being passive

[gregwhite (imported)]

how did this get in this group

it was in gay, bi etc.

how to put it where it belongs.

[gregwhite (imported)]

thank you to those who wrote the nice words.

I am still so sad.

I miss having him so near,

I miss the sex but could not yet let some one put their penis in my mouth or bum.

I almost let a friend bet my ass with his leather strop.

I am a mess I miss him so much.

by for now

[A-1 (imported)]

thank you to those who wrote the nice words.

I am still so sad.

I miss having him so near,

I miss the sex but could not yet let some one put their penis in my mouth or bum.

I almost let a friend bet my ass with his leather strop.

I am a mess I miss him so much.

by for now

Greg,

Grieving is a unique process for each individual.

Do not do anything that changes your life radically for at least a year.

Relationships regardless of sexual preference are sometimes made by one person fufilling missing parts of their own psyche with the personality of another.

So according to the degree that this is true when you lose a partner you feel like part of your own body was removed forcefully, against your will.

Is is a terrible feeling, and it takes time to heal. Rest assured that sooner or later each human being goes through this. Each experience is unique. The experience makes one do things that are not in their best interest, like rushing into another relationship or trying to find what you have lost in another individual. This is usually a terrible mistake.

Making changes in your life and your day to day circumstances is also a bad mistake. Bottom line, surgery would be very, very bad for you in your present state of mind.

Take time to heal your psyche. You are always going to have a deep scar in it, but over time things will get better for you, gradually, so have patience with yourself.

Learn to take some joy in the simple things. Walks through safe neighbohoods or parks, trips to the library or try something new like a movie or a outing with a relative who you get along well with and like to converse with.

Keep coming back here to us and keep in touch.

You DO have friends, O.K.?