Loosethem, it may have had something to do with the fact that I refused a referal to a urologist. I told her I would get someone else to do the pre-op, which I did. She wanted me to get her approval, which I didn't need. She was of the opinion that my wife needed a hysterectomy, and I didn't need surgery. It's been my experience that you better do your own research. Medical professionals have been trained by a system that's all about separating you from your dollar, not about improving your quality of life.

I can only agree with that. I really don't know why it's so complicated to get castrated.

It wasn't as complicated as I thought it would be. Finding a good surgeon with a helpful staff really smooths things out. I was lucky I guess. From decision to cut only took about 2 months. But I had started the process a couple years ago and health issues made me back off. I had researched for years and the wife and I had been discussing this for several years. I had also been in contact with a mental health professional for a couple years that was very helpful. My a wife is very happy with the results so far, as am I.

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Sat Aug 31, 2024 7:28 am I was cut on Wednesday. It is now Friday. I think I'm doing OK. I am taking my antibiotics. The actual incision site is very dark. Like it has some blood caught in the skin between the stitches, it is still weeping a little. I know everyone is different, but I was wondering how long that might last.There is no pain in the scrotum. I asked the surgeon to get as much cord as possible. I think she did a good job with that. The cord stumps have migrated up the canal to be level with the top part of my penis. They are somewhat sore. All I have been taking for pain is Tylenol and something the surgeon prescribed me for muscle spasms she warned me I would have in the cord stumps. I haven't been very diligent with the pain meds because, to be very honest, I haven't been in a lot of pain. They did tell me I could take Aleve 48 hours after surgery. I was an ice warrior the past two days. Over the years I've worked with plenty of sprains and bruises to know ice helps the first couple days, after that it just keeps you from healing. So no ice from here out. So far there has been very little bruising. Can I expect that to show up at this point? I'm not the type of person to sit still, so I'm up and about a good bit. Just wondering if all of this is normal. Thanks.

That's awesome who cut you??

That's awesome who cut you??

In other posts he made he noted it was a place called Cosmetic Concierge in Charlotte, NC.

After looking at your profile, I would request politely that you change it. We do not allow the seeking of cutters on the EA. There are many legitimate options available these days, though at your age, I would suspect it might take you a while to be able to seek and take advantage of them. No worries in your seeking this, I wanted it done when I was your age. I can tell you it might take a while, but my waiting until I was in my 30's to finally achieve it hasn't otherwise been an impediment to my living life.

So go forward, seek legitimate surgical solutions, and we'll all be happy to lend you an ear as you navigate this.

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Tue Sep 03, 2024 12:17 pm Loosethem, it may have had something to do with the fact that I refused a referal to a urologist. I told her I would get someone else to do the pre-op, which I did. She wanted me to get her approval, which I didn't need. She was of the opinion that my wife needed a hysterectomy, and I didn't need surgery. It's been my experience that you better do your own research. Medical professionals have been trained by a system that's all about separating you from your dollar, not about improving your quality of life.

There's certainly a reason those of us who came to this for other reasons (both valid IMHO), used to do this largely through non-legitimate means. It's a good thing we all have legitimate help available now. I look forward to hearing how this has brought peace to both you and your wife's lives once it's had a chance to settle in and work a bit.

I wish more men had this available to them, it would probably be helpful to folks in your situation immensely.

I've dealt with it.

I guess I'm going to have to start reading each and every profile on here now for latter edits...

Loosethem, Thank you for answering that. I hate not to respond, but I wasn't sure how to. As for how things are going. It's 10 days in now. I've read a lot over the years. I knew to expect changes over months

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Sat Aug 31, 2024 7:28 am . I know everyone is different,

so I can only express how castration is affecting me. Both my wife and I have been pleasantly surprised at how quickly my sex drive has been affected. I needed sex daily. When we were younger, my wife took care of that for me. Age and health problems have interfered with that over the last few years. Removal of the testicles immediately reduced that. Oh, I still want sex, but when I don't get it I'm not angry and aggressive. I'm a lot calmer and less prone to agitation. My wife says the difference is amazing. So, so far so good. I'm sure the next few months will bring more changes.

Thank you TheHavier for this expression of feelings. You're an inspiration for men in the same situation as yours (I could say ours), living with a lovely spouse with no sex drive. You add to the other numerous testimonies I read in the EA.

Wish you the best in your recovery and hope that you will tell us more about your evolution in this new life.

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Sun Sep 08, 2024 6:50 am Loosethem, Thank you for answering that. I hate not to respond, but I wasn't sure how to. As for how things are going. It's 10 days in now. I've read a lot over the years. I knew to expect changes over months

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. I know everyone is different,

so I can only express how castration is affecting me. Both my wife and I have been pleasantly surprised at how quickly my sex drive has been affected. I needed sex daily. When we were younger, my wife took care of that for me. Age and health problems have interfered with that over the last few years. Removal of the testicles immediately reduced that. Oh, I still want sex, but when I don't get it I'm not angry and aggressive. I'm a lot calmer and less prone to agitation. My wife says the difference is amazing. So, so far so go
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od. I'm sure the next few months will bring more changes.

No worries about how to respond. You can respond, or not, as you wish. I will say that your experience is valuable to many men we've had come here over the years who wanted to know how it helped someone in your situation. Now we have someone who has done it for these exact reasons sticking around and sharing his experience, post-castration, and your posts will prove incredibly useful to those men.

Many men are in marriages where their high sex drives were causing issues with the other parts of their marriages, which were otherwise fine. Often times, it's the wife who is seen as the obvious choice to make surgical interventions to their bodies in the interest of their marriages (hysterectomies or tubal ligations for family planning, for example). This is a rare case where the male has made a surgical sacrifice to get the marriage on a more even physical keel.

I have to admire you for making this irreversible change to your body to help your wife. If that's not love, I don't know what is. I wish you both happiness as you move forward with enjoying life.

I've been here looking for information for years. I found a lot of information related to castration that led me to believe that it would help me, and my wife in our situation. I found very little information relating to men in my situation. I did have a couple guys reach out to me through private messages that give me information that proved to be helpful. I am thankful for them. Neither of them had been castrated at the time, both were searching for help, like me. One has since been castrated, the other still looking for answers. I wish both of them the best. It seems that men in my situation fade into the shadows once they find the relief they were searching for. We are rare, but there are other men like me out there. The therapist that provided the letter for me told me that he has spoken to as many as six guys in a year searching for help like me. The anesthesiologist that attended me during my surgery told me that she has been with my surgeon for 2 1/2 years, and in that time she had attended 5 other men in situations like mine that got orchiectomies. So I know that there will be others to scan through looking for answers to the question, "did castration help?" I can only say that right now, at only two weeks in, it seems to have helped me. Over the next few months, things may change, I expect some things to change. I will try to stop by from time to time to give updates.

And Loosethem, Thank You, and yes, I Love my wife dearly! She is, and has always been my Soul Mate! She was the hesitant one, but, she has been very happy witb the results so far, and she has been so thankful for me being brave enough to go through with it!