One Day in the Life of a Wolf - Memorial 7-25-20

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

I called Central Collections as Plix advised in an attempt to get the amount of the original citations and found out there were two citations: One three years ago for $56 for driving without a seatbelt and one 45 days ago (a fixit ticket) as my registration and car insurance had both expired. On October 1 of this year I shelled out my registration fees and purchased the bare minimal car insurance.

The day my caught fire, I was on my way down to AAA to picked up a red sticker showing I had had payed the registration fees and had insurance. The paperwork, my glasses (since replaced) and my car were swallowed in flames.

I asked Central Collections if I could just pay the original $56 to which their polite response was a laugh and a definite no. They said the fees would soon be $1,531.00. I explained to them I have no income, no checking or savings accounts and no assets and their only response was, "when can we expect payment in full."

To be truthful, I own an old 1989 Plymouth in my driveway but have avoided driving it for three years now due it needing 4 tires, a battery, an alternator, repairs needed to get it to pass smog requirements, and accompanying smog fees. I had payed $2,500 for it a few years before and most of the time it had no major problems.

In case I failed to mention it before, the nursinghome mom was in over a year ago is also suing me for $2,400 in back charges. Apparently mom overstayed her 100% period where medicare and her Blue Shield payed everything. For that one I have a court date on November 19th or 20th. I hope Plix is correct about California having no "debtors prison" anymore.

If there is a tighter position to be in between a rock and a hard place, I think I found it.

I'm on my way downtown now to the County to turn in mom's application for Medi-Cal and to pick up a Food Stamps application for me.

This reminds me of a sympathy card an old girlfriend from 1968 had sent me which said,"life often looks cloudy or dark....before it turns completely black."

[Blaise (imported)]

I called Central Collections as Plix advised in an attempt to get the amount of the original citations and found out there were two citations: One three years ago for $56 for driving without a seatbelt and one 45 days ago (a fixit ticket) as my registration and car insurance had both expired. On October 1 of this year I shelled out my registration fees and purchased the bare minimal car insurance.

The day my caught fire, I was on my way down to AAA to picked up a red sticker showing I had had payed the registration fees and had insurance. The paperwork, my glasses (since replaced) and my car were swallowed in flames.

I asked Central Collections if I could just pay the original $56 to which their polite response was a laugh and a definite no. They said the fees would soon be $1,531.00. I explained to them I have no income, no checking or savings accounts and no assets and their only response was, "when can we expect payment in full."

To be truthful, I own an old 1989 Plymouth in my driveway but have avoided driving it for three years now due it needing 4 tires, a battery, an alternator, repairs needed to get it to pass smog requirements, and accompanying smog fees. I had payed $2,500 for it a few years before and most of the time it had no major problems.

In case I failed to mention it before, the nursinghome mom was in over a year ago is also suing me for $2,400 in back charges. Apparently mom overstayed her 100% period where medicare and her Blue Shield payed everything. For that one I have a court date on November 19th or 20th. I hope Plix is correct about California having no "debtors prison" anymore.

If there is a tighter position to be in between a rock and a hard place, I think I found it.

I'm on my way downtown now to the County to turn in mom's application for Medi-Cal and to pick up a Food Stamps application for me.

This reminds me of a sympathy card an old girlfriend from 1968 had sent me which said,"life often looks cloudy or dark....before it turns completely black."

So far, you are worse off than I am, but I am racing to catch up with you. :-\ Please take care of yourself. I know how depresssing being poor is and how desperate we can feel. I worry about you.

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

I was planning on bringing mom home on or about November 1st though, as I don't have a car, I may have to wheel her the three blocks by wheel chair unless I can locate a public conveyence that would drive her the three blocks.

When I went to see her today she was more alert than usual but much unaware to her surroundings and still babbling in garbleese. Two nurses cornered me in the hall telling me that Dr. Eskander, the owner of the nursing home, is in insisting in putting in that feeding tube into her stomach. I again voiced my opposition to that procedure.

