TheHavier (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 11, 2024 12:48 pm I've been here looking for information for years. I found a lot of information related to castration that led me to believe that it would help me, and my wife in our situation. I found very little information relating to men in my situation. I did have a couple guys reach out to me through private messages that give me information that proved to be helpful. I am thankful for them. Neither of them had been castrated at the time, both were searching for help, like me. One has since been castrated, the other still looking for answers. I wish both of them the best. It seems that men in my situation fade into the shadows once they find the relief they were searching for. We are rare, but there are other men like me out there. The therapist that provided the letter for me told me that he has spoken to as many as six guys in a year searching for help like me. The anesthesiologist that attended me during my surgery told me that she has been with my surgeon for 2 1/2 years, and in that time she had attended 5 other men in situations like mine that got orchiectomies. So I know that there will be others to scan through looking for answers to the question, "did castration help?" I can only say that right now, at only two weeks in, it seems to have helped me. Over the next few months, things may change, I expect some things to change. I will try to stop by from time to time to give updates.

And Loosethem, Thank You, and yes, I Love my wife dearly! She is, and has always been my Soul Mate! She was the hesitant one, but, she has been very happy witb the results so far, and she has been so thankful for me being brave enough to go through with it!

As the SOC8 was being formulated, I know that men in your situation were taken into consideration. I know that's kind of weird that it would be getting treated through gender non-conformity medical routes, but at least there was consideration given to the path you're on with it. This is a long way to saying that men in your situation were a known group when the SOC revision was being formulated as far back as 2016. At this point, men like you are on the radar and have been included in these processes.

One thing I've noticed over the years is that while there is a lot of fantasy when coming to a site like this one for many folks who visit, those who are serious about the subject like you and I are do find a family of supportive individuals to help them with their journey whatever form it takes. Still, voices like yours tend to be rare around here, and it's why I'm grateful that you come back and relate your experience. Even though it's not the experience I was after, there are many men who can benefit from hearing about how this happened for you, and especially how your life is now that it's done. Even a year from now, your experiences at that time would be helpful to share should you choose to. Many are on the fence because they don't know about the long-term implications of having their testicles removed, and after a year or so, your experience at that point would be very useful for them to hear.

I'm glad you've got a soul mate in your wife. It's rare any of us find the person who cares for us that deeply, and can still put up with our quirks! LOL I believe I have mine in my life now too.

I'm looking forward to hearing how things settle out for you, because if there is one commonality in the different directions you and I took to get here, is that we're both experiencing peace in our bodies and relationships. Relating those experiences is one of the main reasons I stick around here after so many years, and I believe both of our experiences are helpful to those who follow us.

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Sun Sep 08, 2024 6:50 am Loosethem, Thank you for answering that. I hate not to respond, but I wasn't sure how to. As for how things are going. It's 10 days in now. I've read a lot over the years. I knew to expect chan

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TheHavier (imported) wrote: Sun Sep 08, 2024 6:50 am ime=1725053280]
. I know everyone is different,

so I can only express how castration is affecting me. Both my wife and I have been pleasantly surprised at how quickly my sex drive has been affected. I needed sex daily. When we were younger, my wife took care of that for me. Age and health problems have interfered with that over the last few years. Removal of the testicles immediately reduced that. Oh, I still want sex, but when I don't get it I'm not angry and aggressive.

I'm a lot calmer and less prone to agitation. My wife says the difference is amazing. So, so far so go
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od. I'm sure the next few months will bring more changes.

Having surgery down there and

the swelling the follows tends to slow down your desire for sex. Good luck with healing. I was castrated last spring, it's been such a big positive in my life.

Well. I'm about a month in now. Next couple days will be busy, had a minute, thought I'ld go ahead with a month update. Healing is going well. Plumbing still works, so far. Don't know how much longer that will last. Maybe i won't loose it. Don't know yet. I don't think it will really matter. I no longer have to have intercourse like i did.

My wife and I continue to be sexual, just differently. My wife is actually a lot more likely to be loving and sensual because she knows i won't be frustrated when it stops short of penetration. We are much closer, much more loving than we have been in a long time, since before penetration became uncomfortable to her years ago.

