I have a brother!!!!!

[XxEunuchEmoBoyxX (imported)]

My parents told me the other day I have a brother it was first they knew of it as well, my dad donated sperm for money and the boys mum died and he is basically next of kin, he is blind and scared, he is 13, when would be a good time to tell him of my castration, he will most likely ask why my voice is like a girls. Any suggestions???

-Loki

[kennath7 (imported)]

That’s a good question

I would get to know him better and if the necessity came up then tell him

Do you feel he needs to know now then tell him when you feel

Comfortable with him to tell him

[tugon (imported)]

At his age I would wait until he asks. When he is curious enough to ask he will probably be ready for the answer. For the present you might want to focus on him and help him adapt to his new home.

Oh and congratulations on having a brother!

[gandalf (imported)]

I agree with Tugon. Get acquainted forst and thne as he acclimate to his new situation, and he becomes more at home only then when he starts asking questions should you answer him. Be truthful, but don't push the subjects (the envelope as we say) and only give him what he asks for. there will probably come a time when he can accept the inforoation about you but let HIM ask the questions. No need volunteering information he probably can't absorb yet.

BTW congratulations on the brother even if it is a surprise.

[XxEunuchEmoBoyxX (imported)]

At his age I would wait until he asks. When he is curious enough to ask he will probably be ready for the answer. For the present you might want to focus on him and help him adapt to his new home.

Oh and congratulations on having a brother!

Thank Tugon, he arrives on Monday, hope he is nice and ill just leave it till he asks, my parents are kinda exited and sad about the whole that they got a son. Sad because his mum died . Ill keep you updated. Thanks.

-Loki

[Dave (imported)]

Wow, good luck with your new brother. I hope it works out for your family.

Remember, It's a huge adjustment for all involved. Don't anticipate much of anything. It's all going to be both right and wrong all at once.

[Paolo]

You're lucky in that you have a little brother.

I'd take the approach of "don't tell if he don't ask." That is going to be TOO much for him with the adaptations he's going to have to face now. He's also going to need a lot of attention in adjusting.

Just take it all slow and easy and keep an open mind - which should come easy for ya'll.

[punkypink (imported)]

Maybe, just maybe hes young enough that he wouldn't find it unusual.

I find that kids tend to be more accepting of the unusual, until the social conditioning gets to them. So if he isnt um, conditioned yet, and grows up around u guys then maybe he wouldn't be like other conventional people and find anything weird about it.

[hdlss_hrsmn (imported)]

If pressed to say something, you could just say it's a hormone problem and leave it at that for now. There may be a time when you wish to explain but it is probably not necessary right now.

[Jean Op den Kamp (imported)]

My parents told me the other day I have a brother it was first they knew of it as well, my dad donated sperm for money and the boys mum died and he is basically next of kin, he is blind and scared, he is 13, when would be a good time to tell him of my castration, he will most likely ask why my voice is like a girls. Any suggestions???

-Loki

As he is blind, it will not do to just look him in the eyes.

Did you already find out, how powerful your mind can be. Trust on yourself and unselfish love for him. Proberly, when you want to tell, it will feel like he has always know it.

Use the love in your mind and you will solve this problem.

I will keep you and your problem on my mind, so if any time you feel in need of some extra power, it will be there for you, trust me.

LoveU

J***