

Budley Bear well said cognisance of the higher power is the safest sandpoint to work from once acknowledged it seems to give a whole new meaning to life ie what we can do and what is best left undone

[A-1 (imported)]

Dear Pinquita,

You said,

where is this boat taking me....because I can not steer it...

That, my friend, is exactly the point. God or a higher power did not do anything to you. Things happen that have nothing to do with a Higher Power. Your misfortune is not the fault of anybody, least of all, you.

You cannot change what has happened, a higher power is not responsible, and the only thing left is to make the best of what you have. In life we are not made by what happens to us, rather our strength of character and our souls are FORGED by how we react to it.

If we are bitter and sour, we leave that essence in whomever we meet. If we live in misery, our misery is sufficient, and we must not pass it on to the world. We must not spread it. We must make sure that it stops with us.

It is the little things that you can do that make people happy. It is the small things that make large differences in our lives. The greatest burdens are made tolerable when we find that we possess the inner strength to ignore them and to do good to others.

I am sure that you will find your way. I am sure that you can be happy. Sex is but a small part of life, and it is a part that many do not have and that some do not even recognize as significant.

I do not want to minimize your situation, because it is very significant to you. What you must do is take the small, faultering steps down the road that minimizes it's impact on your existance. All the time, remember that when we trick ourselves into missing the most that which we do not or cannot have, we do ourselves and humanity a terrible injustice by depriving them of our good deeds because of our bitterness.

Life is glorious. It has so many aspects, that concentrating on one deprives us of a full existance.

Live well...my friend...

A-1

[unuktobe (imported)]

Hy Myra,

Hmmmm, well I know you've made comments about what an "asexual" is. But I'm wondering about you. I guess you lack drive and arousal. Can you think of a phychological reason for why that might be? It's hard sometimes to consider this, because you exist within yourself. But can you think of some influences in your upbringing which may have led to this? Or do you not feel any "pleasure" from your sexual components?

Men are different by design. We're designed to prowl and impregnate. But a lot of women are more into the "closeness" and intimacy that comes with sex, and that is what they value even over great orgasms.

You needn't answer but I ask because I'd like to explore a deeply intimate and loving relationship with a woman. But wonder if this is even possible without the dimension of sexual union.

Do you desire to marry? Have a child? Have a husband? Are you attracted to men in any way other than sexually? Would you be interested in a LTR or marriage with a eunuch? Why?

[gpb3aol (imported)]

Before I answer your question Myra, I must address pinquita's post. I've been married (off and on) for thirty five years. I've had an asexual relationship with my wife for the last 20 years. We have a very LOVING relationship. To keep this short I won't go into the reasons.

Now on to my answer. Although I two came to eunuchism though no action of my own, but from a side effect of chemotherapy, It was a God send. I've struggled all my life with hypersex drive. If it moved I wanted to have sex with it. Being castrated has solved that problem. The emotional clam, empthyic veiw of life and being comfortable expressing my feminine side are just pluses.