A New Life?

[tiny_penus (imported)]

Let me start at the beginning. I'm married and have no kids and don't want kids. I known my wife for about 4 years. Currently I have a sexual problem and my wife knows about it. I have been to many different types of doctors (mental and physical). Since I have a low sex drive and other sexual issues. Then my wife wanted me to get Testostrone shots to increase my low sex drive, but this didn't help the other sexual issues that I had. But I did notice that I had a short fuse and got angry and argued more. Before I got my shots I had no short fuse at all, and just went on with life as usual. (Just a quiet relaxed guy, nice to everyone) I liked my life when I had low sex drive. So in the last year or so, I'm thinking about having my testicles removded (I know this is permanent). So I can go back my low sex or no sex drive. I started reading articles about men how had there testicles removed and what physically and mentally what they go through. And I have decided this is what I want to do. I also haven't decided whether or not I want male or female harmon shots yet or even have them at all. I'm also think of not telling my wife until after I have them removed, but I haven't made up my mind on that yet. But I will tell you right now, I know what her answer will be "No !, Will find a doctor that will fix your sexual issues".

[Uncle Flo (imported)]

Unfortunately, the chances of preserving your marriage if you go ahead with your plan are just about as low as you can imagine. Ther is no wife who likes to be kept out of a decision that she sees as being important to both of you. The effect would be about the same if you suddenly started going to other women for love and comfort. You may feel better after being castrated but if she doesn't have a say so in the matter she will feel horrible and feel you don't value her. My advice: take her into your plans even if she disagrees with you you will at least have a chance to influence something that she will see as affecting her as much as it affects you. --FLO--

[plix (imported)]

T and low T affect each of us in different ways. You say you have a short fuse when on T, and for some this is certainly the case. For others, low T is actually what causes the short fuse, and it disappears when T levels are improved. Also keep in mind that there is no way to be certain the short fuse is caused directly by the T itself - it could be caused by something else, like other issues you are unhappy with as a result of being on the T.

I'd have to agree with Uncle Flo. Any hopes you have of a future with your wife should be abandoned if you go through with this without telling her, and maybe even with telling her if she does not approve and you still want to do it. Whatever is going to be the outcome, your best bet is definitely to tell her what you want to do if it is something you think you need to actually go through with.

Unless you never see one another nude, she is certainly going to notice that something is missing sooner or later. And it is a lot more than just the fact that she will notice something is missing. You could lose all interest in sex. That means having absolutely none. How will your wife feel about that?

If you go on female hormones, things could get even worse. You could experience significant feminization of your body (and maybe even your mind). How does your wife feel about that? And you are certainly not going to be able to hide taking female hormones from her in the long term.

Your interest in castration seems to be to remove male hormones from your body, not related to the balls themselves. So I do not understand why you would do this and go back on T. What would be the point to castration then?

If you really want to do this and your wife will not allow it, then you may have to decide whether what you want or your wife is more important to you. But talk to her and explain why you want it and how you hope it will benefit both of you. Ask her what her objections are and why. Ask if there is anyway she could change her mind. Once you have had this discussion, you will at least know where she stands, and she will know where you stand. Then together you can decide the best way to proceed.

If you are going to do this, at least test it out first. You may have low T levels, but chances are they are not castrate levels, so you probably have not experienced what life as a eunuch is really like. It is quite a bit different than simply being a hypogonadal male. Levels that would be considered castrate are generally less than 50 ng/dl, while the average hypogonadal male has levels in the 100-300 ng/dl range. As you can see, potentially quite a difference. Take something to reduce your levels to castrate for at least a year so you can experience the long term effects. Plus, maybe your wife will be more open to doing it this way as a test before making a final decision.

[mrt (imported)]

Unc and plix have (I think) good advice. I would add one additional thing. A "good" level of Testosterone might be the solution. I think that juggling the levels might be worth your time even if it takes a year to figure out. Life on poor levels for me was bad. Really bad. Life now is like 1000x better.

Good luck!

Let me start at the beginning. I'm married and have no kids and don't want kids. I known my wife for about 4 years. Currently I have a sexual problem and my wife knows about it. I have been to many different types of doctors (mental and physical). Since I have a low sex drive and other sexual issues. Then my wife wanted me to get Testostrone shots to increase my low sex drive, but this didn't help the other sexual issues that I had. But I did notice that I had a short fuse and got angry and argued more. Before I got my shots I had no short fuse at all, and just went on with life as usual. (Just a quiet relaxed guy, nice to everyone) I liked my life when I had low sex drive. So in the last year or so, I'm thinking about having my testicles removded (I know this is permanent). So I can go back my low sex or no sex drive. I started reading articles about men how had there testicles removed and what physically and mentally what they go through. And I have decided this is what I want to do. I also haven't decided whether or not I want male or female harmon shots yet or even have them at all. I'm also think of not telling my wife until after I have them removed, but I haven't made up my mind on that yet. But I will tell you right now, I know what her answer will be "No !, Will find a doctor that will fix your sexual issues".

[Tclosetgirl (imported)]

I did the chemical castration thing 3 times now, about a month and a half ago I had a 21 day supply of androcur left over so I used it up.

Only now is it halfway back to normal, I missed it...

I counter it's effect with a 2mg estrofem tablet.....but I also want sex...

as said, it's a death sentence to your marriage.

the other thing i could not STAND on the T-blockers was the spare tire I got....and the lack of energy - it was overwhelming..

The past month I have been excercising 2 hrs a day for 3 days a week....and my spare tire is all but a distant memory - which makes me reconsider ANY kind of castration chemical or physical.

But as you said, at least I know what I would be up against if it happened, it would be an uph ill battle for me fighting any weight gain (I'm only 170lbs at 6'1 but I want to STAY this way)...

Things to consider, and then there's Osteoperosis (sp?).....bad thing to come down with...

[devi (imported)]

If you have low testosterone levels then you don't need to worry about hot flashes. I didn't have any and have since read somewhere that low testosterone males typically don't have any. And as for the fact of having no testicles as opposed to having nearly useless ones was well worth it for me. And too there actually may be some professions that are more open to being a real bonified eunuch (massage therapist?). Myself, I could open up a business as a singing eunuch or something. I think somehow this is starting to open up doors for me so I'd say go for it. As for having breasts is concerned , I don't want it myself.

[Kangan (imported)]

I'm a married eunuch, and my wife agreed to it. I still have penetrative sex with her on rare occasions, but if she starts getting too horny, I let her have a boy friend. (I like to watch other people have sex anyway....)

However, no one has quite the same life situation so my situation may not be helpful for you....

Do discuss this with your wife OR get yourself a good attorney.