Finding Me

[Hairless (imported)]

MrT, I just noticed that with your posting below mine, it looks like you're looking at my frog. You are looking at the frog, aren't you.

Pink, you are right again. Unfortunately, she likes to use my faith against me more often then I would like.

Paolo and Oneballboy, thank you for your suggestion about going to MOM. I would really like to meet all you fine folks, but I'm afraid I will have to pass on this one. I'm a little paranoid about traveling until I know I have a solid fusion of my spine. Nine months after my first surgery I had to fly to Albany, NY. I don't know if the trip had anything to do with it, but my back went downhill shortly thereafter. After having the second back surgery, although it wasn't as bad as the first, I don't want to do it again.

[mrt (imported)]

There is a Frog? Where?

[punkypink (imported)]

Stay strong hairless, and I think your kids deserve to know. The truth, and having a happy loving parent is worth far more than having an unhappy "father".

[mrt (imported)]

I agree... It might be a shock because people just hate change but... I think the best analogy is "what if you (my daughter) woke up and were male. Would you just go along and change your life and pretend to be a guy or? Knowing there are things like Hormone Treatment and GRS would you change to who you really were?"

[Danya (imported)]

Hi Hairless,

Having friends is an important key to getting through tough times. Is there a local transgender support group where you could meet some folks who can relate to your situation? One that is non-judgmental is important.

I am fortunate in that I have some terrific friends from the Archive. They have been a huge help to me right now as I work through issues with needing to find another job, preferably a very good one, soon. Other posters on my transition thread help me, too.

Since I transitioned at work over a year ago, my two closest friends deserted me. I've been putting in so many hours at the office that I haven't made new local, social connections. I need to work on that now.

I also emailed my own far-removed family about two weeks ago letting them know my situation and asking that their emotional support be available. I haven't heard back.

So, in some respects the stresses we are dealing with are similar.

As Sister K wrote on another thread (Erica Ann's, I think), we can form our own chosen families.

Hang in there.

Hugs,

Danya

[Hairless (imported)]

Hi Hairless,

Having friends is an important key to getting through tough times. Is there a local transgender support group where you could meet some folks who can relate to your situation? One that is non-judgmental is important.

I am fortunate in that I have some terrific friends from the Archive. They have been a huge help to me right now as I work through issues with needing to find another job, preferably a very good one, soon. Other posters on my transition thread help me, too.

Since I transitioned at work over a year ago, my two closest friends deserted me. I've been putting in so many hours at the office that I haven't made new local, social connections. I need to work on that now.

I also emailed my own far-removed family about two weeks ago letting them know my situation and asking that their emotional support be available. I haven't heard back.

So, in some respects the stresses we are dealing with are similar.

As Sister K wrote on another thread (Erica Ann's, I think), we can form our own chosen families.

Hang in there.

Hugs,

Danya

Hi Danya,

I am so sorry to hear about you're job situation. MrT told me about it a few days ago so I jumped to the end of your thread to try and understand what was going on. I still don't really know what you do. I had hoped, that with as good as your company worked with you with your transition, that they would keep you as a valued employee. With all that you have going on, I'm surprised to see you posting on my thread. I really appreciate your doing so.

I have located a couple groups within 50 miles of where I live. The closest is Transgendered Soul. Their web site is: http://www.transgendered-soul.com/ They also have a Yahoo Group that I have joined, but I haven't posted there yet. They are probably the more Christian of the two. The other one is in Palm Springs. Their web site is: http://www.desertpridecenter.org/ My therapist also suggested I find a support group also. I think I'm being slow to do so waiting until I feel better. I've been on the E for almost 2 weeks and I'm just

starting to feel a little better.

I'm not as lightheaded as I was and I'm not tired all day long. I am able to push myself past it some. I guess I also have come back here to EA because I know of the fine folks that reside here. I have never seen such a kind and supportive group as we have here. I know I need to give people in my area a try though. I'm sure there are fine folks here also.

