masturbation

[Testman (imported)]

It could be my girl was just a nympho too, I guess. Once, I made her cum in under a minute and thats with no foreplay either. I hit a certain spot deep inside her pussy with my middle finger. Our record, in terms of orgasms per night for her is 14. But three per session was the most common. Then one time after sex, I reached over really unexpectedly and grabbed her arm and she came again. LOL As for my condition, I read somewhere when men are like that, it is more of a mental thing than a physical one. I do take testosterone and it has been documented, even in animals on testosterone, that they don't orgasm as easily. But never? That sounds like something mental, from the research I have done. It's like I lose my sex drive when with a woman, yet can stay erect all the time. But no sex drive seems to mean no orgasms, at least thats how it feels for me.

[Blaise (imported)]

At the level of fantasy or regression, masturbation is what a boy does with his pee pee or tee tee. Making love is what a man does with his penis and mouth and arms and so forth. Sometimes, I think about masturbation as what a friend once visualized when she complained about the men she dated "lubricating their weenies instead of making love to a woman." (I don't mean to ignore our gay community--I am just thinking on a persoan level here--my friend married a gay Marine Corps officer and is still married to him).

For me, masturbation in this sense refers to playing with my tee tee but not to being a man who is a lover. I like the child within me but I like the man who wanted to be a man. When I was a child, I fantasized about grown women long before I had a good idea about how men and women make love. It's all wired in, isn't it! This is part of the shyness at play in talk about masturbation. There is a sense in which masturbation seems like child's play as opposed to mature lovemaking. I am not really criticising masturbation. As Woody Allen notes, "It is making love with someone I love." I encourage lovers to masturbate while we enjoy intercourse. There is no problem with that.

I enjoy mutual masturbation play. I really love masturabating women. It is a great pleasure, my fondest pleasure. I share a bond with the child in the women I Love.

[Blaise (imported)]

It could be my girl was just a nympho too, I guess. Once, I made her cum in under a minute and thats with no foreplay either. I hit a certain spot deep inside her pussy with my middle finger. Our record, in terms of orgasms per night for her is 14. But three per session was the most common. Then one time after sex, I reached over really unexpectedly and grabbed her arm and she came again. LOL As for my condition, I read somewhere when men are like that, it is more of a mental thing than a physical one. I do take testosterone and it has been documented, even in animals on testosterone, that they don't orgasm as easily. But never? That sounds like something mental, from the research I have done. It's like I lose my sex drive when with a woman, yet can stay erect all the time. But no sex drive seems to mean no orgasms, at least thats how it feels for me.

My former wife and I made love for an hour or two at a time. We were not in a hurry. She could have orgasm after orgasm and I could do it quickly or take my time.

[Blaise (imported)]

My confession is that for the past 16 years I have been. when I have had an orgasm, a tee tee boy. I am somewhat ashamed of that fact. It means that I have not had a lover and been a complete man. I have not given a woman the love, adoration, and pleasure she might have enjoyed through me. That is not to say that masturbation is bad; it is wonderful. However, lets keep all in perspective.

I could go without intercourse much better isfI masturbated a woman or gave her cunnilingus as part of the experience. Oh, well!

I think that this is an honest and even courageous confession. I am out there in every sense of the expression. I repeat that I really miss making love with a poin beyond my ability to voice, but it is a state of life in which I now live and have lived for a long time.

That is okay. We do not all have to be fulfilled sexually. Nevertheless, I don't ever cease to be sexual. We are sexual men and women or whatever no matter how celibate a life we live. That includes those of us who are (or in my case am most the time) eunuches.

Part of being part of a forum such as this is being able to make confession and to voice what one really feels and experiences. This is not what you get to discuss in Sunday school. We might be better people if we did talk about these matters in Sunday school but that is another matter.

Do I feel guilty when I masturbate? No, or course, I don't, but I do feel a sense of disappointment that I am not at least sharing masturbation and my sexuality with a lover. :-\ I do feel a bit ashamed that I am acting like a child, not a grown up person.

We live in a society saturated with sexual content but not much sexual honesty. At least, that is my take on this matter. Part of talking about sexuality is talking about loss and what I miss.

As one who lived an intensely sexual life with a beautiful, intelligent, and extremely lusty wife, I know what I miss. That does not mean that I would ever seek out my former wife. I have no idea where she is or what she does. She is not the point. The point is knowing what one loves, enjoys and misses. Playing with oneself is okay, but it is theory before practice unless one shares it with a lover. Then masturbation is just one of many great ways to make love. A tee tee is a pee pee is a tee tee, but a cock is cock, something one shares.

[Testman (imported)]

Hello, Blaise. I feel your pain man. I didn't get a girlfriend until I was 27 and so there were many years where I was lonely. It seems American women are a tad too picky, though noone will ever admit to it. So I went to Ukraine where women still like attentive men and will probably be getting married to a wonderful Ukrainian woman soon. So maybe this could be a viable option for other heterosexual men in the West? Its not as expensive as many think it is. The only problem I can see some of the men here having, is a number of those women want children, as their men over there don't. So a number of those women interested in Western guys, are looking to have kids and that is even the main reason for some women there. However, on my trip last January, there was an endless supply of very attractive women in their 40s who are too old for kids now anyway.

