Transitioning at work and in all of my life

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Danya (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 14, 2010 6:36 pm Perhaps because my new HRT doctor halved my testosterone blocking drug, I am feeling some resurgence in sexual interest. Now, I just need to find the right guy to date! 😄. I'm not quite sure how to go about this, but I'll figure it out.

Mrs T has her hormones "store bought" now and once she found the right mix of Estrogen and Testosterone its made a huge difference.

Re Guys and Dating. Don't laugh! You blend so well that I worry about you. So, PLEASE be careful with all this pre GRS. At least don't let any potential boyfriends find out too late. I've heard horror stories about narrow minded guys going ape. I also hope you don't find someone who is only interested BECAUSE your TS... I guess I'm saying both of us hope you find someone that will give you the same kind of love we found.

Blond versus whatever! I think its all good. The only thing that I personally find not so attractive in any women are the really bad hair dye jobs. "Fake" redheads in particular with weird non earthly shades.
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Cost reduced GRS???

"Grant reactivated for limited time

Sunday, December 6th, 2009

Thank you for your interest in what we do.

GRANT SUBSIDIES AVAILABLE AGAIN

This January, 2010 the first 10 cases, will

receive Grant Subsidies.

Think “the first 10 in 2010.”

After reading the attached (our letter to prospective patiuents available by writing admin@srsMiami.com) , if you believe I am the doctor for you, please initiate a consultation over the phone with our office by sending us your name, address, and telephone number in an envelope along with a check for 250. We’ll get started ASAP. We’ll have a lot to talk about.

The grant should reduce your fees by about 1/3 from our typically affordable price when you agree to donate your testes to a non-reproductive research project. Certain restrictions regarding age and communicable disease may apply.

Happy Holidays,

Harold M. Reed

1111 Kane Concourse, Suite # 311

Bay Harbor Islands, Florida 33154

305-865-2000"
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mrt (imported) wrote: Sat Apr 17, 2010 7:20 pm Cost reduced GRS???

"Grant reactivated for limited time

Sunday, December 6th, 2009

Thank you for your interest in what we do.

GRANT SUBSIDIES AVAILABLE AGAIN

This January, 2010 the first 10 cases, will

receive Grant Subsidies.

Think “the first 10 in 2010.”

After reading the attached (our letter to prospective patiuents available by writing admin@srsMiami.com) , if you believe I am the doctor for you, please initiate a consultation over the phone with our office by sending us your name, address, and telephone number in an envelope along with a check for 250. We’ll get started ASAP. We’ll have a lot to talk about.

The grant should reduce your fees by about 1/3 from our typically affordable price when you agree to donate your testes to a non-reproductive research project. Certain restrictions regarding age and communicable disease may apply.

Happy Holidays,

Harold M. Reed

1111 Kane Concourse, Suite # 311

Bay Harbor Islands, Florida 33154

305-865-2000"

Please check into Dr. Reed and his methods and procedures VERY CAREFULLY!

He does his GRS procedures on an OUT PATIENT BASIS. First night is spent in his private clinic and after that he whisks you off to a local hotel were he has one of his staff members stop by a check on you daily.

OK, having been through the GRS procedure myself, I can tell you from first hand experience that I was barely able to get up and walk around after 48 hours let along make it into a hotel room and fend for myself 24 hours after surgery. I've also heard that his work, how can I put this nicely, leaves a little bit to be desired. You only get one chance to do this right, therefore I would prefer to spend the extra money to see someone that has a great amount of experience in this type of surgery. I don't need him practicing his technique on me. Thank you very much! These are just a couple of reasons why Dr. Reeds prices are so low compared to the other better know and more experienced surgeons in this field.
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EricaAnn (imported) wrote: Sun Apr 18, 2010 4:09 pm Please check into Dr. Reed and his methods and procedures VERY CAREFULLY!

He does his GRS procedures on an OUT PATIENT BASIS. First night is spent in his private clinic and after that he whisks you off to a local hotel were he has one of his staff members stop by a check on you daily.

OK, having been through the GRS procedure myself, I can tell you from first hand experience that I was barely able to get up and walk around after 48 hours let along make it into a hotel room and fend for myself 24 hours after surgery. I've also heard that his work, how can I put this nicely, leaves a little bit to be desired. You only get one chance to do this right, therefore I would prefer to spend the extra money to see someone that has a great amount of experience in this type of surgery. I don't need him practicing his technique on me. Thank you very much! These are just a couple of reasons why Dr. Reeds prices are so low compared to the other better know and more experienced surgeons in this field.

