I think a definition of Lust is needed. Although I'm not a eunuch, age has definitely decreased my libido. I can easily go a month before feeling any physical need for sex, although I can get aroused reading or writing a good castration story.

If Lust means wanting to fuck someone - or have someone fuck me - that rarely happens.

My sexual preference is somewhat ambiguous. I've had many more female sexual partners than male sexual partners, but I have had my share of male sexual partners as the dominant and as the submissive partner. On my several trips to Thailand, where I could, for $20 (1986) have my choice of sexual partners, I always partook of both sexes, of which the Thai girls seemed to accept more easily than did the Thai boys. I never had a Thai girl cry because she saw me with a boy, but I did have a Thai boy cry because he saw me with a girl.

Few of my sexual partners in Thailand were prostitutes in that there was any discussion of money before the act, although I'm sure they would have been pissed if I hadn't given them something afterward. I had several of them call and write me after I was back in the USA. Damn! I loved Thailand.

Today, I have frequently passed up opportunities for sex, even using the excuse, "I'm too old to think about such things," even though I have no erectile dysfunction. I can get it hard anytime.

When I was younger, I would have fucked - and did fuck - about anything that had a pussy. Now, I'd rather masturbate than get caught up in "I let you fuck me, so you owe me."

Now, if I came upon a good looking 20 something year-old that wanted to do it (either sex), I'd probably go for it, but that ain't going to happen. Even in Thailand, I went with ones that found me attractive, even if I did end up giving them money. I wouldn't go back, because I'm 26 years older, and if anyone went with me, it would be strictly for the money (one of them even wanted to have my baby, even though, as far as she knew, I'd never come back.) Hell, I don't want to have sex with anyone my age either.

The closest I've come to feeling lust lately is for this boy, young 20s, at work. He's openly gay but isn't swishy, if you know what I mean. God! He's cute.

knightbird111 (imported) wrote: Sun Oct 21, 2012 6:49 am but what determines if a man is truly a homosexual or not?

Like I consider myself heterosexual but have had very few homosexual thoughts pass through my mind, does this make me a homosexual or a bisexual. How does one define when a man is truly a homosexual. Like you can have a homosexual man who is married to a woman.

or are all of us humans bisexual and homo/hetero sexual is obsolete.

when I was younger I was totally heterosexual but women are not so interested in me so then I started to question my orientation being I never bothered to approach women.

I think we all fall somewhere on a continuum with homosexual at one end and heterosexual on the other. I would guess that few fall at one end of the continuum but are somewhere in between. In the first grade at school, even though I had no sexual thoughts, I wanted both the cute boys and the cute girls to like me, although, even then, the boys probably had more of an attraction for me.

I figure I fall closer to the homosexual side of the continuum, and I have no regrets for where I am - or was. I wouldn't have wanted to pass up any of those sexual encounters whether male of female.

SplitDik (imported) wrote: Sat Oct 20, 2012 4:09 pm Ah ha! I always suspected gay guys did that ...

I'm gay, and I don't do that. I know you don't mean offense, but I resent your assumption that gay men are some sort of peeping-tom-bathroom-pervert.

knightbird111 (imported) wrote: Sun Oct 21, 2012 6:49 am but what determines if a man is truly a homosexual or not?

Like I consider myself heterosexual but have had very few homosexual thoughts pass through my mind, does this make me a homosexual or a bisexual. How does one define when a man is truly a homosexual. Like you can have a homosexual man who is married to a woman.

or are all of us humans bisexual and homo/hetero sexual is obsolete.

when I was younger I was totally heterosexual but women are not so interested in me so then I started to question my orientation being I never bothered to approach women.

Don't want to capture this thread, so I'll try and make it short:

As Sigmund Freud said, bisexuality is the only "normal" human sexuality, but the distribution varies, and true hetero- and homosexuality are pretty rare. However, due to our society and social boundaries, most people manage to suppress their homosexual feelings. Sadly this often leads to people leading a double life - playing the caring father and familyman at day and hanging around at gay bars, saunas etc. at night. Sadly this is still a huge problem in most countries due to open homosexuality being not accepted, leading to gays being more or less "forced" into heterosexual relationships, marriages etc. Depending on the degree of heterosexuality within the gay person, this may work out (as mentioned before, it seems to do so for the most) or not. As for me, I would never even consider starting a relationship with a woman, but if I was forced to marry one (as it is still the case in some countries), I suppose that I could somehow manage this situation (even if it wouldn't be fulfilling or satisfying for me) and not attempt suicide or so. But that's just valid for me, of course.

I also highly doubt that a lack of interest in women is sufficient to tell that someone is gay - actually there must be some interest in men instead, of course (otherwise that person would be more of an asexual).