Transitioning at work and in all of my life

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Slammr (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 28, 2010 10:05 pm I would love to go to Istanbul - so much history. I'm an ancient history buff.

🙄 You'r welcomed when ever to visit Istanbul. It is really good for the ones that loves history after being the cap city of both Byzantium and Ottoman Empires, it is like living in an open museum (if you'r in the old city) the new areas are no different than any other metropolitan city with skycraper like towers etc

http://www.vivien-und-erhard.de/english ... /index.htm

some photo shoots from Istanbul 🙄

Greetings from the mysterious Constantinople :)
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Danya (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 28, 2010 9:03 pm This gave me a chance to get some night photos of the city. Between the botanical gardens and Millennium Park, I took 180 photos. I just finished downloading them.

I am taking my camera! :)

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Well well well, how about applying to Nat Geo or Discovery as a photo shooter? (btw Im not sure which one is "photo shooter" or "photography artist" is the right word or neither 🙄)

You really like taking pictures but how about sharing some of them with us? Do you also upload them to any of the online photo sharing sites like flickr or just on your pc? If just on your pc so please share some of them with us...

What was your profession?And what type of job are you looking for? Im not still sure if economic downturn has ended or is it just the media that wants us regard so... Here at the old continent things are getting worse, our neighbour Greece is on the edge of an economical collapse and there are fears that this may just jump to further Portugal and Spain and make things even worse...

Most probably Im just a kiddie in Eunuch Archieve terms cause most of the frequent users are more experienced than me (see how polite I am and not used the word "older" 🙄) as Im on the edge of turning 34 :) I have to say that I was a kid of economic downturns (dont remember the booming 80s much cause I was just a school boy then)

So do not evet lose your courage on your quest to find the appropriate job and not an advice but also think on how or what you can do in terms of online business that area is still seem as virgin and with the right people you can also have a chance to setup an online business...💡

And also I had to mention this that on one of your responses "a lady has many secrets to ..." was something like that... It was a very foxy (in a positive way) and also was a hit for me as it just remi[quote="Slammr
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kizahakan (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 29, 2010 12:25 am Well well well, how about applying to Nat Geo or Discovery as a photo shooter? (btw Im not sure which one is "photo shooter" or "photography artist" is the right word or neither 🙄)

You really like taking pictures but how about sharing some of them with us? Do you also upload them to any of the online photo sharing sites like flickr or just on your pc? If just on your pc so please share some of them with us...

Hi Kizahakan,

I would love to be a photographer for National Geography or a smiliar organization. I don't think I'm anywhere near good enough for that, though. I enjoy photography and I keep getting better at it. So I am happy.

There are two sites where I display a few of my photographs. I may create a third to share with Archive members. This will take me at leave a few days.I have got to spend most of my time on the job hunt.
kizahakan (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 29, 2010 12:25 am What was your profession?And what type of job are you looking for? Im not still sure if economic downturn has ended or is it just the media that wants us regard so... Here at the old continent things are getting worse, our neighbour Greece is on the edge of an economical collapse and there are fears that this may just jump to further Portugal and Spain and make things even worse...

Most recently, I have worked with computers in Information Technology. Before that, I was a research chemist.

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kizahakan (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 29, 2010 12:25 am Most probably Im just a kiddie in Eunuch Archieve terms cause most of the frequent users are more experienced than me (see how polite I am and not used the word "older" 🙄) as Im on the edge of turning 34 :) I have to say that I was a kid of economic downturns (dont remember the booming 80s much cause I was just a school boy then)

I am old enough to be your mother! 😄 Still, at the age of 58 I feel very energetic. There is a lot I want to accomplish in life. I am confident I will find a way to reach my goals. I just don't know what the path will be.

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kizahakan (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 29, 2010 12:25 am So do not evet lose your courage on your quest to find the appropriate job and not an advice but also think on how or what you can do in terms of online business that area is still seem as virgin and with the right people you can also have a chance to setup an online business...💡

There was a time when I had my own business, and part of that was an online business. It is difficult to make money online, although this can be a very good marketing tool.
Danya (imported) wrote: Wed Feb 25, 2009 6:07 pm I appreciate your comments.
So far, I don't think I have lost any courage. I did spend more time today thinking about how I am going to get everything to work out. Not just finding a job, but also what else I would like in life.

I still hope to remain in the Chicago area, but I am putting time into my Plan 'B' - what to do if Chicago is not the place to be. Act
kizahakan (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 29, 2010 12:25 am ually, by now this is more Plan 'F' or Plan 'G.' 😄

:And also I had to mention this that on one of your responses "a lady has many secrets to ..." was something like that... It was a very foxy (in a positive way) and also was a hit for me as it
just reminded me how ladies may control men mindly 🙄

My main goal in life is to control men! :D Not really.;) I dressed well for my downtown electrolysis appointment today. I was very pleased with some of the looks I got from the city men. :) As I walked by store windows in my black and white dress, off black nylons and black heels (the comfortable ones!), I enjoyed the sound of my shoes on the sidewalk.

