After your surgery: Did you tell your friends about your surgery? Reactions?

[micdavi24 (imported)]

Most people won't notice the loss, and the few that do likely won't ask or say anything. Most prostheses are hard and non-malleable - even the saline filled ones - very unnatural. There is a new, but expensive set available that are fairly "normal" feeling, but most insurance won't cover them. Urologist has been trying to convince me to use them and I want him to cut the damned scrotum off. Good luck

Kristoff, I hear you. On my last visit to my urologist I mentioned that that the empty bag was very uncomfortable. He then asked whether I wanted him to put something in it and I laughed and told him I would rather have it removed. He told me to come and see him when I was ready. Since this is basically an elective procedure and very expensive here in Australia I will have to wait and save up. I am seeing a general surgeon on October 23rd to see whether I can have it done through Medicare as a necessity in which case if it can be done will cost me nothing.

[Kangan2008 (imported)]

I tell people only on a "need-to-know" basis. This includes my immediate family, my doctor(s), and some very select close friends. There is a lot of bad information out there regarding castration and the desire for it. Be careful who you tell.

[tugon (imported)]

I have only had one long term friend reject me when I told him. The few friends I have told were kind and accepting. My family does not know. Interestingly I lost a number of friends when I came out as a victim of sexual assault and abuse so I should not be surprised that the friends who stuck around would be accepting. It will never be general knowledge.

[Frida G Cavic (imported)]

I tell people only on a "need-to-know" basis. This includes my immediate family, my doctor(s), and some very select close friends. There is a lot of bad information out there regarding castration and the desire for it. Be careful who you tell.

You´re right. That is , especially true in some countries, Where I live a male chauvinist-homofobic-transfobic culture is too deeply rooted.

A man who desires being castrated would be easily pegged as " insane queer".

Commonly, one can expect verbal aggressions and, I´ve heard, some cases of physical aggressions to people who live freely their sexual preference.

Such a Ignorance and phobia degree does exist.

Nowadays in a civilizated culture being gay, transgender, eunuch or whatever should not be hidden from the world. Should not be a problem

Besides, I think It´s a very personal matter. And no one should be learned, not unless you want to.

That is the main reason which I would never tell anybody what I´m doing. As I have written only one friend knows about and in the future perhaps I tell someone else only If necessary and only If I trust in that person.

My partner doesn´t know about my chemical castration but he has started to suspect as he has noticed some changes in my body:-

Not long ago I made him the comment that I may change my gender after some years. He put a delighted and whoa! expression on his face Probably It´s time to him is already learned.

I don´t mean that is the same situation everywhere. And it is not a complain:D. I only want to remark what actually most pople are living in certain places.

And I can´t help feeling frustrated about it:(

[ZeuterMe (imported)]

My immediate family know as do two friends, both of whom suffer with the same problem that caused me to desire the removal of my testicles. I told them that I was now totally pain free and that besides for the lack of my balls and pain, I was totally normal in all ways. Two of my female friends also know and neither of them could care less. They found out that I had been in for a small surgery and asked what it was. I decided to try to shock them but that backfired as the both asked why I had waited for so long to have it done.

My two male friends looked green when I told them and mooted the possibility of them considering my solution, but I guess they either hadn't had problems for as long as I had or their problems aren't as severe as mine were or else were just not ready for the finality of the solution.

I was introduced to the idea in 1999 or 2000, and tried to wrap my head around it on and off since then, and it's taken me a year of pain to think I'd

be okay fixing myself, instead of fixing my balls. :p

My urologist has recommended an orchiectomy because of the poor condition of my testes, and the small lump on the Left one. If and when I have the surgery, I most likely will only tell those closest to me, and others will just hear that I went in for a hernia repair. I am a nudist, so I will opt for saline-filled prosthetic implants, only because I don't want to have to explain constantly why I don't have any balls. If for some reason, the implants don't work out, I will probably just leave the sack empty and deal with it. I do admire a nice set of low hangers, so I'm going to ask for the largest size available,

and given my stature, 6'1", 220lbs, I can't walk a

round with tiny testicles (as they are now from atrophy).

