As a gay man, I can explain tops and bottoms very easily. Gay men want to know what a potential sex partner or boyfriend is into enjoying sexually, and what they are seeking sexually from other men. Unlike str8 sex where its very obvious who penetrates who and how, gay men have many choices to choose from. And most Gay men want to know it fast, accurately, and in some detail to decide who to pursue for sex when they meet other gay men.

Top is both sexual act preferences during sex and also interaction between two men out of bed and socially and between each man as well. Bottom or submissive is also both sexual act preferences and how they desire to interact with a man socially and personally. There are endless degrees and variations of what each man considers or desires as a top or bottom and what he ideally is seeking from a top or bottom sex or social partner or one night stand. But these simplified classifications narrow the field of prospective sex partners for many gay men s search for a willing sex partner who will enjoy sex acts and personal interaction as defined generally under these two roles.

Yeah! That’s what I was thinking!!!! ^

Zach

I used to be a sissy, then bi, then a power bottom, then a Top, then a switch, then I went Alpha for fat chicks, then I got married, then I started growing myboobs, then I became a TS CD Top. Hell, I don’t even know what I am. I have issues. LoL I guess it’s all what you make of it.

Tops generally are the more bossy, leading, protective, assertive, aggressive, masculine, demanding, high sex driven, and outgoing partner for bottoms.

Bottoms are generally less of those things listed above and tend to be more loving, gentle, caring, emotional, feminine or masculine but still are less interested in being the penetrating sexual partner, and enjoy a more assertive partner.

In sex acts, obviously the tops prefer to penetrate with their penis and the bottoms prefer to receive penises orally and anally. Pretty simple. But most men also love variety and most do enjoy sampling both sides of this pairing by flipping roles every now and then.

Lots of tops find other tops very attractive and work out who does what to and for each other both in bed and in personally interacting with each other.

Many bottoms find other bottoms more attractive and harmonious for partners than tops. They also work out who does what and for whom between themselves.

But it encompasses a lot of different facets of both sexual preferences and social interaction to help men quickly communicate what they are offering and what they are seeking.

Masculine and feminine can be in either roles or two masculine men or two feminine men can also top and bottom for each other as a couple or lovers. This happens a lot since these roles include most of your non sexual activities like interests, hobbies, sports, jobs, travel, and all of the other parts of life out of bed where two masculine men or two feminine men may share more common interests, goals, activities, and personality features than a masculine man paired with a feminine man would.

There are really nearly endless ways to play out these roles.

Some couples prefer equality and sharing the same roles equally. This is very popular too.

Some pairs might be one role in sex and take the opposite roles in jobs, finances, social interactions, and interacting with other people outside the couple s own interactions. Or play out different roles and duties in daily life than in bed with each other.

Before people scream at me about stereotyping and the usual political correctness, this is just the fast explanation of these terms and roles. Gay men want sex and willing partners in sex and in life and they don t want to spend hours grilling each other with questions and sexual details when they meet every man.

The whole point of these terms and roles is to cut through the BS and get down to what am I offering and what am I seeking with other men quickly and efficiently. Its not to cuddle easily offended men. Don t expect it to be what it is not intended to be.

cutnbulls2ox (imported) wrote: Thu Sep 12, 2019 7:53 pm Before people scream at me about stereotyping and the usual political correctness, this is just the fast explanation of these terms and roles. Gay men want sex and willing partners in sex and in life and they don t want to spend hours grilling each other with questions and sexual details when they meet every man.

The whole point of these terms and roles is to cut through the BS and get down to what am I offering and what am I seeking with other men quickly and efficiently. Its not to cuddle easily offended men. Don t expect it to be what it is not intended to be.

Well put! it is pretty much how to cut to the chase when seeking out a gay partner. its unfortunate and stereotypical but what works, works.

kristoff wrote: Thu Sep 12, 2019 6:23 pm If you make five posts on the forums, the private message system will open up for you. You need 3 more.

Thanks for the heads up;)

ampnullolvr (imported) wrote: Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:09 pm Well put! it is pretty much how to cut to the chase when seeking out a gay partner. its unfortunate and stereotypical but what works, works.

Can Confirm.

You ll also find that in most places, like gay bars, gyms, and social gatherings, there are many more men who want to be bottoms than there are men who want to be tops. This is very well known among gay men. It can commonly be 5 to 10 bottoms per one top in many places where gay men gather. So with tops in high demand and in short supply, lots of gay men do hope that any masculine men that they meet will want to be tops. Being masculine goes with many men s ideal of what they want in a top.

If Zach is masculine in his looks and behavior, hopeful bottoms will seek him out, and hope that he is a top. Assuming he is just comes with being a masculine gay man and wishful thinking by a lot of bottom men.

Zach can still easily perform all of the gay top man duties and expectations including topping with a strap on or using the rest of his manly body in all the other kinds of sexual acts that gay men love engaging in together. Socially and one on one Zach can be a stunning top in his behaviors and non sexual daily activities with no problem at all !

The primal instinct of penetration and procreation is strong. Anything else is 'social intercourse'?