I thought I would pop back on this thread to give an update on my restoration progress.
Firstly, I have to say this is a VERY positive experience. I am determined to continue.
Okay, it has been almost three months since I last commented on my progress. In that time, I have probably doubled the available skin I am working with. I am at the beginnings of what some circumcision restoration sites call "the rolling action" of the foreskin. In other words, I'm getting enough skin that I don't have to have a death grip on my member to feel anything down there. There is a tiny bit of slack in an otherwise, tight-as-a-drum area. It makes me even madder about my infant circumcision than I was, now that I am experiencing a small amount of what I should have had since birth. Having some slack in the skin of the penis is absolutely essential for me to feel any pleasure at all.
The skin I have been focusing on is also becoming much more sensitive.
Fair warning: If the thought of a dumpy little man like me, pumping his own member for release disturbs you... leave now!
For the very first time recently I have experienced an amazing wash of sensation in the new skin around the corona of the penis. It was actually much more intense and pleasurable than I have ever experienced from the glans. I would say if my normal orgasm would rate at a 2 out of 10, this almost doubles the experience. 4/10 might still not sound like a lot, but WOW did it surprise me. I am lost for words. But, I'll try.
Imagine your normal orgasm. Got it? Okay. Now imagine that normal orgasm at the same time as getting a foot massage, back rub, and that spot on the inside of the ear that feels really good when you rub it with a Q-Tip, all at the same time. Yeah. That good.
The sensation is NOT an orgasm, but it is a VERY pleasurable sensation that adds to the overall intensity of an orgasm. I will tell you this. The first time I felt it, I curled my toes, and my eyes rolled back.
Next, that small amount of slack has had another benefit. I usually wake in the night when I get an erection. I have never found this normal male habit of the body pleasurable. It has always felt uncomfortable, and often painful.
Lately, there have been far fewer moments of waking in the night with a painful erection. It turns out that if you have enough skin to work with, an erection does not need to be painful or disturbing. What a shocker!
Now on to the actual experience of the restoration itself.
Every night, while I watch TV, I wear comfortable and stretchy pants. When no-one is around, I grab hold of what little I'm left with, and tug. I am careful not to pull so that I feel any pain, but tight enough that there is no slack. I try to maintain tension around the coronal ridge, because it is the inner skin of the foreskin I am mostly trying to grow. Occasionally I will focus on the shaft skin around the base of the penis, but I am concerned about drawing even more pubic skin up the shaft than what is already there.
Just a note, the bottom third of your penis shouldn't be covered in hair. It should be bald all the way down. If it isn't then you don't have enough penile skin. The skin of your pubis has been drawn up to try and recover what your circumcision took from you. That is what happened to me.
Even though I try not to concentrate any tugging around the base of the penis, sometimes I have to. My stated goal right now, is to get enough skin on the sides of my penis so I can "upgrade" to a tugging device. So that I have enough skin, I will need to deal with some extra growth at the base, until I can do it properly.
What I have noticed is, what I am stretching feel like tendons. What they really are, are fibrous tissues of skin not meant for the shaft at all. What I need to do, is to stretch the skin of the shaft, up and away as much as I can, then press down with my other hand to try and loosen those fibrous tissues. This is the only part I would classify as painful, or giving me any level of discomfort. By doing this, I am getting skin on the sides of my penis that are much more motile than before. The fibrous tissue was keeping everything overly tight and uncomfortable. As they stretch and loosen, my comfort level is growing.
The fibrous tissue is located on the top left and right of my penis. It is in the skin, not in the underlying architecture. It feels like two tight cords of leather restricting the motion and softness of the skin. It is skin that should be stretchy and soft, but is instead frustrating the natural function of the penis. Before I started this, it was thick and unyielding. Right now, it is somewhere in-between. It is MUCH better than it was, but I still have a long way to go.
Next, and a serious surprise to me, I seem to have a band of skin or fibrous tissue that encircles the glans. The more I tug and work on this area, the more I feel it. I very much doubt that it is any remnant of the tendons, muscles or frenulum that were ablated off with my foreskin, but this tiny bit of tense material is encouraging me. Maybe if I continue to work at it, I won't need to resort to tightening surgery for that natural tapered look, once I get enough material. The tight band seems to resist outward stretching. Maybe once I get the skin long enough, this tight band will keep the restored skin in place like a natural foreskin would. Maybe not, but it is something I'm hoping for.
The tight band of skin is probably the actual circumcision scar where the two different types of skin healed together. If so, then I am of two minds about it. On the one hand, I don't want my circumcision scar to show once I have completed this process. On the other hand, if I can get it to serve a function, (and no one else ever needs to see my penis.) then it might save me some costly cosmetic surgeries down the road.
The more progress I see and experience, the more I am beginning to wonder if the absolute lack of sexual feeling I have ever had comes more from this botched circumcision, or from my childhood illness that claimed my fertility. It is entirely possible that without the stimulation my brain craved, those sexual neurons simply began to shut down from disuse. I found myself living in a non sexual body, not because my testosterone was low, or because my parts were damaged by fever, but because there simply wasn't the skin or nerve endings that there should have been.
I have always felt that my body should be capable of feeling more than it actually can. My fantasies have been consumed by the thought that sex should feel good. Or, at least a lot better than I have actually felt. I have been able to imagine what a 10/10 orgasm might feel like, but I have never been able to experience it. Now I am getting closer to it, and as I progress on my circumcision restoration, my body is beginning to respond. I am starting to feel the sensations that previously I could only dream about.
Will I become a more sexual being as my body becomes more and more capable of processing those sensations? I don't know, but it is somewhat concerning. I have accepted myself as non-sexual for so long, that I don't know if I can adapt. I do hope that I can adapt. I already know what living as a eunuch feels like. Maybe I would also enjoy what everyone else feels like. Maybe I don't have to dream about having my balls off to stop unwanted (and painful) erections. Maybe I can actually enjoy myself as a whole person.
But, no.
I still wish I could have my balls off. Actually, my restoration progress had made that wish a lot stronger. As my scrotum rides about half way up my penile shaft, it makes stretching the skin rather difficult. When I want to stretch the shaft skin, I invariably pull up my scrotum too. The underside of my penis has proven the most difficult to stretch comfortably.
When I masturbate, I end up grabbing about half of my scrotum, just so that I can match the sliding action on the underside of my penis with the top side. My testicles actually get in the way. It would be much easier, and more satisfying if those annoying blobs of gristle, along with their offending pouch were simply not present.
I think I have updated my fantasy to wanting my balls off, my foreskin back, and I would go on a low dose of TRT to keep myself about where I chemically am now.
I am getting very close to being able to fit a device, and have begun to look for the best solution. So far, the best thing for me seems to be making my own from an old trumpet mouthpiece, and some fabric elastic. The design seems simple enough, and I could make it rather easily. I just wonder if they make the mouthpiece small enough for me. Some of the devices I've seen appear far too big for what I am endowed with.
I wonder if the music shop I'll buy the mouthpiece at will have a fitting room.
I have also been warned that people can get very discouraged at a certain point during their restoration. For the first while the changes can seem dramatic and overwhelming. After a point, the progress slows, and it is just millimeter by millimeter growth. Almost nothing to show for all that effort. A lot of people can get frustrated at that point.
I'm going to need something to keep me from hitting that wall.
(and NO. I will not be posting any pictures. I'm sensitive enough about myself. I won't be doing THAT.)