becoming a eunuch

[OneBallBoi (imported)]

I support you in becoming a Eunuch and the stands you have to take. There are things in our lives that we have to do but are not fun. Keep a smile and stay positive Phil.. You did the right thing in becoming a Eunuch. In time your parents wil understand.

[Robby (imported)]

There are things in life you wish you could have avoided doing and perhaps never even considder but you HAD TO DO THEM. I ran into one of those on Friday. I finaly told my parents something I felt I had to tell them ( the fact that I'm a Eunuch). At first they were a little shocked and then they kind of acted like it never happened. Saturday night

I'm scared I will have to cut ties with them but I hope I don't. This drama is going to be an on going thing for a while

so bear with me Phillip,

Welcome to Eunuch world. You will find there are times and places where we feel free to discuss our personal conditions/situations without consequences. You my friend, found this uncomfortable position first hand with close loved ones.

Upon completion of the final cut, you entered a place in life I call 'Middle World'. Most humans on Earth will not warm up to you or your circumstance as a member of 'Middle World'. That is okay if you understand they have personal needs just as you had/have personal needs in seeking castration. Remember, people don't and won't understand your desire for castration. Don't expect them to be supportive of your personal choice, it won't happen 80-90 percent of the time. After all, you are still the same warm, compassionate man you were before cutting off your testicles. Be okay with that and experience life for all it has to offer.

It won't be long before you realize you're ready to leave 'Middle World'. Your maturation process depends heavily on your understanding of the people around you in regards to castration. Your experience in 'Middle World' will be invaluable. Please keep us posted on your progress.

Take care my fellow Eunuch...

[JeffEunuch (imported)]

There are things in life you wish you could have avoided doing and perhaps never even considder but you HAD TO DO THEM. I ran into one of those on Friday. I finaly told my parents something I felt I had to tell them ( the fact that I'm a Eunuch). At first they were a little shocked and then they kind of acted like it never happened. Saturday night My mom called up and said some very hurtfull things and told me some things she thought were facts that were total fiction about the effects of castration. I was polite and calmly tried to set things straight but I couldn't get a word in so after all the ranting I said my good byes and hung up. That night was the worst night of my life but with help from some extremely close and not so close (miles wise) friends I am no longer upset. However I have decided that I should not be in comunication with my parents for a while so they can cool down and perhaps get a grip on reality.....

While I'm open about being ballless in the sense that I remain the nudist I was before my balls were harvested and am thus not shy about exhibiting my ballless crotch, I have discovered that one often cannot be totally up front about having followed through on a fixation to become castrated. It's likely not a lot different than telling people that one's a transsexual, and I know from being having been an acquaintance of a few transsexual people that theirs is a very unfortunate lot when it comes to being intimate with others if and when they commence transitioning. Cross dressers also have similar if less intense difficulties in talking to those not familiar with their motivations and the satisfaction they might receive from being in drag. While upwards to 5-6% of men may be gay and many others are bi and most str8s know someone intimately that's gay, the number of men w/o balls is only a very small fraction of this, and many unitiated just don't understand. This goes especially for parents and relatives.

This even goes for one's general medical practicioner. While mine now treats me as just a guy that may have special needs related to the fact I'm ballless, he was shocked the first time I told him as a new patient that I was ballless. I've since learned that the gay clinic to which he's attached has as many as 10 eunuch patients. We're treated just as guys w/o balls.

And in my case I'm not certain I should describe myself as a 'eunuch.' My identity remains more that of a gay man. I'm receiving HRT. I remain sexually active. I'm just a guy w/o balls. I can discuss how I became that way w/ some people, but not w/ many others.

You're correct to allow time for them to cool off. You may even have been surprised at your mum's response because she'd already accepted the fact that you're gay. I can understand why you felt a need to tell them at this time. You'd just succeeded in completing your trip to balllessness and eunuchhood.

[bub (imported)]

You're correct to allow time for them to cool off. You may even have been surprised at your mum's response because she'd already accepted the fact that you're gay. I can understand why you felt a need to tell them at this time. You'd just succeeded in completing your trip to balllessness and eunuchhood.

Just to clarify, Phil is not gay. He has always been non-sexual and now his body and hormones match the person who's always been inside.

Yes, we are each other's soulmate. We complete and truly love each other for the people we are, not our gender or lack thereof. What we have is pure and unconditional; something the vast majority of people of any sexual orientation wish they might have themselves. Fortunately what we have is not based on lust/sex and never has been nor will be for that would only ruin things that are so incredibly great now.

It pains me deeply the hurt and sorrow Phil is experiencing from this situation. My experiences with my "parents" has left us not speaking in over 12 years, and that's preferable for me. Phil loves his family and shared the fact that he is now happy for the first time in life as a Eunuch with them because he cares and wants them to understand and be happy for him. One can only hope they come around and accept him for the person he's always been, nothing has changed except his hormone levels and a few dangly bits are now gone. He's the same wonderful person he's always been, only better for the lack of testosterone.

We will get through this and the other challenges we may face in life no matter the results.

[philip1 (imported)]

Thanks everybody for your support and Bub thank you for being such a great and close friend. There is a long and difficult path ahead of me and I don't know exactly where it leads but with this kind of support I will survive the passage.

thanks again everyone for the support and encouragement I really need it

[DrewR (imported)]

Phil and Bubba,

Damn about Phil's mom, but don't lose perspective. Now for the first time without testicles you can truely be yourselves and live the dream. And don't forget that other eunuchs and guys like me who love eunuchs are understanding and supportive.

Drew

[sheep79 (imported)]

Phil Iam sorry that your mom is taking it so hard, just please leave the lines of comunication open. dave

[sag111 (imported)]

Phill if you feel as i do you are so happy to finaly get this behind you and be the person you always felt you should be you want to tell the world.I to have regertted telling some people but unlike you i am not brave enough to tell my family you see my family would never understand and would just make fun of me and laugh behind and in front of me.Some things we do in life we need to just keep to ourselves but i know you made the right decission and after they cool off maybe you can have a long lunch with them and get this matter behind you.Phill you are such a wonderful person i just hate to see you have to go through this but remember we all love you and do call me if you need to talk and i am counting the days until i get to meet you this summer .

Take care son

[philip1 (imported)]

1 week 3 days post op and I am healing supprisingly fast the incision to remove my scrotum i would guess is 5-6 inches long and there is kniting the full length. My soule mate Bubba is healing almost as fast which is a huge releif to both of us and we hope to get these @#$%$&^* stitches out soon. I will keep everyone posted on how things are going both health wise and with my family. thanks for the Love and support everyone

[Sunny (imported)]

I'm sorry to hear that things became difficult for you and your family. I hope it all works out for you hon. I'm delighted to hear that you and Bubba are healing quickly. That's wonderful. So, uhh, keep it up, and take care of yourselves, ok?