I wonder whether I would have responded had I ever met a woman who really wanted to dominated a man. I was once sufficiently attractive that women did desire me, but I do not recall ever meeting any woman who suggested dominating me or castrating me.
I have rarely had fantasies about being dominated. My fantasties were of dominating women, but the right suggestion might have worked. Oh, well, :-\one never knows.
I might have enjoyed exploring that part of life if I had thought about it. I have loved women for whom I would have done anything one of them asked me to do. Still would. I found that most women I knew liked playing being dominated even though it was only fantasy play--never real.
I am a bit surprised that I am considering his aspect of sexual play. Would I really want a lover to do to me what I fantasize about doing to her? I don't really know.
You have hit upon the real problem with our fantasies. Even a woman who wants to be in control (I've never met one that didn't.) fantasizes about meeting a "real man" who can bend her to his will, whether or not she would ever really permit that.
I've been having sex since I was eleven and in all that time I have known only three women who could get excited about sex play in which they were the dominant, and then only occasionally. I have known only one that we, here, would call a true dominatrix, and even she was not 24/7 preferring, occasionally, to have a quiet, romantic dinner and then (more or less) conventional, romantic sex.
I had one lover who I wrote erotic stories for. Although we never played any D/S or B/D games for real she loved receiving stories where the woman was made to have sex while she was bound and submissive. She said that reading one made her run for her vibrator.
Just for a change, I wrote one story in which the woman was the dominant and sent it to her. It was obvious, from the description, that the dominant woman in the story was supposed to be her. She replied with a politely worded note saying that it was a cute story, and I write very well, but that the relationship had ended.
All this seems very puzzling to any of you who are, or have been, married since the first thing most women do after marriage is try to establish their control of the relationship. You have to resist to some degree because, it seems, the more control they get, the less sex you get. The thing is, they want to be with a man who has "balls" , even if you are actually a eunuch.
When I think about it, I cannot really think that I would want to be dominated. In more than just an illusionary way, my former wife ran our lives (into the ground).
coinflipper_21 (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 11, 2008 2:34 pm
You have hit upon the real problem with our fantasies. Even a woman who wants to be in control (I've never met one that didn't.) fantasizes about meeting a "real man" who can bend her to his will, whether or not she would ever really permit that.
I've been having sex since I was eleven and in all that time I have known only three women who could get excited about sex play in which they were the dominant, and then only occasionally. I have known only one that we, here, would call a true dominatrix, and even she was not 24/7 preferring, occasionally, to have a quiet, romantic dinner and then (more or less) conventional, romantic sex.
I had one lover who I wrote erotic stories for. Although we never played any D/S or B/D games for real she loved receiving stories where the woman was made to have sex while she was bound and submissive. She said that reading one made her run for her vibrator.
Just for a change, I wrote one story in which the woman was the dominant and sent it to her. It was obvious, from the description, that the dominant woman in the story was supposed to be her. She replied with a politely worded note saying that it was a cute story, and I write very well, but that the relationship had ended.
All this seems very puzzling to any of you who are, or have been, married since the first thing most women do after marriage is try to establish their control of the relationship. You have to resist to some degree because, it seems, the more control they get, the less sex you get. The thing is, they want to be with a man who has "balls" , even if you are actually a eunuch.
I agree with our opinion. I had a fomer lover leave a long friendship when she thought that I was coming on to her in a story. However, she had nothing to do with the story.
Why is humiliation a factor in many fantasies? In reality, I don''t want to be humiliated or to humilate a lover.
Blaise (imported) wrote: Wed May 14, 2008 2:21 pm
I agree with our opinion. I had a fomer lover leave a long friendship when she thought that I was coming on to her in a story. However, she had nothing to do with the story.
Why is humiliation a factor in many fantasies? In reality, I don''t want to be humiliated or to humilate a lover.
Fantasies are part of the subconscious. I believe that this fantasy has a lot to do with absolution of responsibility for the sex drive. It also has to do with revenge for rejection or control or both. The need to be humiliated is a cry to be punished because of an inner conflict.
A-1 (imported) wrote: Thu May 15, 2008 12:26 pm
Fantasies are part of the subconscious. I believe that this fantasy has a lot to do with absolution of responsibility for the sex drive. It also has to do with revenge for rejection or control or both. The need to be humiliated is a cry to be punished because of an inner conflict.
...too deep, too Freudian... :shakemitk
Maybe, it is. I know that, when I am off my medication, the desire rules!
coinflipper_21 (imported) wrote: Sat May 17, 2008 10:51 am
I Googled it and could not find it. Could we have a URL on that?
I just put Humbled Women into my Google search engine. That is how I found it. The forum is part of loveshack.I don't know jopw to track the url with my eMachine.
Let me know if you continue to have trouble finding the site. I don't think that I really want any woman I know humbled. I confess that I adore the strong women in my lfie, but I suspect that some of these women do enjoy men more dominant than I was with them.
I don't know jopw to track the url with my eMachine.