not gay, but bi?

[kantfeelStuff (imported)]

if you follow my story, i have castration fantasies. i just came to terms with that recently and with a lot of help from all of you here at the EA.

now, something just happened about five minutes ago... i was jerking off like normal that is: straight porn while thinking of castration. but something was different this time, i thought of sucking the guy off and i came, hard.

ive always known that i like women, but i never really thought that i would be into men. ive heard that gay people KNOW they are gay, but i am somewhat attracted to men but i never thought in any sexual way, until tonight.

now, after i have cum, ive done some research into being gay or bi and realize that it kind of makes me sick, but it also kind of makes me curious

now, im thinking that this doesnt necessarily mean im bi, but could that be a maybe?

please, any input will help out

[Charis (imported)]

Being curious and open to new things does not make a person something. Even taking actions on these thoughts to explore your feelings and to experience the results will not make you bi or gay. A momentary passing fanatasy about gay sex likely has occurred to all people. What you choose to be and do will define who you are.

[ramses (imported)]

Just remember that just because you fixed a car once , doesn't make you a mechanic or cutting a tree down does not make you a lumberjack. But if you suck one cock, you are forever a cocksucker....

[The Lurker (imported)]

Ramses! So true, and funny. LOL.

But let's be sensitive to the guys just figuring it all out. Get them a pillow for their knees!

[_g (imported)]

if you follow my story, i have castration fantasies. i just came to terms with that recently and with a lot of help from all of you here at the EA.

now, something just happened about five minutes ago... i was jerking off like normal that is: straight porn while thinking of castration. but something was different this time, i thought of sucking the guy off and i came, hard.

ive always known that i like women, but i never really thought that i would be into men. ive heard that gay people KNOW they are gay, but i am somewhat attracted to men but i never thought in any sexual way, until tonight.

now, after i have cum, ive done some research into being gay or bi and realize that it kind of makes me sick, but it also kind of makes me curious

now, im thinking that this doesnt necessarily mean im bi, but could that be a maybe?

please, any input will help out

Just remember you can't change what you are, but if you don't act on your thoughts you are not BI or Gay. Most people who do take action on all their thoughts end up in jail or dead!

[Free to be ME (imported)]

Just remember you can't change what you are, but if you don't act on your thoughts you are not BI or Gay. Most people who do take action on all their thoughts end up in jail or dead!

Sorry you are dead wrong on this. You can be Gay or Bi and never act on it it's called being Celibate. Just as you can be hetero and never act on it. As far as sexuality goes you are what you are even if you never have sex in anyway shape or form. As far as acting on ones thoughts if we hold to what you say then we would all be sitting in a room by ourselves. Acting on ones thoughts means taking responsibility for your actions I act on many of my thoughts does this mean I should be in jail or dead? If I never acted on my thoughts and went through life like a good mindless marionette I would never have joined the military and gotten to see the world, never would have gotten to go to collage, never would have gotten married, divorced, found my true life partner, never would have taken a chance at things and would have had life pass me by sitting on the sidelines saying should have, would have, could have.

Taking responsibility for acting on ones thoughts or even thinking them is part of the great experience of being human to not take a chance and act on a thought is a shame. Now if you had said criminal thoughts such as rape murder thievery then yes I agree but your blanket statement is way over board and Draconian in the realm of this person wondering about their sexual being.

[Free to be ME (imported)]

if you follow my story, i have castration fantasies. i just came to terms with that recently and with a lot of help from all of you here at the EA.

now, something just happened about five minutes ago... i was jerking off like normal that is: straight porn while thinking of castration. but something was different this time, i thought of sucking the guy off and i came, hard. .....

now, after i have cum, ive done some research into being gay or bi and realize that it kind of makes me sick, but it also kind of makes me curious

Why does the thought you had a homo erotic episode and looking into research into bi or gay life make you sick? Is it the idea that a person can have sexual and deep emotional relationships with both birth genders disgust you or that deep sexual and emotional bonds between two people of the same birth gender bother you? Is it that you are sickened that you felt this way in a sexual fantasy session? Could you fell shame that you had a fantasy about this durng masturbation?

There are many people here who are Bi, Gay, Transgendered, and gender neutrel. Do these people make you feel sick in that they have all manner of relationships within thier birth gender and outside it?

A sexual fantasy is just that I don't care who you are at one time or another you are going to dream or fantasize about being with another of the same sex, fantasize about being the opposite gender and having sex and on and on. It's normal!

There is a big difference between reality and mastubation fantasy is....

If 24/7 you are equally sexually and emotionaly attracted to your gender then odds are your gay, if that holds to both genders then most likely you are Bi. But if it is in a masturbation dream then thats all it is a fantasy.

now, im thinking that this doesnt necessarily mean im bi, but could that be a maybe?

Doubtful see above.

please, any input will help out

Basicly get over feeling shame or disgust about a stroke off fantasy take it for what it was an intense fun fantasy.

[kristoff]

Excellent thoughts, Free. Thanks.

Kant -

Just remember, you are responsible to yourself first and foremost. Follow your instincts and heart - they are usually not wrong. At your age, exploration is a natural thing - allow it! Ultimately, what others think of you is none of your business - what you think of yourself is valid and most important. Think well, play well, live well...

[kantfeelStuff (imported)]

Just remember that just because you fixed a car once , doesn't make you a mechanic or cutting a tree down does not make you a lumberjack. But if you suck one cock, you are forever a cocksuck

er....

not helpful but very funny

Why does the thought you had a homo erotic episode and loo

king into research into bi or gay life make you sick?

im not sure, maybe because im a bit scared or even nervous.

naked boys, huge cocks , tight asses make me horny , much more than tits or naked womans

im not one for anal, but i do find men

attractive almost as much as i find women attractive.

There are many people here who are Bi, Gay, Transgendered, and gender neutrel. Do these people make you feel sick in that they have all manner of re

lationships within thier birth gender and outside it?

of course not, its not the fact that other people do it, im fine with that.

it was the thought of ME doing it that made me a bit sick, now that i have had some sleep and i have had time to mull it over it might just be that im questioning myself, or im nervous, or im scared, but definitely im scared of not knowing for sure.

my best friends are very supportive so if i find that i am gay or bi they will still accept me as i am, so im not scared of BEING gay.. i guess im scared of trying new things or something along those lines

[Kangan (imported)]

Dear Kant...

I'm Bi. Always have been always will be. I don't do anal, but cocksucking is okay with me in either position. Don't worry about your fantasy. I've found that quite an overwhelming majority of guys are bi to some extent.