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[Bubba26072 (imported)]

i am a 32 yr old male seeking the peace from my male hormone although i believe i will love my new sense of self i still would like to make sure that i may satisfy my wife when and if she needs (believe it or not i could care less about myself or if i every achieve relief again) . with all the information i understand i may or may not be able to obtain an erection afterwards. but with this issue it would help are there answers to this w creams, gels or just penal implants. with all the great information i get from this site i thought it best to pose this question here.

[A-1 (imported)]

i am a 32 yr old male seeking the peace from my male hormone although i believe i will love my new sense of self i still would like to make sure that i may satisfy my wife when and if she needs (believe it or not i could care less about myself or if i every achieve relief again) . with all the information i understand i may or may not be able to obtain an erection afterwards. but with this issue it would help are there answers to this w creams, gels or just penal implants. with all the great information i get from this site i thought it best to pose this question here.

Calm down.

I am not sure what your circumstances are but sexually satisfying your wife begins with an intimate knowledge of HER needs. It has nothing to do with you being able to penetrate her or your needs.

Since you tell us you do not care about your needs then maybe SHE needs to hear THAT from you.

Women are more psychically sexual than physically sexual as a rule, although they DO need both, the physical is ALWAYS secondary to them. In spite of what you would read in Cosmo, they seem to be wired that way.

Have an HONEST conversation with her. Tell her your concerns like you are telling us. SHE is supposed to be your most intimate contact.

Commuinicate honestly. Tell her you need her as a friend, in addition to all of the other things that a wife is to be to a man. Tell her you want to treat her better. Ask HER how she would have YOU start.

You might be suprised at what she says and you may not be able to do it, according to how well you two REALLY know each other and how realisticly you both see one another.

Then, come back here and let us know how you did and how she responded.

O.K.?

[Riven (imported)]

Ok. You've posted this in the Chemical Castration, etc. section, so I assume you are thinking of using some form of chemical castration. Your libido will be significantly reduced along with your ability to achieve an erection. If you want to have intercourse with your wife from time to time, she'll have to be patient. Many castrated guys are still able to achieve an erection in the few weeks and months post castration, but as time goes by, erections usually become weaker and less easy to achieve. As far as I know, Viagra will not help. Penile implants, or splints, can be put into the corpus cavernosa of the penis, after which the penis shaft is always in a state of semi erection. Once the surgery (to fit the implants) has been done, normal erection (ie. powered by your blood pressure) is no longer possible, so it's a one way street. You might try a low dose of Androcur (Cyproterone Acetate) which will undoubtedly lower your libido, and may leave you capable of producing an erection for your wife's pleasure, but as other users of this drug will tell you, there's no guarantee that you will be able to maintain your potency in months and years to come. And if you decide to quit the chemical castration, your potency may not recover.

[Bubba26072 (imported)]

Calm down.

I am not sure what your circumstances are but sexually satisfying your wife begins with an intimate knowledge of HER needs. It has nothing to do with you being able to penetrate her or your needs.

Since you tell us you do not care about your needs then maybe SHE needs to hear THAT from you.

Women are more psychically sexual than physically sexual as a rule, although they DO need both, the physical is ALWAYS secondary to them. In spite of what you would read in Cosmo, they seem to be wired that way.

Have an HONEST conversation with her. Tell her your concerns like you are telling us. SHE is supposed to be your most intimate contact.

Commuinicate honestly. Tell her you need her as a friend, in addition to all of the other things that a wife is to be to a man. Tell her you want to treat her better. Ask HER how she would have YOU start.

You might be suprised at what she says and you may not be able to do it, according to how well you two REALLY know each other and how realisticly you both see one another.

Then, come back here and let us know how you did and how she responded.

O.K.?

a1 thank you. your arnie quote is b u t full . my wife got the bombshell A.K.A." the talk" and after much crying and questions of my past which she did not find out about till recent which took her back . and many ,many did i say many ? ? ? ? ? she took my side. with this last night we had the "this may be a side effect talk " not only could she not believe my selfless concern for her physical need for sex and how we would handle that but the lack of concern for my personnel urge for orgasm.. TRUST ME THAT IS SAYING ONE HELL OF A LOT... given the reason i posted this...my true love is my wife my true joy is my wife and my problem( demons ) i believe lay with my sexual desire and (_anger_ which i feel is fueled by testosterone) i am definetly an alpha male a very big alpha male.. me man me want to stick something attitude is what I am really wanting to contain.. now not to be lead astray yes i am a christian man and so some of this is "a slight some of this" is if it sins cut it out and throw it away mentallity . but i just dont want to drop the ball "pun intended". i understand alot of the risks and now look for answers .....

[gangly (imported)]

Let me tell you something aboutmyself and the effects of three and half months on androcur , I got exactly what I wished for which was no sexual thoughts , erections or desires UNLESS instigated by my wife . The beauty of this is that when intimicy between us is happening then I do get an erection , albeit she and I have to work on this and orgasm is very satisfying although sometimes I fail to come even after much work.. You need to understand that , that is what I wanted , I wanted to only be turned on by my wife , her smells and the scent of her sex and she doing to me what she does best during sexual relations , mind you we still have sex three times a week , but oh boy I have to work hard , but I love it . I have not had the urge to masterbate since a week after starting androcur and nor have any sex dreams or erections whatsoever since that time . I love it. There are some very interesting body changes also .