Running TS support groups for years, I've known a couple or Reed's post-op patients. The first's, admittedly one of his early patients, was a horror story. Sort of a Three Stooges perform SRS, involving a post op trip from Reed's office to the hotel a block or two away via sitting in an wheeled office chair being pushed by a couple of the office staff. Her outcome was a complete failure with no effective depth, and the last I heard she was negotiating with another SRS surgeon for a complete redo. The other patient saw Reed several years later, was totally happy with both the outcome and the cost and she felt that Reed practically walked on water. YMMV , (your milage may vary)

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mrt (imported) wrote: Sat Apr 17, 2010 7:12 pm Mrs T has her hormones "store bought" now and once she found the right mix of Estrogen and Testosterone its made a huge difference.

Re Guys and Dating. Don't laugh! You blend so well that I worry about you. So, PLEASE be careful with all this pre GRS. At least don't let any potential boyfriends find out too late. I've heard horror stories about narrow minded guys going ape. I also hope you don't find someone who is only interested BECAUSE your TS... I guess I'm saying both of us hope you find someone that will give you the same kind of love we found.

Blond versus whatever! I think its all good. The only thing that I personally find not so attractive in any women are the really bad hair dye jobs. "Fake" redheads in particular with weird non earthly shades.

Hi MrT,

You are a sweetheart.

I am very aware of the horror stories but, as always, I appreciate your concern. I totally agree about letting a potential boyfriend know the situation early on. At this point, I seriously doubt there will be any potential boyfriends. But I may be surprised on day.

Hugs,

Danya
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mrt (imported) wrote: Sat Apr 17, 2010 7:20 pm Cost reduced GRS???

"Grant reactivated for limited time

Sunday, December 6th, 2009

Thank you for your interest in what we do.

GRANT SUBSIDIES AVAILABLE AGAIN

This January, 2010 the first 10 cases, will

receive Grant Subsidies.

Think “the first 10 in 2010.”

I seriously doubt that any of these
EricaAnn (imported) wrote: Sun Apr 18, 2010 4:09 pm subsidies would still be available in late April.

Please check into Dr. R
eed and his methods and procedures VERY CAREFULLY!
transward (imported) wrote: Sun Apr 18, 2010 5:04 pm I am already very familiar with Dr. Reed's methods. Over a year ago, I decided I would not go to him.

Running TS support groups for years, I've known a couple or Reed's post-op patients. The first's, admittedly one of his early patients, was a horror story. Sort of a Three Stooges perform SRS, involving a post op trip from Reed's office to the hotel a block or two away via sitting in an wheeled office chair being pushed by a couple of the office staff. Her outcome was a complete failure with no effective depth, and the last I heard she was negotiating with another SRS surgeon for a complete redo. The other patient saw Reed several years later, was totally happy with both the outcome
and the cost and she felt that Reed practically walked on water. YMMV , (your milage may vary)

Transward

I don't doubt that some of Reed's results are good. Another consideration for me is my age. Older people heal more slowly. I would want more hospital time to be safe.

In any event, without a job even the 1/3 off offer for GRS is way to steep. Perhaps late next year I will be able to have surgery.
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A brief update on my job search:

1. My Tuesday afternoon interview downtown was moved to Wednesday morning. I will follow the wise counsel of friends and not drive. There is too much risk that traffic delays could cause me to be late. Even if I leave 3 hours before I need to be there. I will take the train.

2. The hiring manager for the Wisconsin job, with a terrific company, told the recruiter he liked my resume so much he would skip the phone interview. We will move directly to the on site interview. This is exactly what happened for job #1. The manager wanted to see me early this week. I had to decline, mentioning the conflict with the first interview.

3. I am in the running for a third job, this one like the first also downtown.

4. A recruiter contacted me today to see if I would be interested in yet another job.

Of course, given the economy
Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 15, 2010 8:46 pm it is entirely possible that none of these p
ossibilities will result in a job offer. I am very encouraged, though, by these developments.

I had something of an urban adventure on Saturday. I drove part way to the city, then decided to take the 'el' the rest of the way. This saved money parking downtown and I avoided potential traffic snarls. I wound up exploring a part of Chicago I had not been to in years. I had my camera along.

The camera caused several problems, or rather my concentration on it did. :) At one point, I was partly in the street photographing skyscrapers behind a raised drawbridge. I wasn't the only one in the street, but unlike the other people I stayed there taking pictures. A bus driver had to honk at me to get me to move! Reminds me of the time in New Orleans when I had a more direct confrontation with a bus, and for a similar reason.

At one point, I took the steps from Wacker Drive down to the side of the Chicago River. I wanted to photograph the boats that were being taken back to their warm weather moorings in the Lake Michigan marina. As I was maneuvering to get a better view, I backed into a concrete curb and fell. No harm done. I can get very much 'in the zone' when taking pictures. :)

I walked around the city for at least 2 1/2 hours. Finally, my body started to tell me that the donut I had for breakfast was not enough to keep me going through 4:30 PM. So I headed back to the 'el'. I needed to get back on the blue line, which downtown is actually a subway.

