i think dingbat seems like such a sweetie pie and im glad to know the little i know about you!
I have a question, relationships? If this isnt too personal to ask, how have they been thoughout your life? i mean boyfriend/girlfriend things...I really believe in one person for me, and i know many people like to play around i suppose, but i really believe there is only one person out there that i wil fall inlove with and that will love me in a way no other can and vice versa..
You could say im saving myself for them (yeh i have my V plates!!), though having the problems i am stil dealing with there wasnt really much of a choice in the matter-but im glad, and proud to be who i am, and i know if people could see my heart they would see how good it is. Im not perfect, but i try...
i am proud to have my plates, and intend to keep them until someone steals my heart like only they can...
Sorry just thought like sharing something, there...
so relationships....?
Medical/Surgical intervention from another perspective.
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Hi TC, it's a great question but I'm not entirely sure I have an answer for you!
I've tried various different types of relationships but mostly found it to be a very uncomfortable experience from my point of view.
If I remember rightly, my first sexual inclincation was towards a fellow female student (I was about 15 at the time), nothing really happened, it was all very innocent but interesting nonetheless! Then I had a go at the straight scenario, spent several years with an extremely nice chap. At that point I thought I was bi-sexual (from a sexuality point of view) and he also felt himself to be bi-sexual, he had no problem with my intersex status. Then we both got a bit older, he decided he was, in fact, gay and I decided I wasn't anything very much in terms of sexuality! I had another go at the lesbian scenario but that didn't really work for me either and I also always felt a bit fraudulent - it's hard to describe this feeling, I've often felt it though, I felt as though I was passing myself off as female whilst actually not being entirely female at all. That made me feel very uncomfortable.
In more general terms, I don't really find myself interested in conventional sexual activity. It doesn't do anything much for me. However, that's not to say that I don't have any sexual feelings or urges because I do! Perhaps I could describe myself as asexual but not non-sexual (but I'm not sure if that is stretching sematics just a little too far?)
One of the reasons I more or less opted out of the defined boxes of 'straight', 'gay' or 'bisexual' was that I just didn't feel that I fitted comfortably into any of them and I always felt that they didn't really describe who I was or anything about my sexuality or sexual desires.
So, in all honesty, it's hard. Sometimes people display an interest in me but, whether male or female, they are almost universally repulsed once they know the truth (and it wouldn't take too close an inspection to work out the truth even if I didn't say anything!)
As a rule, I prefer not to repulse people (I'm funny like that!
) and so my normal way of dealing with it is to stop anything before it occurs by simply saying 'I don't do relationships' (and then smile enigmatically hoping to make it sound quite interesting!!)
I've tried various different types of relationships but mostly found it to be a very uncomfortable experience from my point of view.
If I remember rightly, my first sexual inclincation was towards a fellow female student (I was about 15 at the time), nothing really happened, it was all very innocent but interesting nonetheless! Then I had a go at the straight scenario, spent several years with an extremely nice chap. At that point I thought I was bi-sexual (from a sexuality point of view) and he also felt himself to be bi-sexual, he had no problem with my intersex status. Then we both got a bit older, he decided he was, in fact, gay and I decided I wasn't anything very much in terms of sexuality! I had another go at the lesbian scenario but that didn't really work for me either and I also always felt a bit fraudulent - it's hard to describe this feeling, I've often felt it though, I felt as though I was passing myself off as female whilst actually not being entirely female at all. That made me feel very uncomfortable.
In more general terms, I don't really find myself interested in conventional sexual activity. It doesn't do anything much for me. However, that's not to say that I don't have any sexual feelings or urges because I do! Perhaps I could describe myself as asexual but not non-sexual (but I'm not sure if that is stretching sematics just a little too far?)
One of the reasons I more or less opted out of the defined boxes of 'straight', 'gay' or 'bisexual' was that I just didn't feel that I fitted comfortably into any of them and I always felt that they didn't really describe who I was or anything about my sexuality or sexual desires.
So, in all honesty, it's hard. Sometimes people display an interest in me but, whether male or female, they are almost universally repulsed once they know the truth (and it wouldn't take too close an inspection to work out the truth even if I didn't say anything!)
As a rule, I prefer not to repulse people (I'm funny like that!
) and so my normal way of dealing with it is to stop anything before it occurs by simply saying 'I don't do relationships' (and then smile enigmatically hoping to make it sound quite interesting!!)-
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Dont give up!! we all want someone right??? If my gf told me she had something most girls didnt have, i wouldnt mind in the slightest......sorry i hope that doesnt sound rude, i dont know how else to put it!!!
but then again, i cant say im a normal guy
ps-ill give a better reply soon, but im kinda flying about checking net things at the moment...
but then again, i cant say im a normal guy
ps-ill give a better reply soon, but im kinda flying about checking net things at the moment...
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Hi TC,
To be honest I'm not really a relationship person, I actually prefer not having a partner. Whether or not this is because I get fed-up with the 'curiosity factor' when it comes to partners, I'm not sure!
I'm very happy as a single person though. Some people work better on their own, others work better in a partnership. I guess we're all just different but I do believe that there IS somebody for everyone, if you actually want someone!
To be honest I'm not really a relationship person, I actually prefer not having a partner. Whether or not this is because I get fed-up with the 'curiosity factor' when it comes to partners, I'm not sure!
I'm very happy as a single person though. Some people work better on their own, others work better in a partnership. I guess we're all just different but I do believe that there IS somebody for everyone, if you actually want someone!
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im glad you are happy , sorry if i sounded as though it was impossible to be happy on your own or that everyone wants that special someone!!!
Probably just because i do, i want to find the other person who fits in my super hero team..us against the world
*looks around, r u here???*
hmmm.....though i understand why you might not want someone!! And the curisoity thing, u just met the wrong people!!!!!!
, sorry if i sounded as though it was impossible to be happy on your own or that everyone wants that special someone!!!Probably just because i do, i want to find the other person who fits in my super hero team..us against the world
*looks around, r u here???*
hmmm.....though i understand why you might not want someone!! And the curisoity thing, u just met the wrong people!!!!!!
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truly committed (imported) wrote: Fri Apr 27, 2007 11:05 am Dont give up!! we all want someone right???
Uhhh, in a word ...
No.
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Hi dingbat
I know how you feel, I am bio female, but inside I feel slightly more male, but SRS, no its not my way, even though I had one insurance offering the procedures to me, but I want things my way. The binary gender thing is a pain, but I refuse to be cut and whatever for it. I will get surgeries on my term only. A lot of intersex babies are cut without thought. Its a crime. Its perfectly OK to be both or neither, my name is legally male, but I do not really look it, well if anybody has a problem with it, thats theirs. There are growing numbers of transqueer people, no-ho, no-op many refuse the binary system as well as the SRS.
Do what you feel is good for you.
I know how you feel, I am bio female, but inside I feel slightly more male, but SRS, no its not my way, even though I had one insurance offering the procedures to me, but I want things my way. The binary gender thing is a pain, but I refuse to be cut and whatever for it. I will get surgeries on my term only. A lot of intersex babies are cut without thought. Its a crime. Its perfectly OK to be both or neither, my name is legally male, but I do not really look it, well if anybody has a problem with it, thats theirs. There are growing numbers of transqueer people, no-ho, no-op many refuse the binary system as well as the SRS.
Do what you feel is good for you.