One Day in the Life of a Wolf - Memorial 7-25-20

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Daughter

While mom was at the nursing home she had a "speech pathologist" who function was to reteach her how to eat. The nurses said they had to feed her because she couldn't use utensils. Tonight, I fed her some ground beef, mashed potatoes and pinto beans. I gave her a fork and a spoon and she ate most of it, on her own. I didn't have to spoon feed her a thing

I'll ask about a speech therapist when her LVN comes by tomorrow.

[Daughter (imported)]

Definitely positive news! And you'd said that you understand her part of the time, so I'd be willing to bet with the right help she could regain a good chunk of vocabulary too. Good Luck!!!

[Blaise (imported)]

Thanks for the good news. I am happy for you, even though you have an immense job.

[XtheUndead (imported)]

I gave her a fork and a spoon and she ate most of it, on her own.

Probably because she feels better just being back home! Good luck to you, Wolf, you've had enough grief for a good long while.

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Mom awoke this morning about 10:00am and complained until after noon. On the positive or negative side, depending on one's point of view, I didn't mind the complaining because it was jibberish and I had no idea what she was saying. Right now, I'm awaiting the arrival of Frankie, her bather in In Home Supporting Services.

Yay, Frankie's here

Frankie stayed over an hour, washed mom's hair and gave her a shower. Frankie has been working with mom two days a week for two years now. Before she left today, she said to me, "your mom has changed since she came out of the nursing home." According to Frankie, mom whined constantly and apparently she had never done that before. Frankie couldn't understand mom's words either though I did hear some real words today. She even called me by name

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

The only day I dread now is November 19. Before 10:30am I have to be in Redlands courthouse for mom's conservatorship hearing. By bus, I figure an hour there and maybe an hour back not counting a 30 minute court hearing. That's close to three hours mom will be left alone with no one to watch her.

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Mom's In Home Health nurse just left. The nurse was amazed by mom's negative progress. She said all her vitals were good but said mom was down to about 85 pounds in weight and her mental capacity had dropped dramatically.

The nurse is returning tomorrow with some equipment including a scale. Her physical therapist will also be here to do an evaluation only. I doubt if mom is up to jumping jacks yet. Hell, I'm 32 yrs younger than mom and not sure I could manage those.

Mom has only been eating two small meals per day but small is better than nada.

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Mom's attorney arrived here this afternoon. She was pleasant but was suprised when mom found her offensive and wouldn't talk to her. In fact, mom refused to look at her. No idea way. I told her I had contacted a professional conservator named Ruth. I would need to travel to Redlands to meet her

Mom's attorney reccommended a different one on the list named Christina, saying she was better. This conservator is coming to my house tomorrow about 11:00am.

I update as soon as I have the meeting with her. My court date is 10:30am Monday morning.

Mom's attorney reccommended I leave mom at home on the day of the hearing. She said the court would keep her out in the lobby during much of the hearing where she might panic with all the strangers there and me no where in sight. I agreed.

I wish I knew someone local to stay with mom but I don't. Hopefully it won't be more be more than a few hours.

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Next Week promises to be exciting at the least:

MONDAY - I need to be at the Redlands Court by 10:30am for the Conservatorship hearing. Unfortunately mom will be alone all the time I'm gone. I plan to take a taxi there and back. Supposedly her nurse wants to visit mom that morning but that means I'll need to leave the door unlocked. Hesitant to do that in THIS neighborhood.

TUESDAY - I need to be in Court in San Bernardino to face the judge over Waterman Convelescant Home suing me for $2,400 because mom overstayed her visit. I'll walk to that one. Not sure of the time yet.

WEDNESDAY - Mom's first doctor appointment. Supposedly an agency called WE Care will give us free transport there and back.

Life may be challenging but it is never boring.

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

At 10:25am both mom's nurse and physical therapist arrived together to see mom. Since they were going to be here 30 minutes or so, I took the time to walk two blocks and do the grocery shopping,

When I walked back home there were fire department paramedics outside my house. Apparently, mom's blood pressure was way too high. They decided to transport her to Community Hospital several miles from here but that is where her doctor works out of.

They just left about ten minutes ago. I'll give more details as I get them. The only thing different I noticed about mom was from 9:00pm last night to 8:00am this morning she was urinating every 40 minutes.

This is Southern California. When it rains, it pours.