I have NEVER heard a woman comment on the beauty of a ball sac. Most will hardly even touch them unless you ask them to.

Up until now I was having a problem understanding why a guy would want voluntary cosmetic surgical castration and scrotum removal.

You have cleared that up for me. Now it seems they want this done so that they don't gross out their female partner (who doesn't like their scrotum).

I never would have known that if I had not discovered the EA. Very Interesting !

I admit, because I know, having a sex drive when you have no outlet for it is not only a waste, it is damn frustrating. For the sex-deprived I can understand the usefulness of castration. I guess if one can have a sex drive, sans the balls, to please their partner it's just one more variation of the theme. Love knows no bounds (or balls).

But what if the female partner just has scrotum envy, but says that scrotums and balls are disgusting. Getting her partner to agree to castration and scrotum removal might be a kind of female over male victory? Well, whatever, as long as everyone is happy.

I know that I have said this before here, so I don't want to sound like a broken record, but I guess it may be worth repeating. I became a Eunuch well over twenty years ago due to illness. Well, to be precise, due to reaction to medications taken for severe Malaria. There is more to it than that, but those are the basics. Yes, I took HRT for a couple years after, but since it was meds that caused this situation to begin with, I was obviously uncertain what other "joys" more meds might bring so I ceased taking them. I exercise a lot and that has been an enormous help to me physically. I do take an over-the-counter pill for Hot Flashes, and since they don't seem to hurt my wife, I guess they are safe for me too and they work. Socially, I don't carry a sign that says "Hey Look! I'm a Eunuch!", but I am not ashamed to admit what I am. I have used the prefix "Eu." rather than "Mr." for years and the wife and I use "Eu. & Mrs." in our correspondences and return address lables. Some people know it's meaning and other don't, most could care less. I have found however, that accepting being a Eunuch and being open about it has helped me cope with my situation. I hope the opinions from this old Eunuch are of help.

Steve,

I am a married eunuch and have been eunuch for the last three years. I was castrated for much the same reason as you are relating, pain issues, epiditimitis, swollen testicle, etc. My urologist and I jointly decided it was best to have them removed. I had been on HRT for a couple of years prior to the operation so I was not changing my Testosterone level by having them removed. My wife was part of the decision to go ahead with the operation and frankly, as others have stated, she paid very little attention to the scrotum anyway. I did not try to keep the operation a secret and my coworkers, immediate family, and friends knew I had the operation. I work out at the gym regularly and shower openly with all the other guys. In all that time I have not had a negative comment from anyone about being eunuch. My wife and I have a very normal sex life. Since the operation I had the scrotum removed also because I did not like it hanging down and always being stretched by the inner thigh. Since becoming smooth down there I shave the area and my wife pays much more attention to it now. I have had others talk openly with me about their desire to have the gonads removed whether it be for cancer issues, pain issues, or something else. A number of women see the testicles gone as a plus as long as the sex life is fulfilling. Some prefer it. I am so much better off and my quality of life is much better as a eunuch. It is not the big deal we make it out to me. Hope this helps.

JLC

I've been castrated for almost a month. I want to add that the replacement hormones have been one of the best things to happen to me. I know I was "low" for years and always had a run down feeling. Now after orchiectomy I am re-learning about life with energy and Androgel. I went to a party the other night and at 2:00am I wasn't nodding off. It was amazing to me!!

I realized that my life has re-started in a great way after my balls were gone.

As for my sack. Eh. It's kind of ugly right now. The massive infection I had has left a big lump inside that the doc says will take months, possibly a year to go away. But who cares? It's my body and if someone else doesn't like it then I don't care.

It's whats inside your heart & mind that matters. A thin skinned sack of anatomy doesn't make the whole package.

Steve, for some years now the number of asexual people is growing steadily. If you meet an asexual woman she'll even be overjoyed with a castrated man like you.

So if you choose the right partner I don't see any problems.

