Castration for Sexless Marriage?

[little robie (imported)]

Can't give you any rear good advice. But, it sounds like typical menapause. Similar problems started occuring with us at basicaly the same age. I have always been very aggressive towards satisfying my male sex drive. With the advise of one of her life long friends she put me on andocur then added estrofeme. After I gave up on viagra and testosterone shots, I noticed a complete inability to get an erection and no sex drive. Then came some breast enlargment. I was fasinated with breasts and liked having them. My wife and I started discussing our thoughts and expectations about sex. She liked the growth and changes I had expereienced. She didn't want intercourse in our marriage! We decided to try some toys and get satisfaction with a vibrator. This went on for about 11 months Then she put me in a bra and panties. I have been that way for 7 years. The chemical castration became permanent about year 3. Penis has shrunk to about 1 inch. We basically enjoy a lesbian marriage and are as close as ever. Something to think about?

[SexlessC23 (imported)]

Little Robie... I wouldn't mind what you have at all; I've always been very open-minded about sex and trying new things

But my wife is far too prudish for that sort of thing. She'd draw the line at the androcur... maybe... if it would ensure I never bother her for sex again.... perhaps.

The thought of an erectionless life has appeal to me if it's accompanied by lack of libido.

[cb2000user (imported)]

I am also giving blood every 2-3 months; my ferritin is in the mid-20s as well and my saturation is low. Does your doc think your low T level is due to the hemochromatosis? Mine was at the lower end of the normal range at diagnosis, but is now at the high end of the range. When it was at the lower end, I definitely did feel something wrong with my libido, I had less penile sensation, and very poor quality erections. Now everything is more or less back to close to normal.

This week, I am bouncing off the walls due to my sex drive.

What effect, if any, did the hemochromatosis have on your sexual function? I was diagnosed with ferritin at 900 and saturation at nearly 90% (high-end normal is 300 and 35% for those wondering)

The doctor does not know about the Andorcur but says the low T is due to the hemochromatosis (ferritin was 1150 and saturation was 93%) and type 2 diabetes.

Before Androcur my sex drive was off the charts, my wife and I were always fighting over sex and when to have it and what was too much. That was when we decided to give chemical castration a try, that was 3 years ago and it saved our marrage.

[SexlessC23 (imported)]

I have the same issue with sex and my wife. My T is high end as well, and my drive like you is off the charts. And my wife's libido has plummeted to 0. I may try broaching the subject this weekend but last time I brought up sex it led to a monumental fight. I did not bring up chemical castration though.

I don't have diabetes though, and when diagnosed we had my T level checked and it was still in the normal range, but at the lower end.

I'm not sure though, given the HH history, if I would want to be on Androcur for 3 years. I think that after 6 months to a year, if it works, and both of us are pleased with the results, then the testes should come off. Androcur is hard on the liver and I think our livers have already been through enough.

The issue might be finding someone to castrate me though. Kimmel is getting on. At his age you never know...

[cb2000user (imported)]

I agree with you the Androcur was only to be a test drive and we have been looking to have the balls removed but can not afford it at this time so the Androcur is here to stay. I have my liver tested every 3 months and the dose I am on now is low 25mg two times a day so my liver is fine.

[Tclosetgirl (imported)]

I did not read the rest of the posts but my step-dad is in your shoes as for his wife not wanting sex due to a hysterectomy....but he's not considering castratin, he's just frustrated.

Myself, if I were in a position where my SO was sex-less, we've already discussed it and I told her I'd drop a brick on them if I had to - they would come off......and vice versa.....

It's an honorable thing to do IMHO, just do it safely and definitely take a test drive on Androcur -

Some advice on that, since you may have a lower T level, I was taking 100mg a day and it was OVERkill - and it caused depression.....and weight gain.

I was actually able to get to a COMFORTABLE level with NO erections at 25mg - or 1/4 of a pill - not to mention that saved me some money cutting pills up......

And it DOES make for a WONDERFUL calm.......and softer skin, etc etc

I think from what i read in your first two posts on this topic that you will be happier, and calmer...

Keep us posted!

[SexlessC23 (imported)]

Zero frustration, and zero erections, is the goal. Softer skin would be a bonus. My T-level is quite high though, high-end of the normal range. How about high dose to induce castration ASAP, and then a lower maintenance dose?

I basically want to induce a sexless state myself, with no desire or as little desire as possible.

[Tclosetgirl (imported)]

I did that, 100mg for about 10 days and then cut back to 25mg.

The first time it took almost 2 weeks to get it down to ZERO erections completely castrated.

After that it seems I could feel it within a week but 10-14 days and you feel yourself sinking in....kind of a neat feeling.

[ramses (imported)]

While I can DEFINATELY understand wanting to reduce libido to solve the frustrations problem, I would still have a problem doing it for a woman that was so selfish that she would just EXPECT you to SUFFER because she just wasn't in the mood anymore.

Even if she says there are health benefits to not taking HRT, what the hell is the point of living a longer healthier life alone and without intimacy? I choose quality of life over quantity of life ANYDAY. It's not fair that in midlife she just makes the choice that you will have a sexless marriage. I think I'd dump my wife or make it clear that I'd have my needs met elsewhere, or else.

[Blaise (imported)]

While I can DEFINATELY understand wanting to reduce libido to solve the frustrations problem, I would still have a problem doing it for a woman that was so selfish that she would just EXPECT you to SUFFER because she just wasn't in the mood anymore.

Even if she says there are health benefits to not taking HRT, what the hell is the point of living a longer healthier life alone and without intimacy? I choose quality of life over quantity of life ANYDAY. It's not fair that in midlife she just makes the choice that you will have a sexless marriage. I think I'd dump my wife or make it clear that I'd have my needs met elsewhere, or else.

I agree. In my marraige, I was the one with loss of desire and that was awful for my wife--just awful.