I'm delighted we have a voice from Istanbul.

Hugs,

Danya
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kizahakan (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 29, 2010 12:25 am You really like taking pictures but how about sharing some of them with us? Do you also upload them to any of the online photo sharing sites like flickr or just on your pc? If just on your pc so please share some of them with us...

If you are interested in seeing some of my photos, send me a PM. Then I will send you the link.

Or, if you are belong to Facebook I can tell you how to connect with me there. If have a number of photos posted.
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This is part of a report released in February of this year. It was published by the Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago, which covers a number of midwestern states. (http://midwest.chicagofedblogs.org/arch ... g_chi.html) Any emphasis is mine.

"However, it is more difficult to draw the conclusion that the Chicago area had successfully restructured its jobs base away from its surrounding region to become a global city. Whether Chicago had become more of an interconnected global financial and business center, such as New York or London, is still an open question. As seen above, for much of the 1990s, the Chicago region’s per capita income made little if any gains on the Great Lakes region. Rather, by way of explanation, the surrounding Midwest region was also experiencing a comeback of the same degree [1]. Domestic automakers were well on their way to profitability in producing energy-hungry passenger vans and sport utility vehicles. Meanwhile, rapid growth in the developing world supported Midwest production of capital goods machinery, such as farm and construction equipment. The Chicago regional economy continued to restructure toward high-skilled service provision, but its linkages may have remained somewhat parochial. That is, the Chicago area’s own growth appears to have been achieved through the provision of professional and transportation services to its traditional Midwest business partners.

In reappraising the era of the 1990s (especially in light of the Chicago region’s recent subpar economic performance), Chicago leaders and analysts may be motivated to look more carefully at possible directions for the future. Relative to some other Midwest and Northeast cities, the Chicago area has many assets, such as its prodigious base of professional services and a vibrant central city, which may provide ample opportunities for growth. Yet the future of Chicago’s economic direction and structure remain somewhat murky."

I had read this report before I made the decision to move here. Tonight, I wanted to read it again as I consider my back up plan(s). One of the difficulties with evalutating a potential move for employment is the complexity of a region's economy. The Chicago area economy is very complex, although not nearly so globally centered as those of New York and London - as the article notes. I have recently read that the New York region is expected to soon experience significant job growth in some sectors, despite the fact that the economic meltdown began there. I love Chicago and I really love New York.

There are a number of sources that attempt to rate the global importance of cities. Factors taken into account can include business, financial, political and cultural influence. Wikipedia gives one ranking. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Global_city) New York and London are at the top of the heap. Chicago only makes it into the bottom ranking of alpha world cities. I have seen other sources that rank it even lower versus New York, which is typically on top. The Chicago Federal Reserve report confirms its own doubts that the city has truly reached global status.

That's OK with me. :) As you may have noticed, I love big cities. Chicago fits the bill. Just as the report notes, it has a very vibrant downtown. With very expensive parking rates to match. 😄

The specific types of jobs I am looking for are in economic sectors that are predicted to fare better than others in Chicago. I also knew before I moved that the jobs recovery here was expected to lag the Twin Cities by roughly 3 months. Again, though, that is a broad look at economic trends and does not clearly show how Information Technology, for instance, will fare in the two regions. I used other data sources to satisfy myself that I would have more opportunities here. This has proven to be the case. When I speak with a
Danya (imported) wrote: Sun Mar 07, 2010 3:00 pm close friend in the Twin Cities,
an IT project manager, she still thinks I made the right choice.

There were other reasons besides my job search and the city size that led me here. Most particularly, a better environment for continuing my transgender journey and knowing there are friends nearby.

As I continue to apply for jobs here, I am expanding my research into other job markets. I am creating a list of other places I would consider (e.g., New York, Philadelphia. Portland, Oregon, Seattle and certain mid-continental cities). I know I can be happy in a much smaller city, because I enjoy the outdoors, too. I am also making a list of places I will not go. I have got to feel that I am in an environment that is reasonably friendly towards trans people. If I were past GRS, I would not be as concerned. I have to deal with the reality of my situation.

It has been nine months now since I lost my job. I must be prepared to move, for a job offer, if things are not looking sufficiently positive here by, roughly, early July. Possibly sooner if a really good possibility comes my way. I want to get on with my life and I need a good job to do that. Besides, I want to work and enjoy it.
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Hi Danya,

Thank you for all your kind words and also thank you very much for spending your time to answer all the posts including mine, this is really very kind of you...