Look at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

SteveS1980 (imported) wrote: Wed Dec 17, 2008 4:48 am Up until now I was having a problem understanding why a guy would want voluntary cosmetic surgical castration and scrotum removal.

You have cleared that up for me. Now it seems they want this done so that they don't gross out their female partner (who doesn't like their scrotum).

I never would have known that if I had not discovered the EA. Very Interesting !

I admit, because I know, having a sex drive when you have no outlet for it is not only a waste, it is damn frustrating. For the sex-deprived I can understand the usefulness of castration. I guess if one can have a sex drive, sans the balls, to please their partner it's just one more variation of the theme. Love knows no bounds (or balls).

But what if the female partner just has scrotum envy, but says that scrotums and balls are disgusting. Getting her partner to agree to castration and scrotum removal might be a kind of female over male victory? Well, whatever, as long as everyone is happy.

Don't take this wrong but not every woman out there thinks balls etc are gross. Mrs T loves my new pair and its rare that I don't get some kind of sexual attention there.

Thanks to all. Ten years of self-consciousness and self-depreciation has left me more of a basket case than I realized. Socially I don't do social for fear that one thing might lead to another. Instead of being well hung, I'm just hung up with many hangups. Input helps. Yet the more I write and the more I read I feel like I'm "damned" if I do, and "damned" if I don't, boxed in, doubous of the end result regardless of what I do, or don't do. It took a while to get to this point so I guess I won't resolve my issues in a week or a month, if they ever do get resolved. We shall see. But fear not, I only have fears, anxities, doubts, and frustrations, but no compulsion to cause myself any physical harm (surgery seems to have done that).

So, I'll plod along for now, no better off, no worse off, than before.

It never occured to myself to think of myself, or refer to myself as a eunuch, should I become one. I do know someone who has only one testicle, but don't personally know anyone who has none so I have had no opportunity to delve into this topic, except here on the EA. Frankly having no balls to me is just one of those very personal things that I wouldn't tell anyone, except for a potential partner before things got serious. And I'm thinking letting a prospective partner discover my, shall we say "unusual" existing testicles that I despise, or telling a prospective partner I have no testicles (in the theoretical future), is the same giant hurdle.

Seems like most comments are coming from men who were already married at the time that the surgery was performed. A little more input from men who are not married, but who are dating, have dated, or want to date, and how one goes about discussing their lack of balls and positive, negative, neutral reactions might be helpful........or might not; I have so many doubts and fears it would seem that regardless what I do I have to resolve other issues first. Blah. I don't even want to think about psych and therapy. I like to recognize, deal with, and solve my own problems and not depend on other people (I'm not self-centered, just too do-it-yourself damned independent; yet another flaw I guess).

understanding your problems is sometimes better understood from someone else’s point of view

like looking in a mirror that wont lie to you

Steve-In one of your first posts you say that you like the look of big balls-hardly uncommon. And there is a simple way to be castrated and get new prides and joys in one sugery. Look at the advertisement for sexual surgery from Thailand. They offer every service possible and easily could accommodate your desires. I've read a number of blogs/reports from men who have availed themselves of these hospitals and the comments are almost uniformly favourable. I realize this represents a significant investment but to get precisely what you want, installed however you want it, then this is an option. As I recall, some of these places offer an "airline" credit if you use their facilitiy.

I've been a eunuch for several years and not once have I felt the necessity to just blurt out the fact that my balls and scrotum were part of medical waste. If I tell people, then I do so but as directly and briefly as possible. As a buddy said to me, it took you longer to explain the tat on your chest than it did your lack of nuts. But, really, apart from someone with whom I'm having some sort of intimate relationship, it's not their business. I've yet to meet someone who confides in me that they've got Peyronie's syndrome and there are many men who suffer witht that.

Good luck with whatever you decide and, beyond that, I hope you'll find the calm you seem to be seeking. Remember, this is a one time thing and being certain of your decision is one of the most important choices you'll ever make.