Transitioning at work and in all of my life

[Danya (imported)]

I'm looking forward to MoM, 2009 here in the upper Midwest.

I wrote recently that I have little time to post because of the many things going on in my life. Unfortunately, work has again started to overshadow everything else. I am fortunate to have a job, but I am hopeful that the project I am working on will ease up by the end of June. Until then, I will likely work most evenings and weekends.

The many wonderful people in my life, here on the Archive on elsewhere, continue to be the most important part of my life. I wish I had more time to keep in touch with everyone.

[tugon (imported)]

Danya,

Do not worry you will not be forgotten during your trying time at work. When you have time for the EA we will welcome you back. Take care of what you need to and thank you for all you have contributed.

Hugs,

[crankshaft (imported)]

like everything in life, things ebb and flow, right now, you have your work to put all your energy into, go do it,

you will not be forgotten ever,

I have marveled at your inner strength , of what you have gone through, and have arrived at where you are now

and when you get back from time to time, it will be like you never left,

take care

[Danya (imported)]

Danya,

Do not worry you will not be forgotten during your trying time at work. When you have time for the EA we will welcome you back. Take care of what you need to and thank you for all you have contributed.

Hugs,

Hi Tugon,

Thanks for your very kind words, my friend. I will post an update tonight on a very

positive change in my work situation.

Hugs,

Danya

like everything in life, things ebb and flow, right now, you have your work to put all your energy into, go do it,

you will not be forgotten ever,

I have marveled at your inner strength , of what you have gone through, and have arrived at where you are now

and when you get back from tim

e to time, it will be like you never left,

take care

Hi Crankshaft,

It is really good to hear from you. I

t's been awhile and I have wondered how you were doing. I am delighted to read that you are doing so well now.

Your caring words, like those of Tugon and others here, mean more to me than I can tell you.

My work situation has changed for the better, in a big way.

Hugs,

Danya

[Danya (imported)]

I've been able to get help on my project work from two other people in my department.

Being able to hand off some of my project work to someone else, leaving me free for technical issues only I can handle, has done wonders for my stress level. For the first time over the last 18 months, and I am not exaggerating (although my memory may, of course, be imperfect) I feel totally relaxed. Now I know I can get done what I need to accomplish on the job, with the assistance of these two coworkers. Their own work loads are temporarily low because of lack of capital funds. Under normal circumstances, they would be too busy to help me.

At my annual review in October, my boss apologized for what he viewed as abusive demands on my time. He said then that he hoped the situation would improve. Until today, it hadn't improved much at all. I have felt overwhelmed nearly all the time. I was really starting to hate my job.

I had forgotten what it feels like to be so relaxed. Until today, there was always far more work than I could finish -even putting in many extra hours. Now, I know I won’t have to put in excessive hours to get my part of 'the project' completed on time.

For the first time in a long while, I am not only happy but relaxed, too. This is wonderful and I feel I can, at last, devote the time needed to give the photography business a go, and keep up with my music and find some time to look for a new career. The new career thing is something I will pursue with intention and gradually. I do not need to feel rushed about it.

One very good thing about this is, for the first time, I know I can find the time and energy to bring in extra money I need for GRS. And to reach that goal sooner rather than later.

[Danya (imported)]

Tuesday, May 19, will mark the one year anniversary of my transition to full-time living as Danya, the person I was always meant to be. It was on May 19, 2008 that I first arrived at work as Danya. I have many wonderful memories of that day.

I've been trying to think of a way to celebrate and include coworkers. Typically, I host dinner parties on weekend evenings. My boss suggested that I have the celebration Tuesday evening on 5/19. I'm going to go with this, as it will make it easier for some of my office colleagues to attend. Some live 50 miles and more away from the office, which is only 10 miles from my home. It will be relatively easy for some of them to leave work, stop in at my place, and then make the long drive home.

This is not going to be anything fancy, especially since it's a week night. With my reduced work load (see last post! ), I may be able to take the day off to prepare. If not, keeping it simple will still make this easy on me.

I've told my work friends that they should not bring gifts. The evening is a time to get together, talk and laugh as I celebrate one year of being my real self at long last.

[EricaAnn (imported)]

I've been able to get help on my project work from two other people in my department.

Being able to hand off some of my project work to someone else, leaving me free for technical issues only I can handle, has done wonders for my stress level. For the first time over the last 18 months, and I am not exaggerating (although my memory may, of course, be imperfect) I feel totally relaxed. Now I know I can get done what I need to accomplish on the job, with the assistance of these two coworkers. Their own work loads are temporarily low because of lack of capital funds. Under normal circumstances, they would be too busy to help me.

At my annual review in October, my boss apologized for what he viewed as abusive demands on my time. He said then that he hoped the situation would improve. Until today, it hadn't improved much at all. I have felt overwhelmed nearly all the time. I was really starting to hate my job.

I had forgotten what it feels like to be so relaxed. Until today, there was always far more work than I could finish -even putting in many extra hours. Now, I know I won’t have to put in excessive hours to get my part of 'the project' completed on time.

For the first time in a long while, I am not only happy but relaxed, too. This is wonderful and I feel I can, at last, devote the time needed to give the photography business a go, and keep up with my music and find some time to look for a new career. The new career thing is something I will pursue with intention and gradually. I do not need to feel rushed about it.

One very good thing about this is, for the first time, I know I can find the time and energy to bring in extra money I need for GRS. And to reach that goal sooner rather than later.

Hi Danya,

This is wonderful news. I know you have been under a tremendous amount to stress as of late, which is not good for anyone, either physically or mentally.

I'm glad that you will now have some extra time to pursue other interests, hope fully lucrative ones, so that "big date" that we have discussed can be sooner not later.

Hugs,

[Danya (imported)]

Hi Danya,

This is wonderful news. I know you have been under a tremendous amount to stress as of late, which is not good for anyone, either physically or mentally.

I'm glad that you will now have some extra time to pursue other interests, hope fully lucrative ones, so that "big date" that we have discussed can be sooner not later.

Hi Erica Ann,

It's always so good to hear from you. I definitely want to get that 'big date' settled and plans in motion to make it happen.

Hugs,

Danya

[Danya (imported)]

This evening, I've written about the help I am now getting at the office and the approaching one-year anniversary, with a celebration party for coworkers, of my transition to living full-time as myself.

I recently succeeded in convincing my company to include "gender identity and expression" in the non-discrimination policy. I thought this was likely, but I now know it is definite.

[mrt (imported)]

One year in real life is a huge date and is a must for the big date! Of course I like grapes better then dates (A bad pun) as my personal big date(s) resulted in my big grape(s). Ahh... ok... Next message will be in Morse Code to make it even more difficult to follow

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