SplitDik (imported) wrote: Wed Jun 24, 2015 9:12 pm The problem is that for some of us here, the desire for penectomy or castration is a fetish or an obsession that is unrelated to gender identity. Basically, we have episodes of dislike for our genitals that can result in great, irreparable self-harm but underneath we really "like" or at least feel attached to our genitals as they are. So this story is a good lesson for those of us like that -- that the reality of losing a penis while still otherwise oriented as a typical man has some harsh consequences.

You'll be amazed how many people that want to become kind of neutrois. I also have an account on a asexual site.

These data is just a guess, but based on what asexual women writes. !!!

For each 10 women that want bottomsurgery 6 wants topsurgery.

For each 10 women, 3 want a blank body as if there were used an eraser.

For each 10 women 1 man wants bottomsurgery( penectomy+castration )

Of course there's a bodyimage in society, what I want is that we should all be giving the possibility to have it the way we want. By searching forums/sites we could get a reallitycheck.

SplitDik (imported) wrote: Wed Jun 24, 2015 9:12 pm The problem is that for some of us here, the desire for penectomy or castration is a fetish or an obsession....

And then there are guys like my husband Tim, who have a fantasy of having their penises forcibly taken from them against their will. That's mixed emotions to the extreme. Tim has had his fantasy since grade school, and it's been more or less fulfilled. He's dealing with the aftermath well, but he's not one to talk much about his feelings, and I wonder how much he has the feelings described in the article.

His role in our marriage has not changed; he's still my man, and we have an active sex life, albeit with dildos and his fingers rather than his now-missing penis. I'm occasionally able to give him an orgasm by using a vibrator, though it's not reliable, and he often opts to get his pleasure vicariously from my orgasms. He's never said he has a problem with his testicles being more vulnerable, though having them beaten is another of his fantasies, so maybe he considers that a plus. It took him a while to get used to sitting to urinate, though with the reroute, he probably has fewer problems than the guy in the article.

All things considered, I think his main problem in adjusting is psychological, and I wish he'd give me a better window into what he's feeling.

Sandi

I know this is an old thread, but I stumbled on the parent article a few days ago and was going to post the link in the penectomy forum, but in searching for it again, I discovered that it was already here.

Personally given the problems this poor guy is having with pain, sex and urinating, were it me, I would go back to the urologist and get him to remove the stump and create a re route. This may not solve the pain problem, which is possibly more psychological than actual given that he was forced to have the penectomy due to cancer, but it would certainly solve the urination and sexual problems.

I really feel for this guy in his situation.

Thank you for posting this again. I really enjoyed reading it.