I watched Showtime's documentary,"Trinidad", yesterday. One of the gals said she took 12 years to transition and thought that those that hurry through it make a mistake. I don't think I want to take that long, but I do see her point. After seeing this and a couple of the "Sex Change Hospital" series, I see that there are people, not unlike me, who have transitioned successfully. I know I need to get a plan going. I want to take a little time and feel good before I jump in though.

Thanks to you and all those here that offer their support. I really appreciate it.

[Danya (imported)]

Hi Danya,

I am so sorry to hear about you're job situation. MrT told me about it a few days ago so I jumped to the end of your thread to try and understand what was going on. I still don't really know what you do. I had hoped, that with as good as your company worked with you with your transition, that they would keep you as a valued employee. With all that you have going on, I'm surprised to see you posting on my thread. I really appreciate your doing so.

Thanks for your kind words! I am fortunate in that I really have a lot going for me as I look at new possibilities for work. The reality is, there are many things I am qualified for; I am very fortunate in this. The challenge is finding the right position. I will get there.

I am also starting to feel my usual confidence returning. This is very good.

It helps me to write when I think I might help someone a bit. This is why I will look for a once a week volunteer opportunity. It will give me the same good feeling of helping someone, it will get me out of the house, and it will keep me grounded emotionally.

I have located a couple groups within 50 miles of where I live. The closest is Transgendered Soul. Their web site is: http://www.transgendered-soul.com/ They also have a Yahoo Group that I have joined, but I haven't posted there yet. They are probably the more Christian of the two. The other one is in Palm Springs. Their web site is: http://www.desertpridecenter.org/ My therapist also suggested I find a support group also. I think I'm being slow to do so waiting until I feel better. I've been on the E for almost 2 weeks and I'm just

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starting to feel a little better.

I'm not as lightheaded as I was and I'm not tired all day long. I am able to push myself past it some. I guess I also have come back here to EA because I know of the fine folks that reside here. I have never seen such a kind and supportive group as we have here. I know I need to give people in my area a
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try though. I'm sure there are fine f

olks here also.

I agree, there are many fine folks here.

I watched Showtime's documentary,"Trinidad", yesterday. One of the gals said she took 12 years to transition and thought that those that hurry through it make a mistake. I don't think I want to take that long, but I do see her point. After seeing this and a couple of the "Sex Change Hospital" series, I see that there are people, not unlike me, who have transitioned successfully. I know I need to get a plan going. I want to ta

ke a little time and feel good before I jump in though.

In a way, well perhaps several ways, I was a hurrier with my transition. For several reasons, I felt I had no choice but to proceed the way I did. Overall, my experience has turned out far better than even the very good result I had imagined. Part of my returning confidence (I was never this confident before I transitioned) is a direct result of being my true self.

Everyone, though, must decide how quickly, or slowly, to proceed and find the best path for themselves. Whatever that looks like in the end.

Hugs,

Danya

[Danya (imported)]

Come to the MOM in August, and we will find you.

Or you can find us.

We're pretty easy to spot.

After all, a Red Nun is hard to hide.

So is a light sabre, Paolo!

[punkypink (imported)]

I have Darth Vader's light sabre from Episode V. If I ever meet Paolo I'll be sure to bring it along for a duel

[Hairless (imported)]

Is it me or am I weird. Since being on the estrogel, I have had less and less desire to be female. At my last visit to my therapist, he thought that I might be 2 spirited like the native American's believe. I don't know what I am, but it seems that sex hormones have the opposite effect on me. If I can stay where I am right know, except with more energy, I can live with that. I don't know if I could afford or do a proper job of becoming a woman anyway.

I saw my GP a few days ago and told him I was on the Estrogel. He's OK with that. He told me that my last blood test showed I was way down on the T, but I had been weening off of it for a few weeks before the test. I go for another blood test for T and E levels in another week. While I was there I told him how tired I was and asked if a B12 shot would help me. He said, "lets try it". It might be helping as I am not as dizzy or tired and I am sleeping better. So if I decide it's worth it, I can get a B12 shot every 3-4 weeks.

I guess I'll have to wait and see what transpires in the months ahead.