Why do we feel this way?

[thefraj (imported)]

Thanks Paolo

I guess hot linking does mean an extra thread to load on peoples machines (I do try keep images rather piddly in size ... for speed), but I can understand why it may still be a problem (you won't want just anyone advertising or posting 'unsavoury images' I guess it could open a bitofa pandoras box So obviously I don't want to upset anyone.

To be honest, it was just a 15 minute thought last night, and probably nothing more than "pop psychology". If anyones' really bothered I don't mind putting it back, but there's no loss really

~Rog.

[transgirl23ny (imported)]

The thing with pictures is that they're just too much of a load on the EA server and the bandwidth.

HOWEVER, the way Fraj did his picture was to "hotlink" it to a file NOT stored on the EA server by using the IMG command that is built into VBulletin.

What this does is simply load code that says "Hey, look over there on the www and get that picture." All the EA server has to do is serve out a few bits of code. It's the server on the www that does all the work, but YOU still have to wait for the picture to come up.

The problem with hotlinking is that most servers track this, and they get irate that you're pulling images off of their site without actually looking at it.

It's different if it's YOUR box, though.

Personally, I don't have a problem with regular, respected users posting a small image file this way now and then. Just let us know first, please. And by the way, I liked that picture!

That's how I post ALL of my pictures. There is a site where you can upload what you want, and it provides the HTML or the IMG extention to link the picture. I use www.photobucket.com but I am sure there are others... I wouldn't know what to do without my photobucket account, lol...

[sag111 (imported)]

Interesting thread i never looked at myself as the third gender but as i look at myself now and how i lived my life befor becomming a eunuch i have never been as happy as i am today.I havent ran into to much problems so far when i tell people i am a eunuch and if i do i dont have much to do with them as i feel they wernt realey my friends anyway.Yea i kind of like being called the third gender but i have always liked being diffrent.

[Paolo]

It's probably just best to put the www link in and if we want to see the picture, we can go there and see it.

Thanks!

[Paolo]

Roger, send me a link to it again, please.

I liked it.

[thefraj (imported)]

Cheers Paolo

Well, here's a nicer one (larger) and truecolor (JPG) as opposed the 256-color gif (for transparancy)

Gender Spectrum (http://thefraj.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/gender_spectrum.jpg)

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original GIF version is here (http://thefraj.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/gender_spectrum.gif)

Thanks!

~Rog

[thefraj (imported)]

Hehe, okay, going back to the thread; there's a question from both the Anne Moir and COGIATI test which stuck in my mind because it touches on this 'inability to fully identify with being male'. Nothing more, (no mention of changing genders!)

Your penis and testicles are destroyed, perhaps due to an accident or injury, but they are gone forever. You are otherwise the same as now, but you are utterly without your reproductive organs, just smooth, flat flesh. What is the most realistic statement of how you would deal with this?

I would consider suicide. That would be absolutely horrible.

That would be terrible.

I am not sure how I would feel. I could cope, given enough time.

It would not bother me. I sometimes think it would be an improvement.

I often wish something like that would happen. I seriously do.

Surely any 'normal' male would find this terribly distressing, and possibly be ready to risk life than so easily give up a gender identity like that? (Answers 1 or 2)

>>What makes us so different?<<

[plix (imported)]

Personally, I don't have a problem with regular, respected users posting a small image file this way now and then.

How do we know if we're regular and respected?

[plix (imported)]

Hehe, okay, going back to the thread; there's a question from both the Anne Moir and COGIATI test which stuck in my mind because it touches on this 'inability to fully identify with being male'. Nothing more, (no mention of changing genders!)

Surely any 'normal' male would find this terribly distressing, and possibly be ready to risk life than so easily give up a gender identity like that? (Answers 1 or 2)

>>What makes us so different?<<

Would all normal males feel that way? I'd be surprised if a normal male answered number 5, but I wouldn't be surprised to see a lot answer number 3. In our society it is the penis that is associated with manhood, and with it you are a man while without you are not. I personally think there is a lot more to gender than genitalia.

[thefraj (imported)]

I understand what you're saying Plix and I would certainly consider you a regular and respected member (but I'm not a moderator!)

To put it another way, suppose it asked the same question of your arm?

And you answered "I'm not sure how I would feel". (3)

Most people would be fairly certain how they felt about losing an arm : the same way 'normal males' would feel about losing their genitals.

It's probably worth asking a few ''normal males' that exact question, I think it would be interesting to see the results

I suppose thats the idea I'm exploring. Why do we feel differently about that part? Losing any limb will change your body, and who you are. But for some reason, we don't mind the idea of losing something about us that makes us male.

What 'underlying psychology' makes us more readily accept the loss of manhood?