I agree with Bobbie on the fantasy versus reality. Fantasies usually revolve around the act of being castrated while the reality is living with it afterwords. You have to be sure you can comfortably live with the long-term effects before you jump in to satisfy your desire for the short-time act of castration. I'd strenously recommend 6 months to a year of chemical castration to experience the effects that low testosterone will bring to you and further to have blood testing done to ensure that your testosterone is lowered enough to bring you into the castrate range- not just lowered by half of what you are now. If you do all that and are satisfied that you can live with it long-term, maybe it is for you. Or maybe not.

I find intimacy is different since my chemical & surgical castration. I don't need my orgasm for sexual release so I am much more likely to do the kiss and cuddle thing but even more likely are back rubs and massages. My wife still likes me to sometimes go down on her and please her orally and I find that is much more rewarding to please her that way now rather than to look at it as something to do before we got to the main act. We have had ordinary intercourse only once since my surgery and that was more just to be able to say we did it than anything else. I am able to have an orgasm and while they are far less often, they do seem to be more intense as sduyck previously related.

I have never been a romantic, so no help from me on that score.

While I desired, even craved to be castrated since puberty, after a lifetime of frustration I am pleased to report that chemical reduction of testosterone (via Siterone) has removed from me my craving and desire to be physically castrated. I would still go ahead with physical castration if I could, but the "need" to do it has subsided as my testosterone level subsided. So on that score, chemical reduction of testosterone has been a satisfactory substitute for physical castration. And as I have posted before, the elimination of libido and sexual drive, while I feared would be more frustrating than wanting to be castrated, has been a non-event. Not wanting, or having sexual thoughts, desire, or activity, is more of a relief than a frustration. It has been much more liberating than I had anticipated. But that's just me. Parts or all or none of my experiences may or may not apply to each person.