My boyfriend was recently castrated

[Losethem (imported)]

Thank you so much for your reply.

You're welcome. One of the good things about this particular site is that it tends to focus on the reality of what it is to be a eunuch than most other sites with similar subject matter do. We believe in truth here.

I'd not have suggestions for groups that have men who have been castrated young, I wish I did.

To answer your latest questions:

I do maintain my secondary sex characteristics on synthetic testosterone, and have been without my testicles for nearly 16 years now. When you speak of "spontaneous erections" do you mean things like morning wood, and other just out of the blue situations where he become erect without either wanting it or manipulating himself to get one? I'd say I may have had those in the beginning, but as I aged I noticed they were less frequent. While I still had my penis, I could get erect anytime I wanted to. Essentially sexual desire and ability to have it didn't go away, the only thing I lost with my testicles was my fertility. With testosterone, and the fact his cancer was testicular, I'm not seeing a reason why he shouldn't be prescribed testosterone. I'd likely go with injections, as the gels wipe off with sweat or swimming. There are also pellets that can be implanted that last longer than the twice monthly injections I take, but I can't get my doctor to prescribe them, but maybe his will be more open to it.

Your BF's erection will likely start to diminish when his testosterone does. I'm seriously curious why his doctors have not already put him on testosterone replacement. He should be asking about that... it would likely return him to a state, sexually, similar to what he had before. No guarantee, but without it, he's very likely to lose those abilities until he starts using testosterone. Obviously I do not use any of the erectile dysfunction medications as I had my penis removed about 10 years after my testicles, but what I can report is that when i had my penis, I never needed them. I could get erections.

Dry orgasms... I only experienced that one time, VERY BRIEFLY before I went on testosterone injections shortly after my testicles were removed. It was an interesting experience. It felt just like a wet orgasm. The situation was I was masturbating before bed one night, had my handy clean-up cloth on my nightstand, and when I had my orgasm, I went to clean-up and there was no mess to clean. Once I realized that, I just put my unused cloth down and rolled over and went to sleep. It was an interesting and pleasant thing that happened.... I got all the enjoyment out of it without having to clean up after.

Even as I am now, I still have the ability to ejaculate. One thing you BF can offer many ladies now as you mentioned he enjoys time with more than just yourself is he has absolutely NO ability to get a woman pregnant. That should be a positive for women who are concerned playing with a guy has that risk. I'd imagine it could be quite liberating for a female to have sex with a male who is 100% certain not to get her pregnant.

I guess all this is a long way to say he can still enjoy his body once he's on testosterone. He should pursue it though his care team. Being a eunuch is not the end of his sex life, but it's just the beginning of a whole new way to experience it.

[JoeGreenParadox (imported)]

I had a radical prostectomy. All gone. Damaged a few nerves in my perianal region. Took a few months to regain reliable urine control. All is fine now. I no longer get erections, and my penis is shrinking. I suspect blood vessel damage during the operation. Caverject works OK. Cialis, Viagra, other meds never did anything for me, before or after. Vacuum pumping still works.

Dry orgasms - the only kind I get anymore. Significant differences - no mess to clean up (yes, it makes a difference.) orgasms last twice or three times as long. Sometimes mind bending. I miss ejaculation sometimes, but extended orgasm is a great consolation prize.

I am concerned about the competence of your Primary Care Physician. Depression is often a consequence of loss of testosterone. Depression is often underrated as a dangerous condition. Your BF sounds depressed as much as anything else. For Doc to say "well, might lose erections altogether", without actively trying to provide Hormone Replacement Therapy, is, to me, extremely insensitive. Serious depression, alone, can suppress sex drive. Mood elevators should be seriously considered.

Loss of erections, over time, can (will) cause penis shrinkage. That is not something to mess with. It needs to be addressed promptly.

Yes, there are sleazy or incompetent docs out there. My first prostate doctor was a con artist, and I caught him in an exaggeration. Second, the one that performed the operation, was one of the best in the midwest.

I would seriously entertain the possibility that his low mood is a consequence of castrate testosterone levels, and not much driven by sense of loss of masculinity, masquerading as primary cause.

[StellaStone (imported)]

Losethem:

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I could get erect anytime I wanted to. Essentially sexual desire and ability to have it didn't go away”

Dry orgasms... I only experienced that shortly after my testicles were removed. It was an interesting experience. It felt just like a wet orgasm

That is very encouraging for me and my BF. Since you had only one ‘dry orgasm’ I guess you did not notice if the intensity you experienced was diminished at all from when you shot cume? He is worried about that. Neither he nor I would miss him shooting cume, that would be advantage. We do wonder if prostate atrophy would actually be more healthy and avoid prostate problems later in life.