She tells me i am like a different person. I'm not on edge now, and I always was before. She is very pleased with the results of my castration. I am as well. Its nice not to be horny, frustrated, and agitated all the time. I was before, and it made me hard to deal with.

Our lives have both been much better over the past month since i was neutered.

I've had no depression, just a much happier life.

Just wonder where in Europe I can access a castration without a medical reason like disease or a gender identity issue

Any info would be appreciated,

wannabe- (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 28, 2024 11:56 pm Just wonder where in Europe I can access a castration without a medical reason like disease or a gender identity issue

Any info would be appreciated,

Unless the software has messed up again, I see this is your first post, welcome to the forums, and I hope we can help you out...

To be a bit blunt, sort of by definition, if you are seeking castration, you DO have a 'gender identity issue' of some sort... At least by the current standards, "Normal" guys want to keep their bits, or at least say they do...

Looking at your profile, (which is not a great psych tool, and I'm not a shrink, but...) it appears to me that you would fit a "Gender Dysphoria" diagnosis without much trouble... Yes, I know it can be tough to acknowledge that you aren't "normal" and it sucks that in order to get care we have to get a psych diagnosis, but that is the way the system works at present....

I don't know of ANY place in the WORLD that will do an on demand castration without at least some level of psych evaluation or a medical diagnosis that calls for it. Even places like Dr. A in Mexico do at least a bit of screening.

That said, we now at least have a chapter in the WPATH "Standards of Care V.8" that deals with guys like us that want to be eunuchs. The process is a bit lengthy with a number of hoops to jump through, but is not terrible. Unfortunately not all places are currently following the standard for a variety of reasons, mostly political... I know the UK is problematic, not sure about Ireland, or what the rules are about doing things elsewhere in the EU... In a (IMHO excessively) liberal US state, I had no major issues other than the time it took, in getting the surgery I needed....

However the first step (and I found it the hardest one to take) is basically to reach out to a Trans-Gender clinic / center in your area and start talking to them about starting the process...

Good luck!

WheelyFixed

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Fri Sep 27, 2024 12:58 pm Well. I'm about a month in now. Next couple days will be busy, had a minute, thought I'ld go ahead with a month update. Healing is going well. Plumbing still works, so far. Don't know how much longer that will last. Maybe i won't loose it. Don't know yet. I don't think it will really matter. I no longer have to have intercourse like i did.

My wife and I continue to be sexual, just differently. My wife is actually a lot more likely to be loving and sensual because she knows i won't be frustrated when it stops short of penetration. We are much closer, much more loving than we have been in a long time, since before penetration became uncomfortable to her years ago.

She tells me i am like a different person. I'm not on edge now, and I always was before. She is very pleased with the results of my castration. I am as well. Its nice not to be horny, frustrated, and agitated all the time. I was before, and it made me hard to deal with.

Our lives have both been much better over the past month since i was neutered.

I've had no depression, just a much happier life.

It's great to see that everything is working out as planned. I was neutered last spring and I've been experimenting with hormones ever since. I'm currently taking nothing and going natural. It's been about the same amount of time as you, just over a month. Are you getting any withdraw symptoms yet?

WheelyFixed wrote: Sun Sep 29, 2024 1:54 pm Unless the software has messed up again, I see this is your first post, welcome to the forums, and I hope we can help you out...

To be a bit blunt, sort of by definition, if you are seeking castration, you DO have a 'gender identity issue' of some sort... At least by the current standards, "Normal" guys want to keep their bits, or at least say they do...

Looking at your profile, (which is not a great psych tool, and I'm not a shrink, but...) it appears to me that you would fit a "Gender Dysphoria" diagnosis without much trouble... Yes, I know it can be tough to acknowledge that you aren't "normal" and it sucks that in order to get care we have to get a psych diagnosis, but that is the way the system works at present....

I don't know of ANY place in the WORLD that will do an on demand castration without at least some level of psych evaluation or a medical diagnosis that calls for it. Even places like Dr. A in Mexico do at least a bit of screening.

