asexuality and eunuchs

[BudleyBare (imported)]

Are you an eunuch by choice?? or are you a eunuch by reasons of physicall condition?

At the present time I am 1/2 eunuch, and that was not by choice. I underwent emergency surgery on December 28, 2005, and came out of it less one testicle. The alternative was death (the surgeons said another 6 hours and the alternative would have resulted). Subsequent events are now leading to the pending removal of the second testicle, and that surgery is likely to be next week, give or take a smidge. There is some minor degree of choice in this second surgery, which is being scheduled for two procedural reasons that are closely related to the December event, but now I do have a bit more say in things. I have decided to go for it, not because of an interest in body modification, but rather it just makes sense for me given my prior experiences in life, my medical condition, my age, and also based on things I have learned in very short order post-December surgery. (This web site has been a wonderful resource, but not the only one that I have used.) Also, becoming a eunuch for me is not about removing sex or gaining control over sex, because I have not had an erection for over 22 years due to other life saviing surgery in 1984.

A lot of thought and emotional "stuff" have transpired recently. But I am now not only comfortable with what is to be, but actually looking forward to getting on with my life. Things will be different, but I believe better -- for me. Everyone's mileage will vary, so they say. I truly believe that. I am doing what is right for me, which may be the exact wrong thing for others.

I have no desire to be female or feminized to any extent, or transgendered, etc. This is not about body mods (e.g., tattoes, of which I have none, nor piercings, etc.). At least for the present, I plan to keep my scrotum, but who knows what the future may bring in that regard.

[bagman (imported)]

folks beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what appeals to one does not appeal to another. A fine body male or female is a wonder to behold, for those of us who love mother nature we should value it and be gratefull for what we have to enjoy and certainly remember those who are in less favourable circumstances. Medical conditions that have not been detected through error or uncareing parents is unforgiveable let us support others in our love and support by contributing understanding and encouragement.

[DewMeAlso (imported)]

Beauty exists in the mind of the observer.

At least primarily, if not exclusively.

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Life is like a tree full of Monkeys.

The top monkey looks down and sees all smiling faces of the monkeys trying to climb to the top...the bottom monkey looks up and sees all asses...

it's all in your perspective.

[myra (imported)]

2% of world population is asexual. There is no specific reason for them to be asexual, as there is no reason for someone to be gay. They just are.

[jehan (imported)]

2% of world population is asexual. There is no specific reason for them to be asexual, as there is no reason for someone to be gay. They just are.

AND IF WE TRY TO CHANGE THEM , WE WILL DO JUST ONE THING : MAKE THEM UNHAPPY. sorry for my english

in french: on ne peut faire qu'une chose pour eux,en essayant de les faire changer : les rendre très malheureux !

[kristoff]

2% of world population is asexual. There is no specific reason for them to be asexual, as there is no reason for someone to be gay. They just are.

What is your source for this statistic? Ties in with my interests in reading and researching. Curious minds want to know.

[A-1 (imported)]

Budleybear. I understand what you say. Are you an eunuch by choice?? or are you a eunuch by reasons of physicall condition?

If a person decides to be asexual by choice, that is perfectly ok. But is has to be achieved by mastering your body, and controlling yourself.

There is no need to castrate and or mutilate your body to achieve that goal. To do that would be the equivalent of saying, I am a good person, because I have a 24 / 7 body guard that keeps me out of trouble. By castrating yourself you take away choice, and you have that " body guard " in place 24 / 7 .

In my case, It hurts to know, beautifull women that I could meet, the woman that could be my companion for life, that posibility is been taken away from me. Choice is choice. Corraled or forced to a line of thought is not a choice.

Look, pinquita,

Being judgmental is one step away from exertion of control or the attempt thereof.

I am convinced that you feel sorry in this way for yourself. It is unfortunate that you feel as you do, and perhaps you DO need to seek counseling to help you to work out these feelings.

There is absolutely NO reason why you cannot find a beautiful woman who you will be happy with for the rest of your life, and your self-esteem needs bolstering because you need to realize that there are people in this life who are MUCH worse off than any of us here.

There is nothing wrong with you. You may be different than others but you are not better or worse, you are just different. IT's the DNA idea, you know? You need to have a little FAITH and realize that there is a power higher than you and that that power is benevolent in all ways.

Help yourself. We are doing all that we can do.

A-1

[BudleyBare (imported)]

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Being judgmental is one step away from exertion of control or the attempt thereof....

Another, in my opinion, "heap powerful" insightful comment on this web site. Wow. You guys are really causing me to think about things in new ways. Thanks!

[Paolo]

Pinq.:

A few things I'd like to know -

If you're 36, as your profile states, why can't you do anything about the eunuchoidism issue? Other than fertility, replacement hormones can solve the issues, with the exception of reversing any long bone growth you already have. Unless you're like me, and your body has a problem with HRT, then get some. The main reason I won't use it is the anxiety and temper issue. If I had a full count of T., I'd be in prison or dead - one or the other.

If cost or lack of insurance is a factor, I've found the simply way to come up with a couple hundred bucks is simply not pay a few bills on time. When the collectors call, just tell them to come and get whatever you're paying on, offer to deliver it in person. I'm two months behind on my truck payments. It worked with them; they shut up fast when I offered to deliver it. It also freed up about $340 real quick that month or two.

As I read your posts, I am still lost on your problem...or did I miss it somehow? That's entirely possible, with all the chaos being created around here with all the ambient testosterone floating around in the air from the 3 of 5 boys that are around here and in puberty. Sometimes it's like a burning incense stick, it's so bad.

But back to your problem, can it be corrected? If not, then why? Please tell us more so that we can attempt to give you some good advice. Certainly, as A-1 points out, there are those out there worse off, and those here who can probably help.

[pinquita (imported)]

Pinq.:

A few things I'd like to know -

If you're 36, as your profile states, why can't you do anything about the eunuchoidism issue? Other than fertility, replacement hormones can solve the issues, with the exception of reversing any long bone growth you already have. Unless you're like me, and your body has a problem with HRT, then get some. The main reason I won't use it is the anxiety and temper issue. If I had a full count of T., I'd be in prison or dead - one or the other.

If cost or lack of insurance is a factor, I've found the simply way to come up with a couple hundred bucks is simply not pay a few bills on time. When the collectors call, just tell them to come and get whatever you're paying on, offer to deliver it in person. I'm two months behind on my truck payments. It worked with them; they shut up fast when I offered to deliver it. It also freed up about $340 real quick that month or two.

As I read your posts, I am still lost on your problem...or did I miss it somehow? That's entirely possible, with all the chaos being created around here with all the ambient testosterone floating around in the air from the 3 of 5 boys that are around here and in puberty. Sometimes it's like a burning incense stick, it's so bad.

But back to your problem, can it be corrected? If not, then why? Please tell us more so that we can attempt to give you some good advice. Certainly, as A-1 points out, there are those out there worse off, and those here who can probably help.

Paolo. There is nothing that can be done past the age of 17 to 19. Read this article.

http://www.britannica.com/eb/article-75 ... elayed&ct=



I will wait untill you read it. It will help undertand this issue better.

Thanks>>>>>>>>>>>>>>