At the subway station, a young scrawny looking man with a goatee approached me. No one else was in sight. This is when I remembered Erica Ann's words of advice, "You don't want to look like a tourist gawking at all the tall buildings while you carry your camera.":) The thing is, I never tire of gawking at the buildings in any city. While I could not gawk at the buildings from below ground level, I was sitting there with a very nice camera.

The young man sat down next to me and started off by telling me his story. He was in the city, visiting from college in Indiana. His 5 minute tale came down to his being irresponsible the night before. He had gotten very drunk, so he said, and not only gotten sick in a taxi but along the way left his identification and money behind. He freely admitted that he had been very foolish.

He needed to get back to Indiana. Seems like he was somehow able to call his mother. She told him to find a nice lady from out of town, who had children and would understand. Surely such a woman would give him the $44.12 he needed for the trip home. For some reason, he thought I was just such a woman. Little did he know I have no children. :)

He noted that none of the Chicago women would give him the time of day, let alone travel funds. I will not reveal whether or not I gave him any money. For now I'll leave things at I have given money to strangers in the past. I make a decision based on my intuition. Alright, I tend to be tender hearted, or soft-headed! 😄

Then I made the mistake of getting on the right train but going in the wrong direction. :D Now, I might not have let this happen if the young man were not continuing to distract me with his story.

Once the train returned above ground, I noticed (sort of) that the route back did not seem to be quite the same as the one I had taken downtown. I was so busy looking at the 137 photos I'd taken that I did not give this incongruity much thought. 😄 In the end, I had to make the entire trip back downtown and out to near O'Hare airport, where I was parked. I was still getting by on the morning's donut, wanting to avoid spending money on a meal I could make at home.

Along the way, and despite the repeated recording of a man's voice politely notifying the 'customers' that there was to be no gambling or soliciting on the train, another man asked me for money so he would have bus fare.

Just this evening, I drove to the local train station to be sure I could easily find it Wednesday morning. I stood at the station looking at the schedule when a woman approached and asked for a dollar. I wasn't expecting this in a far northwestern suburb.

At least all of these people clearly accepted me as Danya! :) Even on Saturday when I was experiencing not a 'poof' of facial hair growth but a less serious 'puff.' Next Sunday, I'll be back to 3 hours of electrolysis. My electrologist told me yesterday that she expects a more serious outbreak in the next week or two. We may be able to head that off with aggressive treatment.
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I am still hassling with my HRT phsycian's office over getting a letter to state my gender is female. With this, I have some slim hope that I can get an Illinois drivers license that lists my gender, or sex, as female.

Last week, I spoke with the doctor's office manager and he told me he would send a letter out the next day. Nothing happened. I called again today and had to repeat my entire story. He promised again to have the doctor sign a letter. It may not be sufficient.

I'm also trying to reach someone at my high school to see if they will change the name on my transcript. Every time I call I get no answer but leave my number for them to call. They never do. The state of Illinois will
Danya (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 14, 2010 10:43 am accept a high school transcript
in lieu of a birth certificate. This would get around the need to show a birth ceritificate.

This is the one thing that causes me to wish I had stayed in Minnesota. Or consider moving back. Or someplace else that treats trans people better. I love it in the Chicago area but I don't know that this can work out. 😠

Wisconsin will put an 'F' on the drivers license as long as the transgender person is participating in a program for transitioning individuals. Illinois, or at least the Chicago area, is supposed to be far more liberal than Wisconsin. I suppose I could always move across the border to Wisconsin.

I am extremely frustrated over all this and would like to know how people who live their lives full time as women and even take estrogen are supposed to have a normal life in this state.

I cannot worry about this now. I'm getting even more interest from potential employers. But it still ticks me off. I really may have to leave Illinois.
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....after an email exchange with a trans friend. I now think, once more, this will likely work out in Chicago - or cheese land or where ever. 😄
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Hi Danya,

Regarding Illionois Secretary of State policy about changing the gender marker: The physician letter merely has to state that a transition is in process (starting RLE, for instance). My letter reiterated the S.O.C. requirement for a 12-month full-time period in the new gender role, then went on to state: "consistent documentation with congruent gender designation will contribute to a successful outcome."

Here is the clipping from the web which emboldened me prior to visiting the Secretary of State:

An Illinois driver's license and/or identification card (ID) holder who has completed, or who is in the process of obtaining a sex change must provide documentation in the form of a Medical Report form, or Psychiatric Report form, or physician's statement, or other documentation acceptable which indicates that a sex change has taken place or that the applicant is in the process of performing such change.

http://www.thetransitionalmale.com/dlchange

(NOTE: If you go to the link, you'll may have to scroll down to the Illinois section manually. The link at the top of the page didn't work in my browser.)

My visit to the Secretary of State last June was fairly short. Although the change in gender required a supervisor's attention, the physician letter and legal name change court order sufficed. Didn't even have to lie about anything.

Hoping for your success,

Terri
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