Most people won't notice the loss, and the few that do likely won't ask or say anything. Most prostheses are hard and non-malleable - even the saline filled ones - very unnatural. There is a new, but expensive set available that are fairly "normal" feeling, but most insurance won't c

over them. Urologist has been trying to convince me to use them and I want him to cut the damned scrotum off. Good luck

You know, I'm pretty sure high-end neuticles are significantly better imitations than most human-targeted prosthetics. I also saw a video of someone having horse-sized (the "Equine & Bull Small", I think) put in after his were removed. Aha - here it is! (http://www.bobweekend.com/neuter_web/) If I have to tell you this is NSFW, you are probably on the wrong forum. One does not, however, need to order 'em THAT big.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

It seems to do little good to tell, and given the uncertain reception, it seems generally wise to keep these things quiet. First, do no harm.

Society is unforgiving of diversity....

[Riverwind (imported)]

Family yes, friends only on very rare occasions. I told my ex-wife within a month after I was castrated and told her to tell the kids, it was a very smart move. As for friends, I have told a few, very few, they have all been OK with it I think because its something that I have not spread about. Of course all my doctors know and know why its not a matter of if they care or not, they have no opinion one way or the other and if they did I would not care. I have found that women are more excepting then men, I guess its the family jewels thing.

River

[micdavi24 (imported)]

I have found that women are more excepting then men, I guess its the family jewels thing. River

I would definitely agree with this statement.

[Mac (imported)]

You´re right. That is , especially true in some countries, Where I live a male chauvinist-homofobic-transfobic culture is too deeply rooted.

A man who desires being castrated would be easily pegged as " insane queer".

Commonly, one can expect verbal aggressions and, I´ve heard, some cases of physical aggressions to people who live freely their sexual preference.

Such a Ignorance and phobia degree does exist.

Nowadays in a civilizated culture being gay, transgender, eunuch or whatever should not be hidden from the world. Should not be a problem

Besides, I think It´s a very personal matter. And no one should be learned, not unless you want to.

That is the main reason which I would never tell anybody what I´m doing. As I have written only one friend knows about and in the future perhaps I tell someone else only If necessary and only If I trust in that person.

My partner doesn´t know about my chemical castration but he has started to suspect as he has noticed some changes in my body:-

Not long ago I made him the comment that I may change my gender after some years. He put a delighted and whoa! expression on his face Probably It´s time to him is already learned.

I don´t mean that is the same situation everywhere. And it is not a complain:D. I only want to remark what actually most pople are living in certain places.

And I can´t help feeling frustrated about it:(

There appears to be a big difference toward sex related surgeries with respect to gender. There appears to be a big negative view toward castration and/or penectomy. However, the same negative does not exist with respect to masectomy, hysterectomy, or removal of the ovaries. Whis is this?

[micdavi24 (imported)]

There appears to be a big difference toward sex related surgeries with respect to gender. There appears to be a big negative view toward castration and/or penectomy. However, the same negative does not exist with respect to masectomy, hysterectomy, or removal of the ovaries. Whis is this?

I think I can give a possible reason behind this. I will leave mastectomy out of the equation as this is almost uniquely a female orientated surgery. Not that men don't also get breast cancer, but the numbers compared to females is infinitesimal.

With regards to castration and penectomy compared to hysterectomy and ovary removal, I think there are several reasons. 1. Since the female organs are internal and not seen, there isn't so much bias against removing them. 2. A woman can still successfully enjoy a good sex life even when these organs are gone, whereas it is perceived that men can't. 3. Most doctors are male and see their genitals as totally tied in with their male identity and the thought of removing a set of genitals unless absolutely necessary as in the case of cancer flies in the face of their male identity and they feel threatened as they think first and foremost of how they would feel if their genitals were removed. 4. Women tend to be more pragmatic about such things and thus especially once they have produced the number of children they want, they have no hesitation in getting rid of their internal reproductive organs. I think that women who still desire to have kids would hesitate to undergo genital surgery unless forced to do so and here I use my daughter as an example. She suffers with both ovarian cysts and endometriosis but still wants to have kids and despite the pain she resists the advice to undergo a hysterectomy.