That said, we now at least have a chapter in the WPATH "Standards of Care V.8" that deals with guys like us that want to be eunuchs. The process is a bit lengthy with a number of hoops to jump through, but is not terrible. Unfortunately not all places are currently following the standard for a variety of reasons, mostly political... I know the UK is problematic, not sure about Ireland, or what the rules are about doing things elsewhere in the EU... In a (IMHO excessively) liberal US state, I had no major issues other than the time it took, in getting the surgery I needed....

However the first step (and I found it the hardest one to take) is basically to reach out to a Trans-Gender clinic / center in your area and start talking to them about starting the process...

Good luck!

WheelyFixed

I've called Mexico and a couple of surgeons before I had my surgery and if you are paying out of pocket, they are willing to book it right over the phone. The screening amounted to doing everything that I was asking for. It depends on where you live and how much money you have to spend. Once you get rid of your testicles I know it's easier to get what you want. I can pay to have my scrotum removed and no one cares now because it's just skin and not the coveted family jewels. Getting my insurance to pay for it is another story.

Nathan, I guess it would be according to what you would call symptoms. I've not taken any hormones yet. I have an appt. with an endo in December. That's for diabetes. I will inform her of my current state then. One Dr. has already fired me. Hope she doesn't. I like her.

I wanted to have some time to be a castrate. I got castrated for a reason. So far I have been very pleased. My sex drive took a nose dive immediately after my nuts were cut. Now, so far, I still have some sex drive, but I can take it or leave it. I don't become a beast when I'm without like I did. I don't get frustrated by things like I did. I don't get mouthy and mean spirited like I did. Problem with that was I never wanted to, but I couldn't help myself. And it was constant. Hidden from the world, but released upon my wife, constantly. That left with the nuts! What a relief, for both of us!

From time to time I have hot flashes, but they're not too bad, and they go away. That's been a small price to pay for the improvement in our lives! My wife was worried that I would be depressed, regret it, and blame it on her. Truth is, I've been much happier! She's been much happier! She really adores me and is very appreciative of me being willing to be castrated to improve our marriage. I'm sure that over the next few months there will be more changes, but so far the positive has greatly outweighed the negative.

For the record. My wife was very hesitant about the whole idea of me being castrated. She was at her witts end before she would agree to it. She told me one night I was making her life hell. I didn't want that. Now, we are both happy that we did. Another thing that may be of interest, I never did a chemical trial. We were scared of the side effects.

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 11, 2024 12:48 pm I've been here looking for information for years. I found a lot of information related to castration that led me to believe that it would help me, and my wife in our situation. I found very little information relating to men in my situation. I did have a couple guys reach out to me through private messages that give me information that proved to be helpful. I am thankful for them. Neither of them had been castrated at the time, both were searching for help, like me. One has since been castrated, the other still looking for answers. I wish both of them the best. It seems that men in my situation fade into the shadows once they find the relief they were searching for. We are rare, but there are other men like me out there. The therapist that provided the letter for me told me that he has spoken to as many as six guys in a year searching for help like me. The anesthesiologist that attended me during my surgery told me that she has been with my surgeon for 2 1/2 years, and in that time she had attended 5 other men in situations like mine that got orchiectomies. So I know that there will be others to scan through looking for answers to the question, "did castration help?" I can only say that right now, at only two weeks in, it seems to have helped me. Over the next few months, things may change, I expect some things to change. I will try to stop by from time to time to give updates.

And Loosethem, Thank You, and yes, I Love my wife dearly! She is, and has always been my Soul Mate! She was the hesitant one, but, she has been very happy witb the results so far, and she has been so thankful for me being brave enough to go through with it!

I’m one of those men who chosed to be cut to curb a very high libido while being in a marriage with little to no sex. I love my wife, and didn’t want to separate with her, so I separated with my testicles.

Unlike you, I didn’t seek counseling, but sort of forced the hand of the surgeon. What I mean by this is I killed my testicles, or at least came so close the urologist recommended that they were removed.

DISCLAIMER: I was lucky and my story shall not serve as a guideline on how to do it.

With that said, im still happy today more than a year and a half since I was done. Although I’m on testogel, with short periods on full dose usually before seeing my endo, my libido is a shadow of it self which have been a huge relief for me, and I think my wife appreciates it too, that I’m not pleading her for sex anymore