not gay, but bi?

[nonuts (imported)]

Let's see counting so far we have one opinion expressing complete homophobic ignorance, and one opinion expressing thinly veiled homophobia. I'll leave it to the readers to distinguish.

[FianceeUvBigGuy (imported)]

Yoli here, snackin' as I speak.

It's understandable that one might feel conflicted when one feels a sexual attraction to one's own gender, even if there is no actual activity but. rather, a "fantasy" that creates or enhances arousal.

Though I am speaking as a bisexual female I can easily understand Kantfeel's "dilemma". Admitting, even to one's self, that such an attraction exists can be confusing, frightening, and cause self-doubt, guilt, and so on.

In my case, my first pleasurable sexual experience was with another female..."Ohh, we were in college and had consumed some booze, and, well..."

I was amazed at and delighted with the sight, smell, feel, etc., of my friends body; even the sounds she made but, once the orgasms were past, the demon of doubt crept in. "Am I a...Gasp!...Lesbian? Will I ever be normal? What will my parents say? Oh God! What if she tells someone here on campus?"

Somehow, with her help, I got through all that rather rapidly, as I hope Kant will.

Now, though if given a choice as to what gender to be marooned on a tropical isle with I'd opt for an intact , I am at ease with my dual sexuality. In fact, I am deeeeeeeeeeeelighted! Numerically, most of my very active sex life consists of female-female activity since my one intact male (with his wife, also a lover of mine,) is stationed elsewhere and my one treasured eunuch lover lives in a far-flung part of the

state.

I have to face it...I am one horny girl, seemingly moreso since I've just squeaked past the Big Three-O. So, if my needs are more easily met by a select little coven of female lovers, fine!...even if geographics make it so.

Kantfeel, I hope you'll come to a peaceful acceptance of whom you are, sexually speaking. Whether you finally act out a male-male scenario or keep it at fantasy level, you owe it to yourself to be "OK with it".

You think YOU have fantasies? Well, be aware that I'm already tripping on the idea of watching you performing your first oral sex as a newly "frocked" eunuch. Of course, I'd prefer I be the lucky recipient, but watching you giving a BJ to another male, maybe even the one who just took your balls off scant minutes before, would be enough to scorch my panties!

See? It's OOOOOKAYYYY!

Best of luck!

Yoli

Just some crazy lady in San Antonio.

[slowone2 (imported)]

Hi Yoli

My kind of person for sure. As Remses said: Suck one cock, your a cocksucker for ever. Once I sucked my first cock it was all over but the shouting. Bi or Gay Castrated or not. I don't care what they call us.

Just plain Bill in AZ

[joanne-f (imported)]

I think people get too hung up on labels, especially when it comes to sexuality. If you've had fantasies about sucking a guy off, why don't you try it once and see if you like it, rather than worry about what people are going to label you as? You don't have to put yourself into a box.

[FianceeUvBigGuy (imported)]

Hi Yoli

My kind of person for sure. As Remses said: Suck one cock, your a cocksucker for ever. Once I sucked my first cock it was all over but the shouting. Bi or Gay Castrated or not. I don't care what they call us.

Just plain Bill in AZ

Slowpoke,:D

I agree, although it might be said of me; "Nibble one >^..^< and you're a >^..^< nibbler for life." Unlike the originator of this thread, however, my first REAL adult sexual experience was not hetero. His sex life to this point seems to have been all-hetero and the fantasy that he mentions remains just that...a fantasy.

For me, after that dorm room lesbian encounter, MY fantasies pretty much centered on seeing, playing with, fellating (See: suck.), and being penetrated by a nice Now, since I've had a few years (not nearly enough) of experiencing the delights offered by heterosexual AND lesbian fun, often in a bisexual setting, I feel perfectly free to fantasize OR act out re all of the wonderful variations that can be shared by consenting adults. Add to that the special sexual fun and deep friendship that I share with a "real, live," castrated guy and the visual kick (no sex!) sometimes afforded by his two likewise castrated friends when they visit too, and I have pretty much lived, and continue to live, my fondest fantasies.

"Any fantasies left unfulfilled, Yoli?" Well, of course! Especially my desire to witness a voluntary castration and perhaps a punitive one as well (See: Child molester, Rapist, Certain politicians, Terrorists...might add a peepee-ectomy there.) and to "assist" in some way.

I could go into more detail here, but I tend to hijack other EA friends threads as it is, so I'll not bore you with the kinky details.

And now, I bid yieu adieu!

Yoli

Top girl on the totem pole! (One of my bosses coined that.)

[graylayer02 (imported)]

Well, kfS, I've been there. I wondered why I didn't want to have sex with my girlfriend...while I was looking at pictures of guys on the Internet. Once I put two and two together, a lot made sense. I became much happier with myself and I finally understood these awkward feelings I was having.

If you like guys or don't like guys, who cares? Be yourself, because you can't be anyone else. If you like guys, fine. If you like girls, fine. If you like both, well, all the more opportunities for you. 8) You're young; you have time to figure this out. You're also in one of the best states of the country (OK, I'm biased, also living in California).

All the best.

[emasculateme (imported)]

I have wondered about this myself...and in the past year, i've experimented somewhat to see where exactly my orientation is...and what i've come up with is this...i'm heteroflexible...i can enjoy sex with a man (with me as the bottom), but only if it's just sex...i'm not looking for any kind of emotion with a man....and even then...it's mainly if it's at the instruction of a female....i've had sex with between 5-10 men in my life...the times when i've enjoyed it have been when it was either watched or directed by a woman, or when it was with a passable Tgirl...(i know Tgirls aren't 'men' and hope no one is offended by that..but they did have working penises...and that's what i mean)...the times i've done it on my own (only a couple of times) were less than satisfying for me.

Not that you asked or anything! LOL