[Blaise (imported)]

Hello, Blaise. I feel your pain man. I didn't get a girlfriend until I was 27 and so there were many years where I was lonely. It seems American women are a tad too picky, though noone will ever admit to it. So I went to Ukraine where women still like attentive men and will probably be getting married to a wonderful Ukrainian woman soon. So maybe this could be a viable option for other heterosexual men in the West? Its not as expensive as many think it is. The only problem I can see some of the men here having, is a number of those women want children, as their men over there don't. So a number of those women interested in Western guys, are looking to have kids and that is even the main reason for some women there. However, on my trip last January, there was an endless supply of very attractive women in their 40s who are too old for kids now anyway.

I don't blame women! I have done my part to be lonely. I have dated during the past few years and I have enjoyed a good relationship with someone in another state for several years. I have contact with a former lover who might become a current lover. I do need to handle my life and money better than I do.

Thanks for the response.

[mrt (imported)]

Seems like a man has to experience impotence before he can become really expert at masturbating a woman and oral, as they are to eager to get on into intercourse if they are potent, then they go to sleep. I am sure there are exceptions, that is just my experience.

Perhaps a eunuch with some interest left would be good ???

Well learning how to do oral sex correctly with a woman really takes a good teacher (I think) and an desire to please her. As to eunuchs learning how (better) the problem is Testosterone is what wires a man to have an interest. Its just not in the wiring (at least for most) for them to be interested. More likely they will think a "sexy" women is just a "tramp."

Orgasm for men is (mostly) different then it is for women. The sexual release comes with a bunch of mood "drugs" that are a lot like Morphine and being tired after sex is pretty standard SOP. This is why when it comes to giving orgasms "Ladys first" is a must for a happy sexual relationship.

Sex tip! When your doing intercourse put a large wand vibe between you. Intercourse gets women to Orgasm in less then 20% of the cases but it goes to near 100% with a large vibe between you....

[FianceeUvBigGuy (imported)]

I feel the same way. I much prefer to be masturbated by a lover than to have intercourse. Intercourse does not give me orgasm. But to be masturbated by a lover that knows how to masturbate a woman and if the lover will take the time for extended masturbation - that is divine!

Most guys don't know how to masturbate a woman or give proper, complete, satisfying oral.

Seems like a man has to experience impotence before he can become really expert at masturbating a woman and oral, as they are to eager to get on into intercourse if they are potent, then they go to sleep. I am sure there are exceptions, that is just my experience.

Perhaps a eunuch with some interest left would be good ???

Becki,

I'm sorry to learn that you cannot/do not achieve 'gasms via intercourse, but I know you are not alone.

I'm grateful for my ability to orgasm in just about any manner.

Masturbation is FUN!...and I indulge myself a lot, especially with nice rides on one of our Sybians...with or without and audience or assistance.

In my little quest for excitement and knowledge I've discovered that I can reach and delight in orgasms in the following ways;

Vaginal intercourse; with either BigGuy (intact and with a very large peepee!)

Barry T. Eunuch (when he can "get it up")

Vaginal penetration other than with a real live peepee (See: Sybian, Strap-on.)

Anal intercourse with either BG or BTE.

Oral sex with either gender.

Some specials; With another woman, non-oral or manual, and not via "scissoring", but with one atop the other in the Missionary mode, simply grinding our mounds together. (Note: I have a high and prominent mound and it's nice if my partner does too. That's really the key to success in that mode.)

I can have orgasms, fully clothed, if someone kisses the back of my neck and caresses my bottom. This is usually when I'm "in need" and there is no opportunity to get more exposed and involved...great in museums! The possibility of being observed (and we have been) adds to the thrill.

Elevators are good for that too...just take "round trips" until satisfied.

In cars, I enjoy reclining the seat and letting my "chauffeur" reach over and play with my bewbs, belly (hot spot!), and >^..^<.

Experiment more, Becki, with intercourse...different positions, additional stimulation for other of your various parts. You may discover the key!

Good luck!

Yoli

[Blaise (imported)]

Before castration I was jerking it 5-15 times a day. I was obsessed, I still am. Now, 15 years after castration I still jerk off 3-6 times a day. My orgasms are not as strong and I don’t cum more than a few small drops. I am obsessed with internet porn and Mistress is sick of it. She just told me I will be fitted with a #4 Lori’s tube. It’s one of two that will work without balls. I’m looking forward to the P/A piercing and the tube. I know I don’t have enough self control to stop masturbating so I will hand her the key to my orgasm and save them all for her. I know it is the right thing to do as my obsession with sex is interfering with work, my life and our relationship. I know I will be a much better servant as I am very rude and bitchy and self centered after an orgasm. Abstinence will help me pay attention and act much more respectful.

Hum, I think that the problem in our society is insufficient cock worship. My former wife was good in bed but she did not give head or show much devotion to the cock that loved her so well. I had to masturbate to balance her lack of devotion. Your mistress could sit on your face while you play with yourself. Then she could enjoy your masturbation with you.

Do these devices realy work? It is hard to see how they could work.

[Blaise (imported)]

Don't you just hate that sh*t?

Why couldn't that nerve in my one little toe die instead? The one that signals pain for a cramp?!

Amen!