Can a Eunuch be a husband?

[joel914 (imported)]

Can a husband be a eunuch? Obviously they can, but I have a more specific question.

I am just tired of being constantly controlled and obsessed with sex. I want to stop that run away train that is my mind.

So after many years (decades) I went to a Doctor, a Psychiatrist then also an Endocrinologist working with the Psychiatrist. Over the last year I have tried several (many) medications to reduce T. Currently I am taking 140 MG per day Prozac (a VERY high dose, but with Doctors approval). Nothing helped very much. My entire life is being ruined by the run away obsessions with sex.

Finally the Doctor gave me Depo Provera injections (his nurse did). I took one injection then waited too long (3 months) for the next one. It did some good, but not NEAR what I had hoped. T level went from 450 to 125, but desire and obsession level dropped only a little. I plan to start using Depo every month (through Doctor). Hopefully there will be a cumulative level after a few months. The doctor does not want to allow more than 150 MG per month.

QUESTION:

If a man is chemically or surgically castrated, is it possible to still occasionally have normal sexual relations with his wife? I mean just at a minimal level for me and would not expect any climax on my part. It would just be once a month or even less.

Obviously it takes awhile for castration to be 100% effective, but it sounds like impotence is almost 99% guaranteed in just a few months.

Could a T injection or a T patch be combined with Viagra to allow normal sex as needed?

How long would the T take to be effective enough? Would sex be possible in a few hours, or would it have to be days?

Afterwards, how soon would the T level go back down? Obviously I do NOT want the T level to remain high since that puts me back in the same crazy situation I am in now.

SO, can a husband be a Eunuch and still occasionally provide normal sex for his wife?

[Leona Lee (imported)]

Hey Joe,As you found out,Prozac does nothing.Originally that's what was prescribed to me.Depo is what most of the folk's here do.I went for Premarin first then added depo and anti-androgens.You need to talk this over with your wife or maybe you have.

I've been on this routine for 3 years.I could care less about sex and I'm enjoying my fem side.Surgical castration is permanent.Chem cast is slower and you can stop when you want and go back.You can check my post's and pick up some idea's.All of us have a story and are happy to help.That's what this site is all about.If you want hormones on your own,private message me and I'll tell you where I get mine.LOL,Leona Lee It is true I have other issues.

[SplitDik (imported)]

I think people should try SSRI anti-depressants (like Prozac) before anti-androgens. SSRI worked great for me (I used Celexa). My sex drive dropped within two days of my first dose. Basically, reduced libido is considered a side effect of SSRIs and affects about 10% of users. So it is worth a try, for one in ten will be lucky like me and can avoid the more serious medical intervention of anti-androgens.

[JesusA (imported)]

To get back to the original question, there is far more to a successful and happy marriage than just sex. And, there is far more interesting variation in sex than simple “missionary position”. In fact, inability to perform missionary style may open you up to far more interesting experimentation and to new pleasures for both of you.

What is really needed is for you and your partner to be more open about what it is that you want out of marriage. How important is sex to both of you. I would assume from what you write that both of you want some, but that other aspects of marriage are very important as well. Maybe much more important than sex.

Then, what kinds of sexual activity and exploration would be interesting and how often will you BOTH want them. The two of you need to work toward a compatibility that will probably be very different from that of your friends and neighbors.

If you are truly open and considerate of each other’s needs and desires, you are likely to be far happier than your friends and neighbors. Just different.

And, all of the above holds just as true whether or not you eventually decide to proceed with chemical and/or surgical castration. Explore ALL of your alternatives first. Make very certain of where both you and your partner want to go. Be certain that you fully understand the consequences of anything irrevokable that you do.

[surf_toad (imported)]

Just a footnote that goes to the wording of the origional question. It was often customary that the lesser wives and concubines in a harem to marry their eunuchs. They were likely to only have sex once a year and were deprived of the companionship that went with it. As Jesus just mentioned, the relationships with these women and their eunuchs were certainly not of the typical sexual nature as these eunuchs tended to be pretty much nullo and were never going to get T if they were not.

In the Roman empire, the royal women saught out the fresh eunuchs, as for about 6 weeks to 6 months (this is rare) a eunuch could achieve an errection, but seldome could climax and if that did happen, it would take about 40 minutes. How could they ever go back to a man after that?

well that's your historical perspective from a wannabe who has no personal knowledge of the afterlife. If you like your sex now and just feel it rules you too much, get a chastity belt and give her the key.

[ALLREADYDONE (imported)]

You best be letting someone else service the wife after a month or so. You most likely will be unable to acheive errection nor will it matter a whole lot. Castration works, and you cannot turn it on and off. When most women get aroused they want it now and expect you to be able to respond. I would expect if your wife likes sex she will find it.

[sag111 (imported)]

Yes we can and are i have been married now for 37 years and as of this June am a eunuch and my wife and i are very happy now.You know it dosent take sex to make a good marrage and relationship i know it helps but when sex has rulled our life and damaged our relationships it then becomes a hinderance not a blessing.

And yes their are other ways to enjoy your mate.

[bullgeo (imported)]

Can a husband be a eunuch? Obviously they can, but I have a more specific question.

I am just tired of being constantly controlled and obsessed with sex. I want to stop that run away train that is my mind.

So after many years (decades) I went to a Doctor, a Psychiatrist then also an Endocrinologist working with the Psychiatrist. Over the last year I have tried several (many) medications to reduce T. Currently I am taking 140 MG per day Prozac (a VERY high dose, but with Doctors approval). Nothing helped very much. My entire life is being ruined by the run away obsessions with sex.

Finally the Doctor gave me Depo Provera injections (his nurse did). I took one injection then waited too long (3 months) for the next one. It did some good, but not NEAR what I had hoped. T level went from 450 to 125, but desire and obsession level dropped only a little. I plan to start using Depo every month (through Doctor). Hopefully there will be a cumulative level after a few months. The doctor does not want to allow more than 150 MG per month.

QUESTION:

If a man is chemically or surgically castrated, is it possible to still occasionally have normal sexual relations with his wife? I mean just at a minimal level for me and would not expect any climax on my part. It would just be once a month or even less.

Obviously it takes awhile for castration to be 100% effective, but it sounds like impotence is almost 99% guaranteed in just a few months.

Could a T injection or a T patch be combined with Viagra to allow normal sex as needed?

How long would the T take to be effective enough? Would sex be possible in a few hours, or would it have to be days?

Afterwards, how soon would the T level go back down? Obviously I do NOT want the T level to remain high since that puts me back in the same crazy situation I am in now.

SO, can a husband be a Eunuch and still occasionally provide normal sex for his wife?

My wife says oral sex is good, she has an orgasm without a penis so why should I get testosterone? She tells me when she is horney...

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[Shantase (imported)]

Hi Joel, I have been without testosterone now for over four years. I was castrated and with my wife for over a year before my transition and SRS. During this time we continued to have great sex and I would be able to get erect and satisfy her as often as once per day but more often than not it was every three or four days. I give credit to a positive attitude about my ability to function. During this time I was also on large dosages (5mg) of premarine for my breast development. Since my SRS I still enjoy having an orgasm at least once or twice a week. I only take estradiol now but experimented with taking a small bit of testosterone as prescribed by my DR. and it caused me to return to the male pattern of feeling "need" to masturbate instead of chosing when I would like to enjoy a pleasant orgasm. My orgasms are just as strong as they ever were but last a little longer now. I ejaculate only a small amount though which is not hardly enough to wet the lips of my labia so don't expect to continue if you choose to become a eunuch. Hopefully that is not a big part of your wife's excitement! Good luck and remember; our most important sex organ is between our ears!