Added "eunuch" to my doctors form

[tugon (imported)]

Told my new doc I was a eunuch. In the past he has ordered along with my routine bloodwork a PSA screen for prostate cancer. He has now done that for three series of lab works. Each time I was at the lowest end of the scale. What part of eunuch does he not understand? I have my new doctor picked out. Like my dentist I hate to have that first conversation about things in my past that make receiving care difficult. My dentist has been the most caring and supportive person in healthcare for me I have yet met. Now I have to tell my new doc I have been diagnosed with PTSD and I am a eunuch. As much fun as their reaction might be I do not relish telling the tale.

[kristoff]

Told my new doc I was a eunuch. In the past he has ordered along with my routine bloodwork a PSA screen for prostate cancer. He has now done that for three series of lab works. Each time I was at the lowest end of the scale. What part of eunuch does he not understand? I have my new doctor picked out. Like my dentist I hate to have that first conversation about things in my past that make receiving care difficult. My dentist has been the most caring and supportive person in healthcare for me I have yet met. Now I have to tell my new doc I have been diagnosed with PTSD and I am a eunuch. As much fun as their reaction might be I do not relish telling the tale.

I don't care what my doc thinks about me being an eunuch. I am what I am - deal with me. If he can't, then I can't deal with him. End of story. When I had major surgery 18 months ago, half the hospital was up my cock, and then a garden hose for three weeks after. Never a word, look, smirk, whatever from a single soul, either at hospital or clinic. Didn't seem to phase a soul. I suspect many of us are our own worst critics - we embarrass ourselves by our own self-consciousness and/or shame (our culture derides and dismisses us, and we internalize it). Guilty, but working past it. Hell, I stood in front of 125 people last fall and told them my story, including being an eunuch. Not a single adverse comment (at least that I heard); besides, who cares - what someone else thinks of me is none of my business (a hard thing to live, but essential to a better self-acceptance). Perhaps my skin is thicker, but some things work a bit better as a result.

BTW, keep doing the annual PSA. You can still get prostate cancer, just less likely without the cahunas.

[tugon (imported)]

I don't care what my doc thinks about me being an eunuch. I am what I am - deal with me. If he can't, then I can't deal with him. End of story. When I had major surgery 18 months ago, half the hospital was up my cock, and then a garden hose for three weeks after. Never a word, look, smirk, whatever from a single soul, either at hospital or clinic. Didn't seem to phase a soul. I suspect many of us are our own worst critics - we embarrass ourselves by our own self-consciousness and/or shame (our culture derides and dismisses us, and we internalize it). Guilty, but working past it. Hell, I stood in front of 125 people last fall and told them my story, including being an eunuch. Not a single adverse comment (at least that I heard); besides, who cares - what someone else thinks of me is none of my business (a hard thing to live, but essential to a better self-acceptance). Perhaps my skin is thicker, but some things work a bit better as a result.

BTW, keep doing the annual PSA. You can still get prostate cancer, just less likely without the cahunas.

The PSA has been quarterly or I would not complain. In a small town of 42,000 with only one hospital and limited choices of doctors it is not always easy to switch. Having worked in healthcare for the past 19 years I know most of the healthcare providers in town. Many of my issues with doctors have more to do with my being physically and sexually abused for so long. I had to create safe words with my dentist if I would begin to panic. So much was done to my face in those times that having anything done around my face makes me anxious. Last time my eyes were examined I thought I was going blind because everything got dark and hazy. I was so nervous I had fogged the lenses completely. One doc came in with a glove and a tube of lube and told me to drop my pants. Sadly I was almost like a scared cat hanging from the ceiling. I hope one day to react in a normal way but that day is not here yet. I am still recovering.

[kristoff]

The PSA has been quarterly or I would not complain. In a small town of 42,000 with only one hospital and limited choices of doctors it is not always easy to switch. Having worked in healthcare for the past 19 years I know most of the healthcare providers in town. Many of my issues with doctors have more to do with my being physically and sexually abused for so long. I had to create safe words with my dentist if I would begin to panic. So much was done to my face in those times that having anything done around my face makes me anxious. Last time my eyes were examined I thought I was going blind because everything got dark and hazy. I was so nervous I had fogged the lenses completely. One doc came in with a glove and a tube of lube and told me to drop my pants. Sadly I was almost like a scared cat hanging from the ceiling. I hope one day to react in a normal way but that day is not here yet. I am still recovering.

My apology - I sometimes forget to remember and think about such things with people I do know, and understand why they feel and act as they do.

[jeff9000 (imported)]

may be there should be a special title for eunuchs instead of mr. like Euc. J Doe?

[kristoff]

may be there should be a special title for eunuchs instead of mr. like Euc. J Doe?

Eu. is the actual abbreviation used in lieu of Mr. or Dr. - at least at one time.

[Hash (imported)]

I thought about using EU but I knew the inevitable questions would be, what does it stand for, so I put eunuch on the form. I doubt that there will be any consequences for using it and perhaps more positives. It is strange for me to hear that some eunuch men have not had positive experiences with female physicians, though I will say that I have had at least two female GP's and one female endocrinologist who seemed cold and clinical, all of these were relatively young. But I've had another 7 female GP's/Endo's/Urologists who were very compassionate & curious, all of these were older females. My current GP is a female who's age I estimate is between 55-60. Here's an excerpt from my initial visit back in April 2008.

"My previous doctor was a young female and even when I told her I was castrated, she never did examine me to find out if I was telling the truth. Instead she took blood tests which proved my testosterone was low. My endocrinologist never examined me either and I have not seen her for several months and she is also young. I thought that perhaps these two young female physicians may have been afraid to examine me or perhaps they were disgusted, I don't know, but I made sure that my new physician was an older female, she's in her late 50's, and practicing in mid-New Jersey near Princeton.

At my appointment I told her my history and desire to be castrated. She asked a few questions and I told her how I was castrated. Then she said she'd like to take a look. She told me she had seen just about everything, but she didn't say that she had ever seen a castrated man or eunuch. Instead of leaving the room, she told me to unbutton my shirt and then she put the stethoscope on me and asked me to take some deep breaths, I complied. Then she asked me to stand up and undo my pants and pull down my underwear. She sat in front of me and examined my remains. She didn't say much, but squeezed the cord endings. She then asked me how I felt about being castrated and I told her "great." She asked, "Are you troubled by it," and I told her, "Not at all." I told her if more men were castrated the world would be a safer place. She said, "You're probably right about that!" Then she told me that she wanted me to get some blood tests and I went in this morning and had them take my blood. The nurse had trouble finding my veins, which may be a result of less testosterone. Before castration, finding my veins was easy. Well, I must say I like this new doctor a lot and hope to remain her patient for a long time. She was compassionate, understanding, and non-judgemental, but she also was interested in my condition." Hash

[jeff9000 (imported)]

I meant "EUC." as a title instead of "MR." or"MS.",I guess from the blog I thought if you are proud to o genderless why not be open about it?

[JesusA (imported)]

At least two of the voluntary eunuchs whom I know use the title "Eu." on their business cards. Others may use it in correspondence.

"Andrew," who was once the most prolific poster on the Archive, has long used a business card that lists his name as

Eu. Andrew Hxxxxxx

and then gives his address and telephone number.

[Danya (imported)]

My employer asked for my input on gender categories, knowing that I am 'gender variant' (i.e., transsexual). I convinced them to include 'eunuch' as a recongized gender.