Losethem:

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I'm not seeing a reason why he shouldn't be prescribed testosterone”

“I'm seriously curious why his doctors have not already put him on testosterone replacement”

“he can still enjoy his body once he's on testosterone. He should pursue it though his care team.

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So far he has had severe negative reaction to testosterone just as he did to chemical castration. Several have been tried. Unless this can be overcome he may be destined to be conventional eunuch.

It seems if he is able to respond well to testosterone he could resume almost normal sexual activity, not so much a problem.

But for now it seems there is possibility he becomes a eunuch as in ancient times. So far he is still able to have very strong erections, orgasms, and even shoot cume out his penis. But I do worry how long that will continue, in what ways it might diminish, and how well erectile meds work if he becomes impotent. Docs say he may continue for some time before diminishing.

That is the reason I search for other contacts to learn of the experience of other heterosexual, sexually active, young men having been castrated unwillingly and eunuch not on HRT.

Losethem:

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One thing you BF can offer many ladies now as you mentioned he enjoys time with more than just yourself is he has absolutely NO ability to get a woman pregnant. That should be a positive for women who are concerned playing with a guy has that risk. I'd imagine it could be quite liberating for a female to have sex with a male who is 100% certain not to get her pregnant

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Yes, this is a very big plus, you are certainly right about that, far too often birth control is left up to women and the consequences also left up to women. I try to encourage him that that is a benefit of being a eunuch (my housemate history professor has related to us in the short course she gave us on castration and eunuchs about the use of eunuchs by wealthy women in ancient Rome). I know I don’t want any children from him. We are not romantically involved, basically we have always been ‘fuck-buddies’, I guess I should refer to him as my FB rather than my BF. He is a very nice, pretty boy and we are very good friends but only FB not romantically involved.

[JessicaH (imported)]

It seems really strange that his doc didn’t immediately start him on testosterone cypionate. 1ml of 200mg/ml per week and he should be functioning back at 100% and the longer he waits to start the more likely he is to not get optimum results. He is young so his docs need to make sure he has an age appropriate T level and not just the lowest “acceptable range”. His levels should be around 1000 where low below 400 for older men.

[AcordingIP (imported)]

Notwithstanding the previous learned replies, this original post just doesn't seem to stack up. Or it just me?

[Losethem (imported)]

There's a couple of those floating around in here as of late. A lot of the 'ole, "Yes, yes, but..." as an excuse as to why what those of us who have done these things give as advice cannot possibly work in their case.

Tiring. Very tiring.

[AcordingIP (imported)]

LT - We have spoken many times on this site and others. I have the utmost respect for you and regard your advice as sage.

As one who has nullification surgery scheduled, like you I am quite well versed in the opinions of the medical community regarding our much maligned position. My concern stems from the seemingly inadequate response of the healthcare provider regarding this individual and raises questions in my cynical mind as to the authenticity of the post. I cannot believe that HRT would be denied from the outset.

Clearly I am overthinking the issue and apologise for any offense caused.

[PinoyEunuch (imported)]

Sorry if my post will sound harsh. English is not my primary language.

I also find it hard to digest that a guy loses his testicles and the doctors are not prescribing TRT right away. Is there an underlying cause for not starting TRT? Are there any medical conditions that could cause adverse reaction when using external testosterone for guy who used to have testosterone in his system? If he's allergic to injections then maybe oral testosterone will do. His condition will not improve unless he gets testosterone in his system.

[DeaconBlues (imported)]

This is my first time posting here so posting in introduction. Not sure which thread this interest fits or if appropriate subject. My interest is the psychological effects of medical castration on young men.

One of my boyfriends was recently castrated for medical reasons and not now or the immediate future on hormone replacement therapy due to cancer.

He did not want to be castrated....

I believe the original poster (Stella Stone) said that he was not on TRT because of cancer. There are some types of cancer that are "testosterone antagonized," that is to say that the presence of normal levels of testosterone will cause the tumors to grow faster and metastasize sooner. It is entirely reasonable that a patient who is castrated would want to wait until the cancer has "gone into remission" before trying any level of TRT.

[PinoyEunuch (imported)]

I was under the impression that the boyfriend had testicular cancer as per the poster's post. Usually, TRT is prescribed as a hormone replacement for that kind of cancer. Did I miss something in the post as to why TRT cannot be administered? The cancer that I know of that would be triggered by testosterone would be prostate cancer which I think is not the boyfriend's case. Hence I asked if there was some other underlying medical condition that would prevent him from getting TRT. Again, pardon my post if this would come off as rude.