I was then informed that I may be her son but, since I don't have "durable power of attorney," they can insert that tube into her without my consent. When I signed her into that nursing home I did it with two written preconditions, which hopefully aren't in conflict. I wanted all measures taken to revive her, if necessary, and I DID NOT want that feeding tube.

I'm glad mom has a court-appointed attorney. I now think they should have appointed one for me too.

[kristoff]

I was planning on bringing mom home on or about November 1st though, as I don't have a car, I may have to wheel her the three blocks by wheel chair unless I can locate a public conveyence that would drive her the three blocks.

When I went to see her today she was more alert than usual but much unaware to her surroundings and still babbling in garbleese. Two nurses cornered me in the hall telling me that Dr. Eskander, the owner of the nursing home, is in insisting in putting in that feeding tube into her stomach. I again voiced my opposition to that procedure.

I was then informed that I may be her son but, since I don't have "durable power of attorney," they can insert that tube into her without my consent. When I signed her into that nursing home I did it with two written preconditions, which hopefully aren't in conflict. I wanted all measures taken to revive her, if necessary, and I DID NOT want that feeding tube.

I'm glad mom has a court-appointed attorney. I now think they should have appointed one for me too.

So ask the son of a bitch who's gonna pay for it all, or is he donating all his services?

[Blaise (imported)]

So ask the son of a bitch who's gonna pay for it all, or is he donating all his services?

Would the tube then require the nursing home to keep your mother?

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Would the tube then require the nursing home to keep your mother?

The Legacy Nursing Home would prefer to keep mom for another month or two after the tube would be inserted. However, since her Medicare and Blue Shield will stop paying 100% on November 9th, and mom and I exist on $37 a day, it ain't going to happen.

UNLESS, they do math like the U.S. government does and we still have money leftover after paying them their copay of $110 a day. Somehow I don't see that happening.

Besides, mom is looking weaker and seems to be getting older staying there.

Strange, I thought I'd actually enjoy the time off, the extra sleep, the peace and quiet. I have never been more lonley and depressed in my life. I don't doubt the lack of transportation contributes to it but................

It's 1:43am and this old man needs sleep.

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Fifteen minutes ago a nurse from the nursing home called me and said, "considering the legal ramifications and the sole family member's objections, we have decided against the stomach tube for your mother and instead will install a tube down her nose to feed her extra nutrition."

It seems mom's viens are failing to support the IV's anymore. The nurse did say I could bring her home, without the nose tube, on November 1st.

She even offered to provide transportation so I don't have to wheel mom the three blocks home with her breathing the lingering smoke from our mountain fires in the air:)

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Mom's bank statement arrived today and both her retirement and Social Security increased so we're richer than I thought. We can now live on $38.50 per day instead of a measely $37.00.

As the old lady who peed in the ocean said, "every little bit helps."

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

I'm walking up to the nursing home now to ask when I can bring mom home. I'll let you know what transpires when I return.

The physician in charge of the nursing refused to allow my mother to go home and says he plans to keep her there past November 9 even though I've already explained to the business office that we can't afford the huge copay involved.

The nurse said she would call Dr. Eskander again reminding him of my insisdtance that mom be allowed to come home within a few days at the longest.

The staff did say I if I waited till Saturday or Monday, and was still refused permission, I could take her out AMA - Against Medical Advice.

I'm open to opinions, advice or support

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

I visited the nursing home today and found they have decided against providing mom with transportation home. I informed them that on Monday, November 5, I would be there with her wheelchair, bathrobe and slippers to wheel her home the 3.5 blocks back to our house and that I was taking her out Against Medical Advice.

I don't know if I'm taking the correct action but I'm making the best decision that I know. If mom only has days, weeks, months or even a year or so to live, she has the right to live it in her own home surrounded by her stuff, her cat and dog and her son

I pray I've made the right decision.

I took a bus up to a department store today and purchased a Dirt Devil vacumn cleaner to make the rooms look more presentable, and lugged it home, as my vacumn that was generously given to me by friends in San Deigo is hopelessly clogged and I can't seem to unclog it to get suction.