sexual relationships

[Blaise (imported)]

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He has told me that fo

r spiritual reasons he restrains from ejaculating.

"

O.O -- I would have a hard time not laughing if someone told me that.

What happens if he does happen to orgasm during a sexual episode? Is he going to beat himself up afterwards (sounds l

ikely)? Maybe get pissed off and wreck shit? I'd be weary...I did laugh, not meanly but with compassion. Sad state of affairs.

[Blaise (imported)]

I suspect much is being made of nothing. Young folks often go through some times of self-exploration that those a bit older have already done. The guy may be a strange duck, but then maybe he is just experimenting with an aspect of his life being. Be cautious, but give life a chance!

Well said. Wise advice.

[chilliwilli (imported)]

hompty-

I'd say leave the guy, he has major issues. You need a guy that has contol of his unit and not a bunch of crap. I'm assuming your the "passive" participant, find a guy that wants it and is respectful. Don't open yourself up for a head case or worse just a bunch of abuse. I maybe wrong, but from my expirience a person needs to explore their problems outside a relationship and come to the table ready to enjoy all life has to offer. Problems come later.

But...hold on...how old is this guy and what is his history...did you lure married man...how close is he to his family and what are they like?

Hompty you kind of left us hanging on this one!

chilli-

[curious1 (imported)]

I would suggest caution with this guy, but would not just write him off as crazy just yet. I would suggest you dig a little deeper as to why this guy does not want to ejaculate. Perhaps there are some larger issues there than what he has let on.

[nullorchis (imported)]

Ask him what church he goes to, and there is your most likely answer!!! Also, if your serious about him then you need to tell him your little secret and then if he is still interested find the root of his problem!

Many churches make males feel guilty for ejaculating out of wed lock especially my old one. One time the leader of the church spoke in a church wide private sermon to just the males, and told us that it was a sin to speed up our little factories.... yeah that put a big guilt trip on a lot of young men.

In the early stages of my life

I learned of the Tooth Fairy.

I learned that was just make belive.

Then I learned of the Easter Bunny.

Fake fur.

Then along came Santa Claus.

Take a hike fly boy.

Finally it came time for me to be introduced to religion.

After 3 strikes, I was older and wiser. I didn't bite.

Fortunately I discovered Secular Humanism.

For me it is Life Without Guilt, and about personal growth and personal responsibility.

It is life Without being preached to, at, or being controlled by others.

Dealing with people is a lot like playing a poker card game.

You have got to know when to hold 'em, and know when to fold 'em.

It's hard to throw out a loosing hand,

But it's dumb to keep on playing.

[Blaise (imported)]

Alaska has no poison ivy. If a man has Alaska, he has no need of secular humanism. Of course, Hazel Mote from Flannery O'Connor's masterwork Wise Blood said, "Man what have a good car, don't need Jesus."

[nullorchis (imported)]

I spent a year in Alaska, and did some additional travel there as well.

It is wonderful....to visit.

But like many places I don't think I could live there.

Too many people.

Animals don't need religion, and people don't either.

However we are taught that we need it.

So we think we need it.

We need sunlight, air, water, food, shelter (clothing is optional).

Some people think/believe they don't need sexual engagement.

We need sex.

As long as we have ourself, there is at least one person to have a sexual relationship with. And while perhaps not the most fulfilling of relationships, it is a relationship that we have full control over. If that one starts to go bad, you are out of options.

[chilliwilli (imported)]

As long as we have ourself, there is at least one person to have a sexual relationship with. And while perhaps not the most fulfilling of relationships, it is a relationship that we have full control over. If that one starts to go bad, you are out of options.

...you could always call your mum.

just a wee suggestion.

chilli-

[twaddler (imported)]

"

As long as we have ourself, there is at least one person to have a sexual relationship with.

"

Didn't Whitney Houston do a song about that way back when?

[Hash (imported)]

He's scared to get further involved because you are a eunuch and that seems unnatural to him.