You mentioned that you also worked as a research chemist...This is really cool. I also worked in GlaxoSmithKline then moved to Roche now Im at a local generic company in the field of business development though Im an economist ;)

You are a nice combination as a research chemist and also have experience in the field of information technology. So have you ever applied for a position at the R&D depts of the pharmaceuticals? Im sure they would not miss a valuable asset like you💡

Id love to get in touch with you in facebook and see you photo shots..You can search me as "Hakan Gumusbaston" and send a friend request then voila ;)

It is really the miracle of technology that let us keep in touch from thousands of miles away;)

Tomorrow is finally TGIF :) and wish you a nice and peacefull week end

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Hi Danya,

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kizahakan (imported) wrote: Fri Apr 30, 2010 10:04 am You are a nice combination as a research chemist and also have experience in the field of information technology. So have you ever applied for a position at the R&D depts of the pharmaceuticals? Im sure they would not miss a valuable asset like you💡

Hi Kizahakan,

My expertise in chemistry is advanced analytical methodology and synthesis of organic polymers including liquid crystals. Recruiters tell me it would be very difficult for me to return to a career in chemistry, because I have not worked there in about 12 years. My experience in research chemistry spans 20 years, though, and I in no way have forgotten much of what I learned in that time. My doctorate is relatively recent. I completed it in 1996. Also, although my analytical skills in molecular structure elucidation are still in demand I have no experience in pharmaceuticals. This is a handicap. :) If there were a way for me to return to a role in chemistry, other than a very low paying technician position, I would be pleased. I am always on the lookout for employers who would value my combination of IT and science skills. Your idea is terrific; perhaps this will work. It may be possible for me to get a job supervising an analytical chemistry lab.
kizahakan (imported) wrote: Fri Apr 30, 2010 10:04 am Id love to get in touch with you in facebook and see you photo shots..You can search me as "Hakan Gumusbaston" and send a friend request then voila ;)

It is really the miracle of technology that let us keep in touch from thousands of miles away;)

Tomorrow is finally TGIF :) and wish you a nice and peacefull week end

You, too, have an interesting set of skills. I agree, technology is quite wonderful.

I will send you an invitation from my Facebook account. It will include the name I use here plus a last name.

I hope you have a peaceful weekend, too. It is good to hear from you.

Hugs,

Danya
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The May/June 2010 issue of Scientific American - MIND is devoted to differences between male and female brains and how these effect everything from parenting to perceptions of what is funny. There are some interesting articles with some new ideas on why men and women behave the way they do. After reading the article I discuss here, though, I have to wonder how accurate many of the other ones are.

This issue also contains an article entitled "The Third Gender" with a subtext "Transsexuals are illuminating the biology and psychology of sex - and revealing just how diverse the human species really is." A preview of the article, written by Jesse Bering, can be found here (http://www.scientificamerican.com/artic ... ird-gender).

The writer notes the diversity of transgender expression in humans. I find it disturbing that he proceeds directly from his opening observations on transvestism (which for some would be more properly referred to as cross-dressing) to:

"As researchers probe the biological, psychological and cultural underpinnings of transsexuality in its myriad forms, they continue to be astounded by the individual variation they find."

My problem with this is two-fold. First, the article title specifies transsexuals as the subject and opens with two paragraphs about 'transvestism.' This may confuse those who are not well informed on the variety of transgender expressions. Especially when (concern Two) there is no seque into the transsexuality discussion.

Then there is the title subtext "...illuminating the biology and psychology of sex" when gender identity is, as correctly stated in paragraph 3, distinct from biological sex and sexual orientation.

I have another problem with this article and this is where I have to wonder if the politics of gender identity studies is influencing who gets heard. Is it the loud and controversial researchers, or those who more quietly go about their studies and publish significant research?

There is a lot of space given to the ideas of psychiatrist Ray Blanchard and psychologist Anne Lawrence. Blanchard originated the concept of 'autogynephilia.' Lawrence, who is a MtF transsexual, made some adjustments to this model. Autogynephilia is the idea that heterosexual MtF transsexuals are aroused by the idea of being women.

Excuse me here. 😄 I most definitely am a heterosexual MtF transsexual and I was never aroused by the idea of being a women. Anyway, natal women are known to be sexual beings who enjoy that physical aspect of their being. Should MtF, heterosexual transsexuals be any different?

I have read a lot about autogynephila over the last two years. It is a controversial topic among transsexuals and many gender identity researchers. It is certainly possible that some MtF, heterosexual transsexuals fall into this paradigm. Two gender therapists now have told me they have never met a client who does. Nonetheless, all ideas should be welcomed in academia. Especially when they are backed by sound arguments and well designed studies. :)

Autogynephila was also elaborated by J. Michael Bailey in the 2003 book The Man Who Would Be Queen. There is a Wikipedia article
Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 29, 2010 10:03 pm (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/
The_Man_Who_Would_Be_Queen#Controversy)on positive and negative responses to this work.

