Are there two ideas about being a Eunuch

[Batman (imported)]

Is there a romanticized concept of DE-Manning a male...as in some stories a man is nutted and then stays married to his wife and becomes her servant and servant to the men she sleeps with. Is there a mythos attached to the whole thing that because you lose them, you are less than what you were?

The real Eunuchs on here have productive lives, did it as a life choice for the most part, take TRT if they want to...and haven't become spineless robotic servants.

Does the first idea refer to the fantasy bunch. The ones who if they really were castrated, would regret it almost immediately? Where as the guys who went into this with their eyes open, did it for specific reasons and are the same person afterwards albeit calmer and less aggressive?

Batman

[tugon (imported)]

I was told twice this weekend to stop being so agressive. You would think that after ten+ years of being a non hrt eunuch I might be calmer. Since becoming a eunuch I have felt more like my true self. Since I like myself more I am less apt to let people take advantage or mistreat me. I am more assertive in my day to day life.

Sexually I still find myself as more the bottom and my fantasies involve me being subservient. Once the sex is over do not make the mistake that I will be passive in other situations.

[cordonone (imported)]

I guess everyone's experience is unique (no pun intended). The conventional wisdom certainly is that someone without a lot of testosterone in their system is likely to be less aggressive than someone with a high level of testosterone. I guess there's scientific research to support this as well, but I also know that the "normal" range for testosterone is between 300--1,000, depending on age. And, I imagine that someone can be angry and very aggressive without a lot of testosterone, depending on personality and background.

[Charis (imported)]

Men who would be submissive servants to their wives or girl friend and watch as they have sex with others would likely do the same with or without testicles. The fantasy of castration just adds to the humilation they seek. It also gives justification to those in denial, that are unable to admit to their submissive obsession, why a "real man" would tolerate such conditions. Its not about being a Eunuch, its about domination.

[Kangan (imported)]

Men who would be submissive servants to their wives or girl friend and watch as they have sex with others would likely do the same with or without testicles. The fantasy of castration just adds to the humilation they seek. It also gives justification to those in denial, that are unable to admit to their submissive obsession, why a "real man" would tolerate such conditions. Its not about being a Eunuch, its about domination.

My own experience as an eunuch is that my desire to watch my wife have sex with other men has not changed much.

As for your conclusion - I'd have to agree.

[slowone2 (imported)]

As I'm not quite a Eunuch yet I must agree with Kangan's comment to Charis.

[curious1 (imported)]

I really do think that it depends on the individual involved, we all have different reasons for doing this, for some this is the reason, while for others it is a totally different reason.

[FianceeUvBigGuy (imported)]

Of the three (well, four, counting our new Asian "ladyboy" acquaintance,) eunuchs I know, reasons for castration are widely varied.

Our "pet" eunuch friend and lover was voluntarily snipped to control what he describes as "urges that would make him do bad things." His mother, sad to say, was the driving influence in his being castrated. SHE got off on it, I'm quite certain.

His two eunuch friends from Houston? One has been reluctant to go into detail but I suspect it was a punishment dealt to him by some sort vigilante type or types, perhaps an "Either you lose 'em or we A: Kill you, or B: Go to the cops and tell all!" The other just made the choice on his own, and I think there may have been some medically-related factors in his decision.

The "Ladyboy", who has been in the USA for maybe a year, and was introduced to me by one of the Houstonians, stated that "She" was castrated, voluntarity, in her mid-teens, apparently right after or near the end of puberty. I was totally shocked by the revelation, but then we her at the EA learned of the back-alley Mom 'n Pop places doing castrations on VERY young teens in Thailand until the government stepped in. Whoa!

None of these folks seem subservient or to be seeking humiliation.

Yoli

More Kawfeeeeee!

[devi (imported)]

As a "pituatary" eunuch and then a real eunuch (and I can sing higher than Celine Dione, did shave as much as twice a week in my thirties), all I can say is that a lot of the stuff you here about eunuchs is a bunch of pure total cockamany BULLCRAP!!! Yes, I get road rage every so often but then I have ridden along side women who have gotten road rage at the same kind of aggravations that get me pissed off. When somebody is human and walks on two feet, --or not even has to walk on two feet even they will get aggravated and pissed off at a lot of things in everyday life. Guaranteed. Ever wait at a four way stop sign for some itiot on the cell phone who just fuckin' isn't getting it? And so forth. You know what I mean. Maybe the only difference is that we're not particularly known for chasing after women or hanging out with the boys like every one else. We're probably not one of the ten guys surrounding the major center of attraction at the bar or around town hoping to be the one who gets into her pants and fending off the other guys all the while trying to get closer and closer to her while she's loving all the attention given to her by everyone. (Yes, I have have observed this sort of behavior lots of times.) And that's about all the difference there really is.

[chilliwilli (imported)]

Two types? I'd say probably a whole bunch...my heart goes out to the transexual types.

It seems like alot of emotional and intellectual energy gets spent just trying to express yourself with little or no energy left for developing an equaly satisfying expirience.