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clysmaniac (imported) wrote: Thu Sep 03, 2009 4:13 am The other bad feature is that if you are involved in a chat, you don't see what's happening in the Lobby and who has entered. Yes, you can switch back to the lobby but it would be nice if both the Lobby and Private chats could be displayed on the screen at the same time to give a better view of activity. There certainly is enough room on a page to do that but I understand that our chat is a very simple one for whatever reason.

The chat is actually an IRC channel and what you see as a 'page' is a small set of what is available when an IRC client is used.

If this doesn't make sense, google: IRC chat

Good Luck

markle

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spankey2 (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 02, 2009 5:40 am I don't want to upset anyone. I WANT TO WAKE YOU ALL UP. WE ARE MUCH ALONE IN OUR CHOICES IN THIS WORLD. WE NEED TO SUPPORT EACH OTHER WITH ALL WE CAN, WE NEED TO HELP ONE ANOTHER ON OUR JOURNEY'S

spankey2 aka Scottie

re, its the net.

I attend a self help group and have for a nearly a quarter century. Some folks know all the right words and it's my experience they may be back later and right or wrong, initially I pay them little heed to them till they appear regularly for some months.

Although I can't currently point to posted data, I have read sites like 'youtube' and 'flikr' have millions of hits daily and record less than 1 percent of those hits as posters to the sites.

This is all to say we are for the most part voyeurs.

I'd offer this tip for chat: Participate in Lobby, even if its inane prattle. Over time subjects with some meat will come up. YEA

Best

markle

markle (imported) wrote: Thu Sep 03, 2009 9:34 pm I'd offer this tip for chat: Participate in Lobby, even if its inane prattle. Over time subjects with some meat will come up. YEA

I'll offer more tips.

Use a REAL IRC program. That Java chat sucks, frankly. With a real program like mIRC, you can have multiple windows open at the same time so you can watch both.

Be active. Don't just sit there waiting for people to start chats with you. (Hint: That's what everyone else is doing, too.)

Yes, inane prattle in Lobby is a good thing. The more you chat, the more people will chat with you. Even the regulars like inane chatter.

Don't open private chats with "A/S/L?" Even "Hi" works better than that.

If you're there for JO fantasy, admit it. Many of the regulars have a fairly strongly-tuned sense for bullshit. (Not aimed at you, Scottie, although I know I'm beating my head against a well in regards to those it is aimed at.)

Anyone else have other tips?

TheOtherSide (imported) wrote: Thu Sep 03, 2009 9:54 pm I'll offer more tips.

Use a REAL IRC program. That Java chat sucks, frankly. With a real program like mIRC, you can have multiple windows open at the same time so you can watch both.

Be active. Don't just sit there waiting for people to start chats with you. (Hint: That's what everyone else is doing, too.)

Yes, inane prattle in Lobby is a good thing. The more you chat, the more people will chat with you. Even the regulars like inane chatter.

Don't open private chats with "A/S/L?" Even "Hi" works better than that.

If you're there for JO fantasy, admit it. Many of the regulars have a fairly strongly-tuned sense for bullshit. (Not aimed at you, Scottie, although I know I'm beating my head against a well in regards to those it is aimed at.)

Anyone else have other tips?

YES, if you come into the lobby and want to go into PC, ask the person first. Example. "persons name, can I pvt you?" always works better.

In the lobby if you have a question state it so. "could I get some help with an issue I am having?" then wait for the response, now there looking at you, now ask your question.

Remember its not about you, join in and get involved with the chat.

Look at it this way, you are out walking you see a group of 7 or 8 guys chatting and you walk up and start chatting with them, they don't know you, what do you think there response will be, the chat is no different. Take your time. Be nice.

River

spankey2 (imported) wrote: Thu Sep 03, 2009 5:56 am Hello to everyone and thank you for all the replies. I would like to make a few comments about the replys I got. Some where compassionate and some were not. some understood what I was saying and some did not. Some of us try each day to enlarge our scope on the world and some do not. There are many paradoxes here. If we are asking for help, love, consideration, acceptance from each other and from the world. It is best to give the same to each other and to the world. spankey2

Just like in the real world ! Most people are mainly interested in me, myself, and I (apparently unlike Ted Kennedy).

E-mail, bulletin boards, and chat rooms have an inherent flaw.

It is impossible to express real human compassion, although emotions such as hate and negativity come through loud and clear.

A word, a phrase, to one may seem fully comprehensible and meaningful to some, but to others it may seem shallow, empty, perhaps hostile.

If anyone is looking for EVERYONE to be caring, loving, compassionate, with empathy, they will need to find another planet on which to live for everone is not like that. "Thick skin" is needed to survive in this world.

On the EA you have an opportunity to be totally open and honest about who you are, your background, thoughts, feelings, wants, desires (but don't self-incriminate yourself). You will find people who can emphatisize, and people who have never walked in your shoes and can't relate to your experiences. And you may find ideas, opinions, comments that can help you look at life in a new way. If you get a reply you don't like, ignore it; someone else's life isn't your life, your points of reference are different.

Life on the EA, like life in general, is an adventure.

I owe these quotes to the person who wrote them; as soon as I find the book, title, and author I will give them credit:

"An adventure is any intentional experience that substantially alters our perspective long enough to see things that we have never before seen, and to see familar things in ways we have never before seen them."

"Real adventure is an inside job"

"There is but one single certainty in life: Uncertainty"

"Happiness is best seen out of the corner of our eye. Pursued directly as a primary goal happiness only becomes a source of frustration. Yet it is likely to blossom fully in our lives as a by product of a life of service. After some exploration we learn that our greatest joy comes not from self-seeking, but in serving others."

"If it seems to you that others are going about and living their lives too slowly, it might be because you are going about and living your life too fast."

Hello Scottie, I didn't realise that yuo ar Spankey2 here. I have read your story about the castration by injection and you have provided this community a GREAT service of sharing your experience with us as a "cautionary tale".

Someone said something about Screen Names earlier and I have to say they hit it on the head. In the chat rooms I get so many people that want to have some HOT chat with me, and I'm jsut not interested in that. But back to the point.... Spankey2 just screams "wanker talker" and if you had IM'd me I probably would have ignored you due to your screen name. You very well may have had something else in mind when you choose it but I would bet many others are going to peg it as I do (wrongly?).

Anyways, it's good to hear from you and I'm sure many people here have wondered what ever became of you. PM me anytime you wish!