Decision Made & Going For It!

[Eunuch2be (imported)]

Sorry to hear of the outcome you experienced.

May you be rewarded for Honoring you Mother!

Stay strong!

[eunuch2001 (imported)]

Dear EricaAnn

1) The new picture is really great.

2) Family can hurt sometimes.

3) Be strong, be yourself.

4) You are wonderful!

[mrt (imported)]

Reminds me of the stupidity of the grade school yard. We had this very nice girl who was suddenly picked (for no reason) to be the plague. Don't touch her you will get _______itis! Well even then as dumb as I was I knew how stupid this was so I asked to be "infected" thinking that might make the teasing go away. Nope... Stupidity rules I suppose. One nice thing is that she grew up to be a very lovely woman who remembered this tiny act of kindness.

Fortunately (for her) I was attached. Otherwise I might have tried to get REALLY infected...

Anyway, this mental picture of grown adults running around locking the doors and hiding in the house would be funny if it wasn't so tragic....

Is there anyway to tell them this is not something you did as a personal attack on them? *Or what do they think this is about?

ITS MEDICAL!!!!!!

[Danya (imported)]

Hi Erica Ann,

You showed a lot of class in the way you handled this difficult, not to mention painful, situation with your mother and brother. I totally agree with Tugon here, you are the sane one. Not only that, the way they behaved is incredibly immature.

I'm delighted to see several people offered very kind words of support and affirmation. I shouldn't be at all surprised by this, and I'm not. You are wonderful, just as eunuch2001 noted.

Hugs,

Danya

[lilac (imported)]

Hi Erica, Sorry they reacted that way. I can only imagine how u felt. I thought that was wonderful you still think of your mom and gave her a card for her special day. At least no one can say you deserted her the way she did you. I wish you the best as always.

love and hugs, Lilac

[lindaleah (imported)]

Hi Erica

Never give up. Continue to be your sweet self. I would give a card at many occasions. Maybe send some literature that explains what we are about.

There is always hope they will come around eventually. It does happen.

And if they don't you are still better off being the person you are supposed to be.

I've followed your story for a long time and you have been an inspiration! Stay HAPPY no matter what!

HUGS

LindaLeah

[Mac (imported)]

I don't know why I keep doing this to myself. You would think I would have learned by now. :-\

I went out yesterday and bought a Mother's Day card for my Mom. ...................

Sorry to hear that they act like that. Give them time and hope that they change.

[EricaAnn (imported)]

Sorry to hear that they act like that. Give them time and hope that they change.

Thank you for the encouragement Mac, but after 3 years I'm beginning to run out of any hope that they will ever come around.

I had a good weekend until Sunday afternoon. I got my hair restyled into a concave bob which looks absolutely great. Went shopping on Saturday afternoon and bought a very sexy "little black dress" and 3 very cute sun dresses.

Celebrated our 33rd wedding anniversary on Friday night with a nice dinner and a movie with my spouse who gave me a beautiful pair of gold hoop earrings embedded with small diamonds.

My spouse attended a monthly gathering of her family on Sunday afternoon where she confronted her Mother about the fact that her spouse, me, does not get invited to these gatherings. Her Mother's response was "we have to protect the children."

Protect them from what? The bid bad transsexual? You have to wonder if her family thinks that GID is some kind of an infectious disease. The best part is that we hosted one of these gatherings in March and a number of her family, including her Mother, came to my house to partake in our hospitality. There were even a number of children there and they didn't have a problem with Aunt Erica.

It just leaves one wondering as to what, if anything, is going on in their heads! :-\

[Danya (imported)]

Hi Erica Ann,

I feel really bad for you. You are such a wonderful woman who deserves to be treated just like any other member of the family. I know this is very painful for you.

Having met both you and your spouse, I find it incomprehensible that any relative of either of you could be so ignorant about people and about what love really means. You both are wonderful examples of unconditonal love and understanding.

I wish I had the words that would make all of this better, my sister. We already spoke about this, but please remember you can call me at any time.

Hugs,

Danya

[EricaAnn (imported)]

Hi Everyone,

Yesterday was another difficult day for me as far as family matters goes.

Last weekend my spouse attended one of her family's monthly gatherings. She has lately been getting a lot of comments from her mother regarding the fact that when she goes to these events, she doesn't stay for any length of time, so she decided to address this situation with her mother. She explained that the reason is is that her partner, me, is not invited.

Earlier this week her older sister called and invited her to a meeting with some of her family members to discuss this situation. The meeting took place yesterday morning. Several members of her family were in attendance, including her mother. They told her that since a number of family members have problems with me, because of the transgendered issue, they just cannot accept me; therefore I'm not welcome to attend any family functions. Period! One of my brother-in-laws even went some far as to express his opinion that the whole GLBT community goes out of their way to shove "their agenda down normal people's throats." There were two of her brothers there that have met me in the past and they did try to defend me, but they were quickly overruled by the majority.

Needless to say I was shocked by his reaction, extremely hurt by their attitudes and feeling very, very rejected by all of them. I can't even begin to describe my feelings after hearing this news. I was extremely depressed the balance of the day, so much so that I couldn't even make this post until today. I just couldn't bring myself to even write about the whole matter, it was so painful. I have finally come to the conclusion that I will never have any extended family in my life again.

And these people consider themselves good God fearing Christians. God help them.