I have always craved attention. Post op i feel more comfortable in social settings. Probably because now my body alines more so with my mind than before.

The need for interaction with others has remained. However surfacing is the want to relate to others in a meaningful way. I no longer crave sexual attention, wanting instead to share love and affection.

homptydumpty (imported) wrote: Mon Apr 14, 2008 6:44 pm I have always craved attention. Post op i feel more comfortable in social settings. Probably because now my body alines more so with my mind than before.

The need for interaction with others has remained. However surfacing is the want to relate to others in a meaningful way. I no longer crave sexual attention, wanting instead to share love and affection.

As i was writing this i was waiting for my boyfriend to come over. When he got here he was fine just hanging out, however i could not keep my hands off of him. I think what i wrote above was untrue. i still want sexual attention....

Thank you all for the very thoughtful, reasoned answers. It has really helped me separate fantasy , from reality

Well THANKYOU for asking Milkman! I really enjoy sharing my castration experience. It is nice to meet someone who wants to hear or read what I have to offer. Seriously, I enjoyed sharing it.

I just wanted to agree with Jesus' remarks (above) and colour them with my own human experience. I know now that I NEED to socialize. For my own mental health. I think people are designed to need other people. Men are designed to withstand much more solitary hunterer-gatherer situations. But I reckon non-males are designed to desire the company of others more.

Females have a tendancy to be better communicators. Will often develop verbals skills at a young age compared with boys, and naturally be more articulate and better at expressing themselves than a boy of the equivalent age.

And I firmly believe this is because non-males experience stronger range of more powerful emotions, that NEED expressing. Since males are less aware of them, they naturally become less important and thus the powers of expression are less explored growing up.

For instance, I find EMPATHY to have grown a lot since castration. A key emotion in caregiving to children and vulnerable people. Desire to be around people has grown. I need that contact. These are all qualities that I believe are intended for non-males throughout the animal kingdom for this purpose. The great homemakers, communicators and child-minders.

I think I've changed an aweful lot in these last few years. Particularly this last one. But then, a lot of factors could contribute besides testosterone. It's a tough one, but I definitely recognize I need regular company.

As for sex, I find it's just not an important part of the relationship. I enjoy the close contact a great deal. Like last weekend we threw a party, I got shit-faced and was lucky enough to spent some quality time snuggling with a girl on a bed. Then, later on a guy.lol It's not about sex. But the close contact is lovely.