Need a little help with lowering my libido

[Blaise (imported)]

Well, Prozac ruined my libido. It was effective though that is not the effect that I wanted. SSRI/anti-depressants have lowered my libido. Some are more effective in doing that than others, but all do it. They do affect the ability to ejaculate.

[sdboy300 (imported)]

The only thing that concerns me about Prozac is the side effects and apparently that you develop some kind of dependency on SSRIs and don't function well without them anymore.

Or is my thinking a little naive here, and the Androcur side effects are much more serious?

[Blaise (imported)]

Supposedly, SSRI drugs don't affect you if you don't need them. I know of no dependency problems with SSRIs, except that your depression returns if you stop using them. Lexpro has few side-effects for me, thought sexual functioning is affected but not as much as with Prozac and other SSRI medications I have used.

[sdboy300 (imported)]

Can you achieve an erection with SSRIs and if so, do you still have morning erections?

Any other side effects that are noteworthy for an otherwise healthy body?

[ramses (imported)]

Selective Seretonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) like Prozac do not effect nocturnal erections. Prozac, at 40mg/day, works well for OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and can help keep you from dwelling on sex. Some people have more issues with being tired than others and some are not effected sexually at all. I personally fell much more in control and don't get very worked up unless I'm with my wife. It seems to reduce the NEED to penetrate/ejaculate. As with all drugs, some people do not tolerate it at all and dosage will effect outcome. I wouldn't suggest starting a dosage over 20mg/day for 3-4 weeks as some of the more bothersome side effects will hit you like insomnia at night, lethargy during the day, constant yawning, head in a fog. Oddly enough, those were the same effects I had with androcur.

SSRIs are not for everyone but If you are only thinking about castration because you feel out of control from unwanted sexual urges and appetite, I would try prozac first. It may also help put you in a better frame of mind to make decisions regarding your health.

[Robster88 (imported)]

Hi all:

I just joined a few days ago and so far have been reading as many posts as I can.

Here is my situation: I would like to lower my sex drive to match that of my wife. She likes to have sex once a month, I would like it several times a week. Therefore I masturbate sometimes twice a day.

From what I have read I was planning on getting my T-levels checked and then order Androcur and Tamoxifen from Inhouse.

I was planning on starting with 2x50mg Androcure and 2x10mg Tamoxifen for the first week and then dropping both by about half as maintenance. I have also been taking 1mg finasteride a day for my mpb for the last 5 years, which is why I want to start with a lower dosage than most, because I figure these drugs kind of interact.

My goal is to lower my sex drive substantially but still be able to perform when my wife wants it. If I can't get it up every now and then that would not be a big deal either.

I want to avoid the side effects of these drugs as much as possible, in particular I have no interest in feminization. If some shrinkage of my penis and balls occurs that would not be a big deal.

How long would you say do I need to take these drugs? Will there be irreversible side effects if I take them at low dosage over an extended period? If yes what are they? It seems that a lot of people here use it for a few months and then stop for awhile. Is that a good option to avoid long term consequences, especially complete impotence and osteoporosis? If I only take it for 2-3 months at a time, is there still a chance of genital shrinkage and osteoporosis?

While I do want to lower my libido, I also do not want to damage my body beyond repair, because I like sex when my wife is up for it.

Thanks for reading and any help would be greatly appreciated.

Hi I am new to the boards. There is some great info on this site and I am very appreciative to those who have shared their experiences. Except for a slight difference in our ages (I am 40) we have practically the same situation and end goal. Ramses suggested Prozac which is an intriquing idea. However, I wonder if other SSRIs might have similar results. My wife has a rather large reserve of Effexor from before she switched to another drug. I wonder if it might be worth experimenting with it that prior to trying other options. Has any one have tried this med and if so what was the impact on your libido? Oddly enough, her interest in sex has never wavered from about once per month regardless of which med she is on or vs no meds at all. For the record, we have had all of her hormones tested and tried everything practical to enhance her interest level and we have tried conseling. At least once in the past when we have butted heads on this issue she suggested that some meds might help calm me down although I am not sure how serious she was at the time. Which leads to another question that I have. How many of you here discussed chem cast or physical cast with your wife and/or significant other? How did they react and if it went over well how did you pitch it to them?

[ramses (imported)]

Effexor scares me and I don't think you should mess with it without SERIOUS medical need. I believe it affects seretonin and dopamine levels and can cause real problems in withdrawl. Prozac is safe, cheap ($10/90 tablets) and effective. Have your wife look up the orgasmic diet to raise her libido. I have read a lot of anecdotal evidence of it working.

[kristoff]

Hi I am new to the boards. There is some great info on this site and I am very appreciative to those who have shared their experiences. Except for a slight difference in our ages (I am 40) we have practically the same situation and end goal. Ramses suggested Prozac which is an intriquing idea. However, I wonder if other SSRIs might have similar results. My wife has a rather large reserve of Effexor from before she switched to another drug. I wonder if it might be worth experimenting with it that prior to trying other options. Has any one have tried this med and if so what was the impact on your libido? Oddly enough, her interest in sex has never wavered from about once per month regardless of which med she is on or vs no meds at all. For the record, we have had all of her hormones tested and tried everything practical to enhance her interest level and we have tried conseling. At least once in the past when we have butted heads on this issue she suggested that some meds might help calm me down although I am not sure how serious she was at the time. Which leads to another question that I have. How many of you here discussed chem cast or physical cast with your wife and/or significant other? How did they react and if it went over well how did you pitch it to them?

Effexor will generally blunt your orgasmic capability, in some cases mildly retard erective capacity, but usually will NOT lower libido. It also has a hideous and usually very painful withdrawal syndrome. If you are not in strong need, don't touch it.

[BossTamsin (imported)]

I'd have to agree with that. Having been on effexor twice, I can definitely attest to the withdrawal symptoms. Absolutely my least favourite antidepressant. If I missed my dose by so much as an hour, I could tell. I won't even begin to touch what I went through coming off it, save I've found quitting smoking more pleasant.

[Robster88 (imported)]

Thx for the feeback thus far. Although my wife did not have any of the nasty withdrawl problems that have been suggested here, given the consensus of responses it is quite possible she was an exception to the norm. I will steer clear of that drug. I had just hoped to avoid the formal prescription hassle, at least until/unless it proved to accomplish the goal.

Ramses, you have suggested Prozac. How does that compare to your previous experiement with DP shots and/or Andorcur. Also, I have read from your previous posts that you have talked with your wife about this stuff in the past. What does she currently think of the situation and the results that you have achieved? BTW, we tried the Orgasmic Diet with inconclusive results. It might interesting to go back and see what might happen now that she is on a different med.