Husband needs help

[Leonard1 (imported)]

I know similar questions to this one have been asked before, but I am asking anyway

First the short version for people who don’t want to read the long version

My wife (21) wants to have sex maybe 3 times a week. I (26) want to have sex 4 or more times a day. We would like to have kids within the next 5 years. I would like to try Cyproterone acetate or Depo but we are worried about how it will affect my fertility. Does anyone know how these drugs will affect my ability to have kids?

Now the long version

When I was born I had an extra long foreskin. The doctors in there infinite wisdom convinced my parents that it was a health risk and cut it off. What they didn’t predict is that with my foreskin they would take almost 50% of my nerve endings and leaving me with a ¼ inch scar all around my cock.

As a result it is difficult for me to achieve an orgasm. Witch has been a blessing and a cruse. In one day I can achieve 2 if I work at it and 3 if I have enough energy left. There is no way I can have more than 2 with my wife. Here is part of the problem. It’s not enough. I don’t like to masturbate and my wife doesn’t want to have sex more than 3 times a week. The feeling of being horny is with me all the time. The other part of the problem is how this makes me act. Even if we have already had sex that day I am still pushy.

At one point she got fed up with me and told me to just masturbate. It left me unable to perform and still horny. I tried to just masturbate in the morning to get the baby batter off the brain. But without being able to predict when she would be ready it left me week but still horny and we got into a big fight about it.

It is so frustrating. I went to my doctor to ask him about reducing my sex drive. He laughed at me and said that I should just masturbate. When I tried to explain that that led to more problems and I didn’t want to he told me to see a couple’s counselor.

After spending way too much time and money with the counselor I didn’t feel like we had a solution. She still feels like I push too much and I am still horny all the time.

So why am I here? Ever since I hit puberty I have fantasized about being a eunuch. I would love to just get them cut out and move on with life. The problem is I can’t. I want to have kids and for that I need them. I told my wife about my fantasy and explained all that it would entail. After about 3 years of talking to her about it she finally decided that I should look into it. I tolled her I wanted to get them cut off and she pointed out to me that we don’t have any kids yet. I told her about putting some semen on ice but she wants to at least try to conceive naturally. She wants me to wait until we are done having kids to have it done permanently.

Which brigs me to chemical castration. I have talked to her about what she could live with and here are her stipulations. I must be able to have sex at least once a month; I must be able to father children.

I have looked into Cyproterone Acetate and Depo. Both claim to be reversible, but there appears to be no information about fertility. Can any one enlighten me or point me in the right direction?

Sorry about being so long winded.

[ramses (imported)]

I have used Depo Provera to reduce (not eliminate) sex drive. I've recently switched to androcur because I want to take drive a little lower. It's only been a week and a half and I'm only doing 50mg/day. I have noticed less energy and drive starting to go lower. I'm not worried about fertilityas I'm finished having kids. There are no fertility guarantees after chemical castration but I would think that it shouldn't be a problem unless you totally shut your testis down for a long period.

Another option would be to take 2-40 mg/day of prozac (generic $4) which can lower libido as well as help with obsessive/comulsive thoughts of sex.

Also, many women do not realize that taking birth control pills or shots can destroy their libido. You may be able to get your wife to change birth control method which could sigmificantly increase her libido.

[Leonard1 (imported)]

Thank you. I will look into prozac.

[ramses (imported)]

One thing to consider with the prozac though, is that it may help reduce your libido it can make it really hard to cum which can be frustrating and you may wear your wife out!

[paring (imported)]

If you use anti androgen for a short period of time ( few mounths only)there should not be any problems with your fertility. But if you use it over a longer period (5 years), chances are that you'll loose the capacity to produce testosterone and also spermatozoids. That's the experience I've had with anti androgen after 8 years I had to stop cause side effects were so bad, after I've stopped my T level was still low (3.5 =100), I've to use Androgel now to get rid of those side effects 10gr.a day. Next time I see my doctor I'll ask for fertility test. Before you use anti androgen (Androcur or Depot Provera) it would be wise to bank some sperm. Good luck

[IbPervert (imported)]

One thing to consider with the prozac though, is that it may help reduce your libido it can make it really hard to cum which can be frustrating and you may wear your wife out!

In general most males suffer from lack of sex drive when taking any anti-depressants not just Prozac. When i started taking anti-depressants my sex drive dropped dramatically, and I understand that happens to some 80 to 90 percent of the male population.

There is more to a relationship then just sex! I would like to suggest some romance between you. Instead of wham bamm thank you honey! Try fixing her dinner with candle light and a movie...perhaps a sunset walk....a walk around the nearest mall (you don't have to buy anything)

Also, you might have an easier time generating semen by taking 2 or 3 multi vitamin tablets each day. The extra vitamins will amp up your semen production...not sure if that will help you in the sex department though.

[Leonard1 (imported)]

Thank you all. I have now maid my decision to wait until after we have had all the kids we want. although this does not make me happy.

[ramses (imported)]

I mentioned prozac because it is cheap, tested and effective. It will not affect fertility at all. There are some anti depressants like welbutrin that can increase your sex drive.

[gangly (imported)]

Make her pregnent , then use Siterone [Cyperetone acetate] , works for me and I'm 48 years old shortly.Ican relate to you truely , because I had / have the same issues re- too high sex drive even at my age .

But I will say to you that your wife wanting sex 3 x times a week is very , very normal .

Read my other posts , It's now nearly 6 months since I have been on Siterone , and believe me it works. You do want your wife to be very loving and want plenty of foreplay , otherwise you won't be able to perform . My wife loves to fondle me and carress me etc , but if she did'nt, I would not be able to perform .

I have not been able to masterbate for at least 5.5 months , Cyperotone acetate is very powerful stuff , and the interesting thing is you get no sexual dreams or a desire to masterbate , so you had better hope that your wife really has a desire to make you orgasm .