Can you get excited?

[polecat (imported)]

I was reading about the various expressions of a pleasant serenity, being freed of the testosterone and such. Does that go beyond simply sexual satisfaction? That is, do you find yourself less excited, elated, or otherwise nonsexually aroused by things you previously enjoyed? I've been led to understand that for most, sex is a powerful energy, and a drive that motivates many people's creative efforts. I'm guessing this is less so for someone who has been castrated, or is it? I personally have found sex drive makes it harder to be motivated, but I might be the exception. Do you find other reasons to engage in things, once that particular suite of behaviors associated with mating has been assuaged?

[sag111 (imported)]

Interesting post Mr Cat and for me i can say i still can still have sex but i dont crave it.As for an orgasim no i cant have that anymore but then i dont need it eather.I was on 150mil depo provera for two years pryer to my castration last june and my cravings for sex is gone but my love for others has grown ten fold and for me that is more important for me and the ones i love and that it so much more exciting for me.

[Marsha Mar (imported)]

Dear Polecat,

I've been on herbs for two years, grew to a 36B (5-11, 145lbs) and haven't had an orgasm for one year plus. I used to get a painful prostate one month after abstention, now its no problem. I have minimal desire for standard sex, but I find I have an increased desire, sort of a mild lust-love combination. I don't understand my own reaction, but I love to look at boobs, much more than ever.

I'd like to learn how I'd react post-op. If this is a preview, it's much different from the disinterest I might have expected. I would have thought it would be more like the post-orgasm boredom sex seems to cause, the only cure being to roll over and go to sleep. This new mentality doesn't quit, but its not compulsive either. Seems like an improvement.

Is this a preview of the eunuch mindset, or maybe something else?

I would like to try chem castration when possible, but haven;t yet.

Hugs, Marsha

Hugs, Marsha

[luvpain (imported)]

Well I was on Androcur from July 20 - April 23 and it lowered sex drive but I could still get off if I wanted althougn never really had the desire or need. just more curosity. It has been 5 months now and I've only have gotten off once I have no need or urge to get off anymore. I still find it nice to play with sometimes and I love to cuddle with my BF and play with him and let him play with me but I don't need anything but cuddling and if he feels like playing then so be it.

[depoboy (imported)]

the replies here seem to be missing the mark -- the question is, can you still get excited about OTHER things in your life, things you were passionate about before castration? It is an interesting question ... i think we all already know how castration affects people's sex drives ... how does it affect you mentally in other ways? are you so calm about things you have lost your "passion" for them? or has a lack of sexual energy / drive opened up other areas in your life for you to be passionate about?

[sag111 (imported)]

Well i have seen changes in other things as well .I dont get as excited if my team looses or wins anymore and if things arnt going right that day i dont get mad i just take things as they come.I love to cuddle where as befor i didnt i just love a good hug and that wasent me befor so yes i have changed quite a bit i would say.And no i dont like to argue anymore eather.

PS a truck almost ran me off the road today and i didnt even get upset a few years back i would have been ready to fight

[Skopztikov (imported)]

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can you still get excited about OTHER things in your life, things you were passionate about before castration? ... how does it affect you mentally in other ways? are you so calm about things you have lost your "passion" for them? or has a lack of sexual energy / drive opened up other areas in your life for you to be passionate about?

Just my own experience here, as there are as many responses as there are eunuchs. Castration (supported by my psych) + anti-androgen (prescribed by my MD) finally curbed my libido, but this has done nothing to curb my interest and passion for life or any of the things about which I've been passionate, especially music, music and more music. In fact, I think that, liberated from the constant imperative to satisfy sexual demands and the mental time spent riding on my sex train, I have been much freer to explore and expand my horizons. The universe is a bigger place now!

There is also an important difference between my pre- and post-castrate states of mind. I have experienced a personality shift, and many things that meant absolutely nothing to me before becoming a eunuch (relationships, love, touching, holding) now seem to be of paramount importance. "Slam, bam, thank you, ma'am" was once my motto. Now, it's "Try a little tenderness."

The latter is infinitely more satisfying.

Eunuch Greg

Los Angeles

[JesusA (imported)]

While my set of interviews of Eunuch Archive members is still small, I can say that they clearly indicate that passion and intensity are still active after castration; the passions are no longer sexual and the intensity is less stressful.

Without exception, the eunuchs I have interviewed seem to have less stress in their lives. The brief note ( http://www.eunuch.org/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=6090) that I posted in celebration of Terry’s first anniversary of his castration makes reference to this. Skopztikov, in his posting on this thread notes that his castration did nothing to curb his

interest and passion for life or any o

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ve been passionate, especially music, music and more music.

Sag111 notes that, while his overactive libido is much reduced, he spends a lot more time cuddling and that his love for others is much greater now. Several of my interviewees have made the same comment.

Tom Carpenter, in a very long and very articulate autobiography ( http://www.eunuch.org/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=6066) that he posted on the Story Idea Board [definitely the wrong place for it] notes that:

I still get mad, I just don’t get mean.

I still laugh, just a little more often.

I still cry, just a little more easily.

I still Love, just a little more intimately.

[Christina (imported)]

I would have to say that castration has removed the emotional "blinders" that has driven me all these years. Although the sexual drive has deminished, it has allowed me to focus more on other aspects of my being that I had never really had the pleasure of enjoying. Some will call this the eunuch calm, I call it being in touch with one's self and surroundings.

I still experience the emotions I had before, although now I can give thought to these emotions and how they make me feel in greater detail. Before all of this happened, it was hard to focus on anything but the the feelings of sexual pleasures. Now that it is no longer in control me, I find myself feeling more like a well rounded person emotionally.

[polecat (imported)]

Thank you so much! Your replies are quite heartening. Hmm... polecat = one word... not a cat, nor a cat on a pole, nor a cat with a pole c.c Just to clear that up. Is a must! (elid)

Marsha: Not sure what a 36B is, but 145 is darned skinny for 5'11". Be healthy is all I could advise!

depoboy: Thanks, you definitely hit the mark on my question. ^.^

all the rest: Wow, sounds like just the sort of thing I'm looking for. I do have to think about it for a bit... I have no insurance or job, so can't try out the hormones or anything, even if there were a willing doctor. Amazing how life can fall apart sometimes... but one strives to keep up the good spirits and be cheerful about what little future we've got left. u.u