Part of the outcry resulted because it was published by the National Academy of Sciences. Critics contend that the methodology used by Blanchard, and others, to support his claims was not scientifically based at all.

Lynn Conway, the world renowned transsexual computer scientist and engineer, writes that the book is highly transphobic (
TS/LynnsReviewOfBaileysBook.html).

Lynn herself was a subject of the book and sued Bailey, who was chair of the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University her
Danya (imported) wrote: Sat Jan 02, 2010 10:42 pm e in the Chicago area.

Dr. Eli Coleman, a p
reeminent psychologist at the University of Minnesota Program in Human Sexuality (http://www.fm.umn.edu/phs/), blasted the Bailey book at a conference in 2005 (
TS/Trans%20Health/IFGE%202005/Eli%20Coleman%20Rebukes%20Bailey's%20Book%20at%20I FGE%202005.htm). His response seemed, to some, to be a little late. The U of M program, where I started my journey, is considered one of the top in the world for studying and treating transgender persons.

Dr. Coleman, and I was not aware of this until just now, spoke out against the Bailey book in 2003 (http://www.tsroadmap.com/info/eli-coleman.html). He is quoted as stating:

"As he outlined the need to “promote sound and ethical research,” Dr. Coleman made a direct reference to The Man Who Would Be Queen by J. Michael Bailey of Northwestern University. The book has been widely denounced as scientifically unsound and deeply biased.

Dr. Coleman urged members to work with the transgender community to “end antipathy and distrust of researchers.” To illustrate what Dr. Coleman called “unfortunate setbacks” to ending this problem, he displayed the Bailey book cover. The book’s provocative title and image of masculine legs and feet in feminine shoes are widely considered to be deliberately insulting.

Referring to Bailey’s shoddy scholarship and deeply flawed research methods, Dr. Coleman emphatically declared: “We need to challenge bad science.” "

When a friend here forwarded me a Ray Blanchard quote, many months ago, I wrote back something like "Do you know who this is??" I am sure he did. I later sent him a lengthy response when I learned of the methods used by a Northwestern faculty member, a historian I think, to defend the Bailey 'research.' He may have thought, "there she goes again" or "why did I ever broach this topic?" 😄

The thing is, as Eli Coleman acknowledged, great harm can be done to transsexual and transgender persons by shoddy research that receives the official approval of organizations that should know better. Like the National Academy of Sciences.

I liked a few things about the Scientific American - MIND article on transsexuals. For instance, author Bering made an important point about the complexity of MtF transsexualism. For some, gender reassignment surgery is not at all important and that is fine. For others, it can be very important to their fulfillment. Dr. Walte
Danya (imported) wrote: Sat Jan 02, 2010 10:42 pm r Bockting, like Coleman, is a very respected psychologist at the U of M Program in
Human Sexuality. He is the current president of the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (http://www.wpath.org/). I heard him speak at a conference last year and spoke with him personally in August, 2009. I think he would agree with this, although I seem to remember his stating that one should not take out a second mortgage to finance GRS. I sent him an email this evening requesting further information.
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Danya (imported) wrote: Fri Apr 30, 2010 6:18 pm The May/June 2010 issue of Scientific American - MIND is devoted to differences between male and female brains and how these effect everything from parenting to perceptions of what is funny. There are some interesting articles with some new ideas on why men and women behave the way they do. After reading the article I discuss here, though, I have to wonder how accurate many of the other ones are.

This issue also contains an article entitled "The Third Gender" with a subtext "Transsexuals are illuminating the biology and psychology of sex - and revealing just how diverse the human species really is." A preview of the article, written by Jesse Bering, can be found here (http://www.scientificamerican.com/artic ... ird-gender).

I clicked on the link but the full article was not available. It looks interesting and I was wondering if you could copy the entire article so we all could read it?
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tugon (imported) wrote: Fri Apr 30, 2010 6:58 pm I clicked on the link but the full article was not available. It looks interesting and I was wondering if you could copy the entire article so we all could read it?

Hi Tugon,

I miss speaking with you! I keep meaning to give you a call, especially when I am in the city. For some reason, Chicago makes me think of you. I know you enjoy this city.

Anyway, I will check with the administrators (are they listening? 😄) to see if this is an OK thing to do.

I am not sure if it is possible to put scanned pages on this site. I may be able to use some older optical character recognition software to convert it to semi-passable text. Over the next few days, I will see what I can do.

Hugs,

Danya
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