New Eunuch FAQ Online & Request For Suggestions

[Robby (imported)]

hi,

so my lover has just come out to me that 'he' is considering castration. I haven't read too much on here about the effect it has on people already in relationships.

I support him in any way that I can, but there isn't much beyond that I can do.

He needs to know how to make himself happy. I suppose I'm just attempting to educate myself as much as possible.

I don't feel I can be in a romantic relationship without any physically sexual aspect, but I dont want to loose him either.

I understand that castration lowers sex drive and such, but it is still possible to be sexually intimate.

I suppose im just wondering if I should really know anything else, or react in a different way.

I'm a little lost and unsure how I feel about things. I really apreciate this site though. Thank You.

Damaged s,

I am personally happy to hear you are interested in your loved one... hope the action between the sheets is going well today. That may not be the case after the final cut and you need to be as supportive as possible by educating yourself much like you are doing here.

Happiness is in the eye of the beholder... where did I hear that before? Find as many causes you can muster from your loved one for this course of action. Discussing every aspect of his needs to ensure nothing goes unturned will go a long way in understanding his and your needs.

Talk about your mental and physical needs with lover boy... he needs to hear your wants, desires and hopes for your future as a couple. Find his most vulnerable moment for this discussion, it will simulate life in the future state.

Honey, sexual gratification begins in the heart... you either want it or give it. This needs to be a discussion topic in point number three above.

We have hours upon hours of reading here on EA. Do a Google search on "Testicular Cancer" to find support sites where guys and gals discuss the needs of men who have undergone surgery for this most common young male affliction. The after affects of this surgery is good reading in your quest for information. The before state is not even close because most men do not seek castration but a few select men who choose are unique in stature.

Keep us posted on your progress. This site is most helpful to those seeking knowledge, especially from those who succeeded in the "final cut" follow through.

Take care,

[bryan (imported)]

DamagedRoses,

Chickened out of a private message after the Board had some problems right as I was going to PM you. Maybe it doesn't like the leading underscore in your name? Or just coincidence.

I read your profile. You say he's questioning his gender? You even put 'he' in quotes in your post. I don't offer you much hope. I underwent castration six months ago and transgender issues are still around. I've embraced the changes castration brought about and feel more female inside as a result. To top it off, I'm asexual now.

As long as you can keep testosterone in him, he will probably be able to cope as a male -- and be a nice one at that. But there's a good chance these issues will emerge later, maybe years from now.

You can read more at my life story, but figured it would be good to give you an 'executive summary' first since the story is long:

http://www.eunuch.org/vbulletin/

showthread.php?t=8265

If you want to keep this conversation going, please be bold and start a new thread so we don't cause thread drift on the FAQ thread.

Welcome to EA,

Bryan

[JeffEunuch (imported)]

so my lover has just come out to me that 'he' is considering castration. I haven't read too much on here about the effect it has on people already in relationships. I support him in any way that I can, but there isn't much beyond that I can do. He needs to know how to make himself happy. I suppose I'm just attempting to educate myself as much as possible. I don't feel I can be in a romantic relationship without any physically sexual aspect, but I dont want to loose him either. I understand that castration lowers sex drive and such, but it is still possible to be sexually intimate. I suppose im just wondering if I should really know anything else, or react in a different way. I'm a little lost and unsure how I feel about things. I really apreciate this site though. Thank You.

Your lover is so lucky to have such an understanding partner. It's good that you're hanging in there with him. It's also understandable that you don't think the relationship would survive his becoming asexual if that was the outcome of his being castrated. Of course, neutered men can continue to be sexually active, especially if they receive testosterone supplements.