Maybe the answer is quite simple and I developed them simply because I was born a certain way with certain tendencies.
Could the answers really be this simple? I am a straight heterosexual male because I was born a male who is straight and heterosexual. I am sexually submissive
because to my mind being forced to undergo surgical castration performed by a woman then forced to serve her as her personal eunuch slave, is to my mind the ultimate in male sexual submission to women.
Could that really be it? Could it be that simple? I'm a straight heterosexual male who is sexually submissive to women simply because I was born that way. Out of being that way, my mind developed these
because to my mind being forced to undergo surgical castration performed by a woman then forced to serve her as her personal eunuch slave, is to my mind the ultimate in male sexual submission to women.
Could that re
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ally be it? Could it be that simple? I'm a straight heterosexual male who is sexually submissive to women simply because I was born that way. Out of being that way, my mind developed these
Except in childhood, I think that I have always been dominant. But who really knows at this time. Women did excredible things for me while we were making love.
I find this a very interesting question, and after some thought to this, I do believe people are born with a disposition to be submissive or dominate. I do believe people are born to be either straight, or gay, or bi, or transgendered, so I really have no reason not to think that people are born submissive or dominate.
I think you could be born with such desires yes. But more-so I think perhaps your life experiences and the way your personality is shaped through childhood is a bigger determining factor. As for myself, I get a huge kick out of being dominated, be it by men or women, doesn't matter too much. I think I've always been a very self-contained person and sometimes quite egotistical, I think maybe it's a way to balance out the extremes. You often see men in high power being into submission, and why not? They have to be in charge all day long, making important choices and deciding people's fates, so at the end of the day it's probably nice to hand over control to someone else. Atleast, that's my experience. But perhaps genetics play a part as well.
Interesting question. I recently posted a new thread on this very theme, though the original post here has anticipated my interest...
I find I've always had a fantasy about being a slave, going back to my early teens. Originally this probably had no sexual components, though after puberty it did acquire some. Some twenty years or so ago I'd probably have been ashamed to admit this, but now I"d like to work through the implications of this self-conception or fantasy visualization...
Without wanting to offend anyone's religious sensibilities, this seems almost identical with the mythos of Genesis: a naive and naked couple in the Garden of Eathly Delights...in some sense, a "Golden Age" fantasy. in which the lions may lay down with the lambs, without being mauled.
In some sense I think this fantasy is a wish to abrogate personal responsibility in a complex and often confusing society.
I guess I must be a "submissive", because I can't imagine being dominant over or inflicting pain on another. I really don't know what that says about me. I guess that's all I want to say for now...comments anyone?
While I largely agree with most who have posted that there is something in our genetic make up at birth that would give us a propensity to be dominant or submissive, gay or straight, I also believe there must be life experiences that reenforce these tendencies and build on them. You can be passive through out life without becoming sexually submissive, but if you have tendencies to be submissive and in your early life experiences you are dominated by someone sexually and you discover an extra pleasure that reenforces that tendency, you might seek out more such experience. Having a dominate personality might make you a leader, sucessful businessman or quarterback on your football team without making you want to dominate a submissive sexually.
I think it's in those early dramatic life experiences, that we have all been through, we discover our genitic in born tendencies and decide that they bring us pleasure and enjoyment and we choose to follow these tndencies and develope them.
Mebbe so, but, I seem to be inconsistent with the pattern shown by many of those who have posted in this thread. I have had castration fantasies ever since the onset of puberty . They have nothing to do with domination and submission.
In my personal relationships, I have always been dominant, some would call me "domineering" . However, I am gay and in my sexual activity I have usually been a bottom. I have always been a fellator who gets little satisfaction out of receiving oral sex.
When I have been in a situation in which I had to submit to the will of another person, (as in the service) I have been extremely unhappy. I cannot even conceive of a person's voluntarily becoming a slave to another. If anyone tried to enslave me, I would kill him/her.
I hate stories in which some nutless (BEFORE castration) wimp begs someone to enslave him. The thought of femdom makes me see red (the colour of blood, hers). Yet, I like to abuse my testicles and enjoy having someone else do it for me.
Most of the over 100 castration stories I have written are told from the viewpoint of the "victim", not the perpetrator (unless they be one and the same). Although I have long desired to be castrated, the most important reason why I have not done so is that I would then not be able to enjoy abusing my testicles.
I am sure that I was born homosexual. I have NEVER had any sexual interest in females. Nothing that I can remember ever happened to dissuade me from such any interest. When I first began to be interested in sex, I was immediately attracted to other males.
I grew up in a single-parent household and never experienced male domination until my twenties. I resented it just as I resented my mother's and grandmother's efforts at dominating me. As a child, I was weak, sickly, and timid. I grew up into an arrogant domineering adult. Was this a reaction against my childhood ?
I have no idea why I abused my testicles and why I was interested in castration from about the age of 13 onward. I don't know if it is at all relevant, but , at that age and for many years later, I masturbated extremely frequently, 6-8 times daily and most of my masturbation fantasies involved castration.
After I discovered, to my horror, that I am one of "those", I desired to be castrated in order to "cure" me of both "excessive" masturbation and of homosexuality.
I don't think that the above makes any kind of consistent pattern and my experience does not seem to correspond to that of the others who have posted on this thread.
It's hard to tease out the biological (genetic) v. the societal influences.
Bagoas: I appreciate the classical reference to Alexander the Great's eunuch catamite, though your comments seem to reject the passive role this avatar impies...
Myself, honestly, I'd rather be totally passive. I don't know why.
