New member and need honest opinions

[Tom Cat Fool (imported)]

Lack of libido lets you focus on other things in your life.

This is true, I have always wanted to be a serial killer but never had the time for it. Thank you, I think i will chop off my nads now.

[thatstuff89 (imported)]

I have to say, I was concerned with the direction this was going for a while. I'm really glad you decided to talk to your wife in a way that starts you both off on common ground. However, I would suggest continuing that way of approaching the issue - looking at porn to satiate certain fantasies is fine, but if you can find a solution that involves both of you, that may be the more practical approach. Try spicing up your love life; try some roleplay in the bedroom; talk to her about her fantasies; try some toys; try being more spontaneous - every love making session does not have to be a grand event, and the unexpectedness can make up for some of the excitement.

I think were quite accurate in saying it is somewhat of a midlife crisis - there is no reason your relationship can't come out stronger for the trials

[Tom Cat Fool (imported)]

I have to say, I was concerned with the direction this was going for a while. I'm really glad you decided to talk to your wife in a way that starts you both off on common ground. However, I would suggest continuing that way of approaching the issue - looking at porn to satiate certain fantasies is fine, but if you can find a solution that involves both of you, that may be the more practical approach. Try spicing up your love life; try some roleplay in the bedroom; talk to her about her fantasies; try some toys; try being more spontaneous - every love making session does not have to be a grand event, and the unexpectedness can make up for some of the excitement.

I think were quite accurate in saying it is somewhat of a midlife crisis - there is no reason your relationship can't come out stronger for the trials

Thank you, sounds quite reasonable. My crush hasn't gone away yet but I am doing my best to deal with it. I will let you in on a secret: The object of my crush doesn't even speak English and I can't understand much of what she says Maybe that is why I like her so much