It's been a while everyone, and I do apolgise. Everyone here has been a wonderful support, and this is truely a wonderful community to be able to belong.
It's hard to describe the emotional impact of recieving the cut. Often the body becomes gentle and emotionally fragile. Depression can often creap in if you don't take care. (Which I didn't!). But of course there are wonderful changes in the body too; reduce sexual urges, a feeling peace and serenity when if you listen carefully to your body.
For me, the biggest issue was Identity. I wasn't male, but I'm definitely not female. Remember, if you have the cut you are no longer male - and need to be prepared for how you will deal with this when interacting with society at large. (especially a lovely lady you may have chance to meet in a bar!)
Asking these questions lead me to the Transexual forums, people there are lovely and supportive, just as the people here are. But what is amazing is just how much we share in common: we both look in the mirror and are not happy at the extra apendage(s). Both feel that testosterone is poisoning our perfect body and creating annoying urges.
After a lot of talking, finally, I know exactly what I am; what a few here may be perhaps. Neither and both at the same time. We might very well be the Third Gender; the thin line between Yin and Yang. Not easily classifiable in terms of behaviour.
You can take the COGIATI test (HERE (
http://transsexual.org/cgi-bin/cgitest.exe?) ) which is industry standard for identifying (and separating) Transexuals, Transvestites and other gender dysphoric syndromes.
I suspect many (like me) will probably be diagnosed as "Androgenous" in behaviour. You will have female charateristics and male ones, in no particular preference.
[If anyone else takes this test, I would be very interested to hear the results! ]
And that's what I feel I am. A gentle male. I look and behave male with people, because it is easiest understood for someone who doesn't know me.
I've come to accept that I'm more female inside than I look outside. But that's alright. This is how I'm meant to be.
Like one transexual says on her website:
We are wonderful people! In history, we have been World Leaders, honoured citizens of asian empires, treasured possessions of the Roman Empire, holy beings able to give blessings to marriages in India, and EVEN survived the smouldering kilns of Auschwitz. We are very special.
We are still here! And it's wonderous!