chilliwilli (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 23, 2009 7:13 am His avatar is just a bitoffensive and strongly indictes insecurity on his part. Anyone who points a gun at another immeidately destabilizes a situation, and any chance of trust...forget it.

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Geepers, i did not look at the avatar very closely, yes i don't find that very endearing. I agree with the statements about community here, I have felt so welcomed and very very safe, as if amongst friends, and I have only been here a short while ,

xxxx

charlene

p.s. i will now bow out of this thread <shudder>

lol

I am a user? and I am trading addictions? You two seem to be quite judgemental -no - let me rephrase that you two ARE quite judgemental - but you have one thing right you OBVIOUSLY dont know what it is I am doing here - your clueless! So maybe you could save your Dr Phil routine for the next noob who will buy into your BS $.50 psychology show because I most certainly am not going to defend my presence here to your likes - but I will make one observation - your outraged over my avatar on a site that has "FORCED CASTRATION" and "FORCED PENECTOMY" as elective interest? ROTFLMAO!@#! THAT IS RICH!

I'm sorry for redacting your post but there are some points I want to address specifically

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Tue Sep 22, 2009 10:47 am So I arrive unexpected for this abduction scene

I am not sure how common the abduction fantasy / scene is in the eunuch community. I'm not going to judge it either, but I suspect that it is the exception rather than the rule, as the eunuch community is very diverse.

The fact that you happen to encounter someone who is or wants to be castrated, has an abduction fantasy and a substance abuse issue has more to do with who that person is as an individual than it does with any particular community. The bottom line is that I don't think you can accurately extrapolate anything about other eunuchs based on your experience with this person.

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Tue Sep 22, 2009 10:47 am it occurs to me that he is a meth or crack head. NOT just a pnp party type guy, he was by and far a serious and whacked out meth or crack head.

From what I have scene, one generally leads directly to the other.

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Tue Sep 22, 2009 10:47 am The georgeous $million+ house was a total shambles, he was a total shambles, it was obvious that he was in the last leg of his addiction and that everything has fallen apart... his body was riddled with meth sores and he was lucky to be 80 pounds soaking wet.. it was definetly more than just having wasting from HIV although that could be part of it as he obviously isnt taking care of himself or anything else, but it was total chaos, like walking into a zoo, with drug supplies everywhere and the neglect, severe severe neglect, I am CERTAIN it was the later stages of being a meth or crack head (sorry I dont know how to distinquish the two)

And all of that, IS par for the course.

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Tue Sep 22, 2009 10:47 am ANYHOW I dont want to sound judgemental, because I am NOT being judgemental, I myself am clean and sober for nearly 22 years, I UNDERSTAND, however, it is not something I was prepared for and not something I ever want to have to deal with again...

Unfortunately meth addiction is epidemic, and it is very difficult to avoid bumping into it from time to time. You may be able to improve your odds a bit by placing "drug free no pnp" in your sex add. Also meeting in a neutral location in a public place for an initial interview before the play date begins is a great way of avoiding people you don't want to be involved with. Who knows, it may even save your life.

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Tue Sep 22, 2009 10:47 am is this an isolated incident? I know that anyone who is willing to have thier balls cut off has issues, hell we ALL have issues wether we are interested in castration or not, but what I mean is this something that goes with the territory? Is this something I would have to expect in dealing with this interest of mine? Are thier lots of healthy minded geldings and I ran across a snag in my first outing or is this commonplace and something that goes along with the package?

I think it is a unique experience rather than an experience typical of eunuchs Sorry I just had to.

I think it needs to be said that there is a huge difference between someone who is willing to have their balls cut off, and the vast majority of eunuchs who desire castration for personal reasons.

The person who is willing to loose their balls for someone else's gratification really does have issues, and to be perfectly honest I think you increased your odds of meeting that person when you set up your play date.

Of course there are healthy SM/BD fantasies, and even castration play can be fine, but there are people for whom the fantasy is driving their reality, and when you add in the pnp factor you are increasing the odds of meeting someone with serious issues. If you want to avoid such people then you will need to screen your play dates more thoroughly.

If you want to meet healthy happy eunuchs, there are plenty of them here. Just be respectful.

jemagirl - thanX for your post and keen observations...

like I had said there does seem to be limited pool of eunuchs - so yeah I would have to agree that I did jump the gun a bit and it was of my doing - no denying that - and it did startle me - so that is why I started this thread for some feedback - yours was quite constructive and insightful....

lol

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 23, 2009 11:26 am I am a user? and I am trading addictions? You two seem to be quite judgemental -no - let me rephrase that you two ARE quite judgemental - but you have one thing right you OBVIOUSLY dont know what it is I am doing here - your clueless! So maybe you could save your Dr Phil routine for the next noob who will buy into your BS $.50 psychology show because I most certainly am not going to defend my presence here to your likes - but I will make one observation - your outraged over my avatar on a site that has "FORCED CASTRATION" and "FORCED PENECTOMY" as elective interest? ROTFLMAO!@#! THAT IS RICH!

In my opinion you ought to show a little more respect to the community you are hoping to learn something about. Otherwise why even bother to come here?

respect isnt a given - its earned - and a two way street....

*that statement is poised for the individuals and not the overall site...

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 23, 2009 11:47 am respect isnt a given - its earned - and a two way street....

*that statement is poised for the individuals and not the overall site...

Well things work a little differently here....

Here it is respect that is given, and reputation which is earned. You came here to learn something about this community. When you chose to disrespect one of the members, you earned something. We don't tolerate that. Had I seen some of your earlier posts, I would not have bothered to respond to your thread.

thats right I did - but I didnt come for my motives to be judged by individuals whom know nothing about me - nor have they obviously cared about the sincere post that I made over and over again to clarify my intentions - I can live with a tarnished reputation - no problem with my growing chain of red stars - but its very apparent I am not alone in the need to learn and grow... like I said previously if you all didnt want outsiders here inquiring about the lifestyle then maybe it should be a closed community - and if you didnt want outsiders here that are interested in sexual matters as well as the others such as health ect - then maybe you need to eliminate those options from the categories and eliminate those options from the profiles - otherwise maybe the approach of hostility and contempt isnt necesarily the most idealistic approach...

I have been attacked here in this thread countless times - I have refuted those attacks with sincere and sensible answers that can not be discredited so each time they come up with a new angle in which to attack - has anyone noticed that not one of my answers has been discredited so its some new angle for attack each time?

I'm not here to win a popularity contest - and MAYBE just MAYBE after seeing all my post it will dawn on you all that I am not here to try to solicite sexual playdates - if so then why would I risk that venture A SECOND TIME by engaging in this unpopular conversation? umm yeah - it is CRYSTAL CLEAR that my purpose here isnt to land a quickie....

*grabs some popcorn and awaits for the next angle of reproach-

ummm - jemagirl you edited your last post - but obviously didnt read my responses clearly - I made no indication to charlenebrown - my post was directed at both chilli and riverwind whom both got quite judgemental - and riverwind even resorted to name calling... a real class act

*note - I have eliminated my avatar by request - because it was requested respectfully - certainly not because of the chilli or riverwind post